what's wrong with me

[zachhhy87]

my step brother raped me when i was young, and now i'm only into super aggressive hard sex.

 

[HJ666]

There is nothing wrong with you, you are not to blame for what happened; you can either embrace who you are and acknowledge your preferences regarding sex, as long as they don't harm you; or you can choose to work on aspects you wish to change, always with the help of a professional or trustworthy information.

It's important to acknowledge the seriousness of your experience, be kind to yourself and understand that letting go is necessary for growth, clinging to it will only hinder your progress. It may be tough, but it is within your reach, trust me on this.

 

[Brodie888]

You seem to believe that the two things are connected when it is likely that it is not the case.

 

[HJ666]

You seem to believe that the two things are connected when it is likely that it is not the case.

In general never use gaslighting, but certainly not when someone tells you about abuse-related trauma, just don't, don't.

 

[Brodie888]

In general never use gaslighting, but certainly not when someone tells you about abuse-related trauma, just don't, don't.

Not gaslighting. Not even commenting on his trauma.

I am just pointing out that the two things might not be associated based on the information provided.

Lots of people like rough sex and it has nothing to do with previous abuse experiences.

It would be more damaging to believe something you enjoy is because of something bad, than to realize that they may not be associated.

Some have tried to link orientation to abuse and that is also misguided.

 

[HungBtmVegas]

Not gaslighting. Not even commenting on his trauma.

I am just pointing out that the two things might not be associated based on the information provided.

Lots of people like rough sex and it has nothing to do with previous abuse experiences.

It would be more damaging to believe something you enjoy is because of something bad, than to realize that they may not be associated.

Some have tried to link orientation to abuse and that is also misguided.

I get the foundation of what you're saying, but tone of your wording came off as condescending.

 

[Brodie888]

I get the foundation of what you're saying, but tone of your wording came off as condescending.

Not the intention. Text is without intonation so can be prone to misinterpretation.