What should I do regarding my “straight” best friend?

[GtB70]

If you aren’t caught up in my situation please read my previous thread I made about it


Thread 'Help me figure out if my best friend is gay or not'
Help me figure out if my best friend is gay or not

here’s a brief summary:

My best friend claims to be straight and is currently dating a girl. But we have done some pretty erotic or suspect things together that makes me question if he truly is 100% straight.

So my question now is should I stop wondering if my best friend is gay and accept him as straight and try and retain our normal friendship?

or should I try and push to see if he’ll actually take it to the next level?

 

[LilBigWang]

i suggest just let it happen. Next time he suggest something, like has already has. Dont say anything just do it. Also, dont catch feelings for him. It may be a 1 time thing or it may keep happening, but the moment you want to sit and talk with him, it will proyl ruin everything. No labels, no strings, no feelings. Just be in the moment and after it happens, dont talk about it

 

[GtB70]

i suggest just let it happen. Next time he suggest something, like has already has. Dont say anything just do it. Also, dont catch feelings for him. It may be a 1 time thing or it may keep happening, but the moment you want to sit and talk with him, it will proyl ruin everything. No labels, no strings, no feelings. Just be in the moment and after it happens, dont talk about it

Too late on the feelings part sadly. But I think I have begun to get rid of them atleast. They aren’t as crippling anymore. But you’re probably right about the in the moment thing

 

[Magnolia121]

What’s the next opportunity you’ll have? Are you able to suggest something?

Maybe you can jerk off together again and you can offer to help him out. If he accepts you can take that as a signal to pursue more?

It sounds like you might not be interested in having sex. Do you know what you want to do with him?

 

[GtB70]

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What’s the next opportunity you’ll have? Are you able to suggest something?

Maybe you can jerk off together again and you can offer to help him out. If he accepts you can take that as a signal to pursue more?

It sounds like you might not be interested in having sex. Do you know what you want to do with him?

I’ve never actually had any thoughts about doing something with another guy until this and honestly am not really sure what I want. Being fucked doesn’t seem to interest me and I’m pretty hesitant on sucking dick but I could probably be worked up to it. Honestly fucking him sounds pretty hot but I doubt that would be something feasible even tho he does like to finger himself. It would honestly have to be an in the moment decision I guess

 

[GtB70]

What’s the next opportunity you’ll have? Are you able to suggest something?

Maybe you can jerk off together again and you can offer to help him out. If he accepts you can take that as a signal to pursue more?

It sounds like you might not be interested in having sex. Do you know what you want to do with him?

In terms of an opportunity I suggested he cook me my favorite meal as he is an excellent cook and I’ve been desperate to have him cook for me again. and in turn I said I’d do whatever he said for 24 hours Lmfaoo. Strange I know but if he was ever willing to do something or have me do something to him I feel like this would make a good opportunity

 

[Magnolia121]

The whole situation is just so homoerotic that it feels clear to me that he wants to be sexual with you. He just might not have fully accepted that because he’s probably trying to figure himself out just like you are. Or is maybe even trying to reject what he wants and find a more acceptable way to get it.

I’m curious what he’ll ask you to do in those 24 hours. When is that?

 

[GtB70]

The whole situation is just so homoerotic that it feels clear to me that he wants to be sexual with you. He just might not have fully accepted that because he’s probably trying to figure himself out just like you are. Or is maybe even trying to reject what he wants and find a more acceptable way to get it.

I’m curious what he’ll ask you to do in those 24 hours. When is that?

Probably next weekend as we’re both slammed with work rn. He said it’s a deal if he is able to call me his “cuck” which I told him doesn’t make sense as I don’t have a gf right now so how would he be able to cuckold me? Lol
to which he replied “don’t worry about that” so I guess we’ll see

 

[meatymuscle]

If you aren’t caught up in my situation please read my previous thread I made about it


Thread 'Help me figure out if my best friend is gay or not'
Help me figure out if my best friend is gay or not

here’s a brief summary:

My best friend claims to be straight and is currently dating a girl. But we have done some pretty erotic or suspect things together that makes me question if he truly is 100% straight.

