When Your Child Confides In You That They Feel They May Be Asexual

[Nosuportneeded]

My kids are grown and we have great communication. I’m highly sexual and want to understand them as much as possible. Obviously this is foreign to me. How do I understand them and their asexuality without asking a thousand questions? What do I need to keep in mind to be a good dad? I definitely know not to push or act concerned, and I’m not. I just want be as understanding as possible if they talk about it

 

[Scarletbegonia]

First, how cool is it that you child will confide in you.
Secondly, do some research on your own, and ask what sites they are reading. It’s ok to ask for term clarification.
Heck, I’m still clarifying!
Ask if this means they eschew dating, or if they seek companionship. Plan holidays accordingly.

For offspring of majority age, just love them as they are.
For offspring still growing, just love them as they are. And be happy the usual parental concerns are lighter.

 

[Nosuportneeded]

Thanks. Yeah. We discuss. I feel very lucky

This is just another little facet of my *air quotes* research. ‘Preciatcha

 

[Guy-jin]

It’s hard to give advice about this. That said, it’s great that they have realized this about themself and that they were able to be open about it with you.

I’d say be supportive as you can. Don’t pressure them to couple with someone.

One thing you might talk to them about is where they think they fall on the sexual spectrum. You might want to go do some research on that spectrum yourself to help understand.

 

[Acrab69]

This may help:

http://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/94606-a-really-well-done-comic-on-asexuality

 

[andigazed]

This is definitely a hard one.........

I guess their health and well-being is priority number one.
Being there to listen and talk with them is the biggest key to success.

Just remember you can’t “fix” this because they aren’t broken. Try to be fluid.

I have young children and can sympathise with your worries. It’s not something you want for your children but they will be fine with the love and support from their family.

Stop it. Your shit is not believed. Go back to the drawing board.