When Harry Met Sally

[21512181]

Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.

first it is my favourite Movie, except of course for every Marilyn Monroe Movies! So here first some fun Quotes from the movie:


"I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible." -Harry's epic declaration of love - Well unfortunately, no man told me things like that ever...........

"You see? That is just like you, Harry. You say things like that, and you make it impossible for me to hate you." - Sally after Harry's declaration of love - Nothing else to say to this statement!


"Nothing. Its just that all men are sure it never happened to them and all women at one time or other have done it so you do the math." -Sally on faking orgasms - And again, so true and honest!

"I'll have what she's having." -Rob Reiner's mother reacting to Sally's faked orgasm - yes please!

"Baby fish mouth!" -The best Pictionary guess ever courtesy of Jess - Nothing else to say, to games!


and here the Quote and the Question my straight sexy friends:

Harry: You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry: Guess not.
Sally: That's too bad. You were the only person that I knew in New York.




So my dear Men, is that so? We can't be friends, has Harry right? I hope you will find the time to tell me. Obviously we met, on this Sex Site, so there is a lot of erotic and naked body and sex here. Does this absolutely make us to no friends only sexual attracted people?

 

[longstroke7]

I absolutely believe that men and women can be platonic friends. But i can only speak for myself. I have women in my life who i find attractive but have no interest in crossing the line with.

I also think that sexual attraction is just that, and is a separate thing from romance (for the record, I'm aromantic...i am very sexually attracted to women, but the idea of romance makes me very anxious and depressed. I prefer no strings attached).

 

[21512181]

I absolutely believe that men and women can be platonic friends. But i can only speak for myself. I have women in my life who i find attractive but have no interest in crossing the line with.

I also think that sexual attraction is just that, and is a separate thing from romance (for the record, I'm aromantic...i am very sexually attracted to women, but the idea of romance makes me very anxious and depressed. I prefer no strings attached).

Hey my Sweetheart

thank You so much for your honesty! That’s great to know, even it means my dream man Harry isn’t right!

oh well I tell you hun, lot of people here feel Like you, me too! Better not in a relationship!

 

[lapdog2001]

Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.

So my dear Men, is that so? We can't be friends, has Harry right? I hope you will find the time to tell me. Obviously we met, on this Sex Site, so there is a lot of erotic and naked body and sex here. Does this absolutely make us to no friends only sexual attracted people?

I tend to agree with Harry, in general. I've had many woman friends over the years and yes, the vast majority of them I was attracted to in some way, some outright physical attraction, some due to things in common, wonderful personalities , etc. and combinations of all of the above.

Once had a relationship where I was 'friend zoned' by a woman I was very attracted to, which turned into a close friendship. Close enough where some people thought we we married or in a romantic relationship, even though there was no romantic things like holding hands or anything outward to indicate we were a romantic couple. After a year, I did give her a kiss goodnight, which was well received so I continued to kiss her. That quickly led to lots of foreplay and then sex. That relationship lasted on and off for many years.

Other than that one time, nothing has ever happened between me and any female friend. Was I attracted to most of them in some way? yes. Would I/did I ever act on it? No, as it would have been inappropriate.

 

[21512181]

I tend to agree with Harry, in general. I've had many woman friends over the years and yes, the vast majority of them I was attracted to in some way, some outright physical attraction, some due to things in common, wonderful personalities , etc. and combinations of all of the above.

Once had a relationship where I was 'friend zoned' by a woman I was very attracted to, which turned into a close friendship. Close enough where some people thought we we married or in a romantic relationship, even though there was no romantic things like holding hands or anything outward to indicate we were a romantic couple. After a year, I did give her a kiss goodnight, which was well received so I continued to kiss her. That quickly led to lots of foreplay and then sex. That relationship lasted on and off for many years.

Other than that one time, nothing has ever happened between me and any female friend. Was I attracted to most of them in some way? yes. Would I/did I ever act on it? No, as it would have been inappropriate.

Oh thank You dear, I am can understand why men are like Harry, it is easier only have sex then do a relationship, but also a good friendship is important

 

[deleted23559261]

Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.

first it is my favourite Movie, except of course for every Marilyn Monroe Movies! So here first some fun Quotes from the movie:


"I love that you get cold when it's 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you're looking at me like I'm nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it's not because I'm lonely, and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible." -Harry's epic declaration of love - Well unfortunately, no man told me things like that ever...........

"You see? That is just like you, Harry. You say things like that, and you make it impossible for me to hate you." - Sally after Harry's declaration of love - Nothing else to say to this statement!


"Nothing. Its just that all men are sure it never happened to them and all women at one time or other have done it so you do the math." -Sally on faking orgasms - And again, so true and honest!

"I'll have what she's having." -Rob Reiner's mother reacting to Sally's faked orgasm - yes please!