So my question now is should I stop wondering if my best friend is gay and accept him as straight and try and retain our normal friendship?

or should I try and push to see if he’ll actually take it to the next level?

You answered yourself within what you wrote:
1. twice you tell us he is your best friend.
2. you associate (correctly) that best friends ACCEPT eachother as is.

 

[GtB70]

You answered yourself within what you wrote:
1. twice you tell us he is your best friend.
2. you associate (correctly) that best friends ACCEPT eachother as is.

What I’m trying to figure out is what he actually is. Is he straight and just seems to do all these homoerotic things or is he something more?

 

[malakos]

Having read the previous thread, I know that you actually already did sexually proposition him, and he refused your advances entirely when you did, so I can't imagine what sense there would be in attempting again, especially since the last attempt is probably one of the causes of the subsequent strained condition of your friendship.

Then again, if you don't want to listen to reason and instead just want to keep pressing until you finally push him out of your life entirely, on antagonistic terms, I suppose that's your prerogative.

 

[GtB70]

Having read the previous thread, I know that you actually already did sexually proposition him, and he refused your advances entirely when you did, so I can't imagine what sense there would be in attempting again, especially since the last attempt is probably one of the causes of the subsequent strained condition of your friendship.

Then again, if you don't want to listen to reason and instead just want to keep pressing until you finally push him out of your life entirely, on antagonistic terms, I suppose that's your prerogative.

What would be your suggestion?

 

[malakos]

What would be your suggestion?

It depends on what you want out of the relationship: whether you're chiefly interested in remaining his friend, or in getting him into bed, or developing a romantic relationship with him. There is a difference in the absolute likelihood of each of these happening regardless of what you do (remaining his friend naturally is the one you'd most likely be able to pull off), but if you're only interested in one or another of them, a different approach will be called for than if your interest were another.

 

[NYC8"]

"You're making that grin you usually do right before you ask me for a handjob. If that's what you're thinking of, I'm up for it, unless you had something else in mind."

 

[bigboaster]

15 people picking option 3 says a lot. Smh.

 

[noname10]

You already shoot your shot, maybe unintentionally, but regardless, you how it made him feel. Also, “id do whatever you want for 24hours?” its giving “ask anything until you ask me what I actually wanted you to ask” vibes. To me, it feels reaching. But hey, if he did eventually get to that request, maybe slow down a little as to not give away your desperation cause bruh I can feel it from miles away. maybe say “are you sure? cause i’ll do it”

 

[deleted19592801]

Maybe I missed it, but I’m confused as to why nobody has asked how old you two are yet. You both look young in the videos, like 18-20 or so. When I was that age, it was the “do whatever I want” time in my life so I feel like your friend feels the same way and is thinking this is the only time he’ll be able to do gay stuff and still feel straight at the end of the day because he’s just being goofy.

You should let him know that it’s not coming off that way to you. Trust me, it’s better to keep the friendship then desperately hunt for a fuck that might never happen! And he could end up finding you a guy to be with anyway since you two are close enough to do this kind of stuff together. There are a ton of guys out there. Just speaking from experience

 

[malakos]

15 people picking option 3 says a lot. Smh.

This is just how LPSG is, and has been for at least the last few years. The apparent dominant demographic is excessively horny gay men who have little to no scruples when it comes to getting their rocks off, and they promote others behaving the same way.

 

[michael_3165]

Jesus, just ask him!

"Just wondering, are you bi? Cos we've done some pretty not straight stuff".

Stop going around the houses.

I'm a tad uneasy that a fair number are saying take it sexual. Didn't the guy rebuff a come on once before? Lads come on, understand boundaries. It isn't all about getting shagged.

 

[NYC8"]

The friend told OP "When you were blackout drunk, you started talking about us having sex, guess you don't remember that, huh?" Same friend has demanded and received handjobs from OP, told OP to use sex toys while friend stroked him, sent OP dickpics with smiley face emojis on them, etc. I am skeptical that OP actually made a pass, drunk or otherwise.