"Baby fish mouth!" -The best Pictionary guess ever courtesy of Jess - Nothing else to say, to games!


and here the Quote and the Question my straight sexy friends:

Harry: You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: No you don't.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry: Guess not.
Sally: That's too bad. You were the only person that I knew in New York.




So my dear Men, is that so? We can't be friends, has Harry right? I hope you will find the time to tell me. Obviously we met, on this Sex Site, so there is a lot of erotic and naked body and sex here. Does this absolutely make us to no friends only sexual attracted people?

Hey!! Do you remember me? We used to talk a bunch

 

[ronin001]

Why cant men and women become friends / be friends even if there is a sexual part of their relationship
As the OP chose a movie to make her point, I will choose the small screen

Seinfeld : Jerry and Elaine dated and had a sexual relationship and became the closest of friends after it was over

But it's always been clear that Jerry and Elaine still harbored feelings for each other even if they were too stubborn to admit it. Neither of them was capable of being in a healthy relationship, but around each other, they could truly be themselves

 

[21512181]

Hey!! Do you remember me? We used to talk a bunch

Of course I do, i tried to stay in contact babe

 

[21512181]

Why cant men and women become friends / be friends even if there is a sexual part of their relationship
As the OP chose a movie to make her point, I will choose the small screen

Seinfeld : Jerry and Elaine dated and had a sexual relationship and became the closest of friends after it was over

But it's always been clear that Jerry and Elaine still harbored feelings for each other even if they were too stubborn to admit it. Neither of them was capable of being in a healthy relationship, but around each other, they could truly be themselves

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Ok I admit, I never watched Seinfeld please don't hate me for that.

It seems, sex comes between them still when it was over.

 

[Sagittarius84]

I don't think platonic friendship and sexual attraction are inherently mutually exclusive for men, but I do think that on average most women are unwilling or unequipped to be platonic friends with men in the same way men tend to be platonic friends with one another. I don't think it's necessarily intentional, but I think a lot of the dynamics of opposite sex platonic friendships fall into gendered roles, wherein the women find themselves getting a similar sense of emotional, protective, and socioeconomic fulfillment that they would normally glean from a relationship, but without having to provide sexual/romantic intimacy, or without being restricted from seeking that intimacy from other parties..
At a certain point I think a lot of men see their friendship with an attractive woman looks less like a friendship he'd have with a guy and more like him fulfilling the less fun slots of a figurative polyandrous harem.
On the other side of the coin, I think a lot of attractive women inadvertently overinflate their value as a friend from a male perspective and underestimate the cost their presence often imposes upon men in their vicinity.
The platonic relationships between men and attractive women that I've observed withstand the test of time and opportunity typically have the woman be such a platonic benefit that him acting on his attraction would ruin other aspects of his life...meaning, she's gotten him an awesome job, or she's a reliable and accurate wingman, or she's helped him boost his status in some palpable way.

 

[SamMann75]

For the love of all that is holy can we please stop with this. Harry already answered it and you ALL have it wrong.

"Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her."

A man CAN just be friends with a woman as long as he doesn't find her attractive. HARRY has already qualified the statement.

 

[longstroke7]

For the love of all that is holy can we please stop with this. Harry already answered it and you ALL have it wrong.

"Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her."

A man CAN just be friends with a woman as long as he doesn't find her attractive. HARRY has already qualified the statement.

I think even if you find someone attractive, if boundaries are made clear you can still maintain some level of friendship. Obviously, if feelings are involved, it's best to put a healthy distance in between the two of you.

Not every urge or feeling needs to be acted upon. I come across a lot of women I'd fuck, but that doesn't mean i couldn't be a platonic friend to them.

 

[figgnewton]

I absolutely believe that men and women can be platonic friends. But i can only speak for myself. I have women in my life who i find attractive but have no interest in crossing the line with.

I also think that sexual attraction is just that, and is a separate thing from romance (for the record, I'm aromantic...i am very sexually attracted to women, but the idea of romance makes me very anxious and depressed. I prefer no strings attached).

I know a few friends ( male ) and they live on there own but has a woman that he sees and they only see each other but live separately . They are happy ,do things together, both see others families and of course probably good sex. Absent makes the heart grow fonder and Horner. Marriage can be complicated but so is life. I know a few woman on a professional level good friends but alas at times I think of them sexually. I'd never confront them in any way In a sexual manner because I care about them and our friendship. I'm a guy and think that's a normal instinct that men have thoughts of sex as long as it's in check. I value my friendship with them and they have never tried to flirt etc with me. I could list examples but I think you all understand , you can chat, tell jokes, even confide in some issues. A woman friend is far different than a man friend and it's always good to get a woman's point of view. Yeah woman can have issues but that's the ying and yang of things.

 

[figgnewton]

" Harry: What I'm saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way." That said it all ! Sally doesn't want anything to do with sex period. It's here choice so what's the problem? Some woman use sex to get married and children and it's over and yes some guys are assholes. Hey it's only a movie.