Why is being a "size queen" viewed as problematic?

[kronos]

I never got why so many women I've met feel like they can't be honest about this. It's just a preference, just like being more attracted to big butts on women can be a preference, and usually there's an understanding that almost nobody chooses a partner solely because of bodytype preferences. But it can be a deciding factor and most people have a bit of shallowness like that and honesty is always healthy, right? But I've know a few women who have ONLY dated hung guys and swear up and down there's nothing to it and it's all about personality for them. With all due respect, actions speak louder than words sometimes, lol. Is there a reason why it would be considered more socially acceptable to be disingenuous about having size preferences, more taboo to admit to having body type preferences as a women? Is it fear of being insulted or socially chastised (mostly by insecure men)?

 

[MickeyLee]

*sigh* most women do not select their sexual partners by penis size. with a few statistical outliers, the size queen is largely a male-driven fantasy.

 

[MickeyLee]

*sigh* It's always the two identical guys debate. That doesn't happen. There will never be carbon copy clones with penial divergency.

When women talk, listen to what they say and believe them. It's very insulting otherwise.

 

[Holly Doors]

I don't mind admitting I prefer bigger penises, for me it's all about being truly satisfied sexualy. I'm married to a very well endowed man but there's a whole world of other reasons why he's the one for me.
Do I mind being branded a size queen?
No, I don't give a fuck what people think or say Lol, this is 2018 I'm very open minded, I have no issues with people knowing I like big fat dicks Lol

 

[Scarletbegonia]

*sigh* most women do not select their sexual partners by penis size. with a few statistical outliers, the size queen is largely a male-driven fantasy.

This. Read it again.

Plus size queen is a reference to gay men with preferences.
Says my size Queen roomie.

Here is a problem with the assumption of preference driving selection:
If a man or woman prefers large or small breasts or butts, those are quite visible in everyday clothing. Breasts are not in the grower or shower category.
A person has a general idea of breast or butt size prior to doing any deed, or any undressing.

This is not true of penis.

 

[MickeyLee]

Not to lots of men.

I seem to recall that way back when I first joined LPSG that some random dudes were duped by a real doll?

If a dude can't tell the difference between a sex doll and a woman it's not all surprising that dude can't spot shapewear.

 

[MickeyLee]

I have size preferences for dildos. Not people.

I think some people are dildos. I still don't like the massive dildos

 

[693987]

I have size preferences for dildos. Not people.

 

[MickeyLee]

I resemble that remark

*snicker* if i put batteries in your butt do you vibrate?
*apologizes for rubbish post*

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I don't like big dicks. I like practical sized dicks. You can do more with them.

 

[deleted924715]

I can only speak for myself, but penis size is soooooo after the fact. But then I don't hook up, so maybe that's a factor, who knows?

I wasn't going to share this, because it's not actually a question, the OP has already decided that women are lying but, a guy I dated and was head-over-heels in love with had myriad health issues. He didn't look it and was the tough-it-out type so things had got quite bad before he sought help for diabetes and hormonal issues. Once he felt ok he would be crap at managing it again. However, one of the side effects of this was irreversible ED. He actually did have a big dick, but it didn't work without injections.

He was honest about this really early on. But I was already in love with him. If we picked men out of a catalogue would I have picked a man with ED? Of course not. But thats not how it works. You get the whole package , not the 'package'. I was not going to choose another penis over him, I can hand on heart say that walking away didn't cross my mind.

For most women dick size is pretty irrelevant and not a deciding factor (unless someone is specifically looking for big dick hook ups) - like @LaFemme said, it's never micro vs massive. Most sizes can get the job done. If you know women who only date men with big dicks (have to confess I'm a little sceptical about how you know this) maybe those men are more confident - because *that* is certainly a draw and they specifically told you it was about personality

 

[rtg]

Because so many men are so driven by the size of their peen and seem to judge their self worth on such. I’ve lost count of the number of men who made some kind of statement about their size when it comes to intimacy. Most of it is out of insecurity so if I was so say “yeah, I’d prefer thicker” what good would that do? I’d also hate for a man to comment on the size of my breasts not being to his liking. It’s just common human decency to be respectful about physical features that one has no bearing over.

But at the end of the day it all comes down to how they use it anyway, regardless of size.

 

[LaFemme]

I seem to recall that way back when I first joined LPSG that some random dudes were duped by a real doll?

If a dude can't tell the difference between a sex doll and a woman it's not all surprising that dude can't spot shapewear.

I remember either that happening or hearing about! Of course some guys here still get fooled on the regular, so it doesn’t surprise me that they can spot some spanx and a wonder bra.

 

[LaFemme]

*sigh* It's always the two identical guys debate. That doesn't happen. There will never be carbon copy clones with penial divergency.

When women talk, listen to what they say and believe them. It's very insulting otherwise.

No such thing as identical men. And it’s not micro vs massive either. AND no one knows what size a man is until the attraction is long established. Ya get what ya get.

Now there are some size queens here - more men than women, but they do exist. Suss them out. They will offer opinions on choosing a mate with large dicks.

 

[deleted924715]

Most men I have dated have had light eyes. You can deduce nothing about my preferences by this because I am actually strongly attracted to the dark hair/dark eyes combo. It's just the way it worked out, all things considered.

You're barking up the wrong tree.

 

[286798]

I haven't experienced a peen that is statistically large. I'll be honest and say that I hope to at some point... because I don't bed someone who I'm not digging AS A PERSON so big would be a bonus. I also hope that he's tall and handsome and responsible with money and funny and.... I could keep going.

 

[deleted924715]

Doesn't really add up, does it?

What doesn't? That post is pretty insulting because you are dismissing what women IRL and here are telling you. All I can honestly see is your projection and trying to fit actions to what you have already decided is the case

I'm out. Hope you get the answer you want.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Really, I can't answer as a size queen because I'm truly not one, so I can't really answer your original question from that perspective. I can say this: having so many men throughout my life, not just on this site, assume or suggest that I must have a preference for larger dick because I mean... come on right?? Everyone likes bigger dicks.

If anything, it's the other way around. It's wrong to *not have a preference for big dick.

So yeah. That's where I'm coming from

 

[AlteredEgo]

But I've know a few women who have ONLY dated hung guys and swear up and down there's nothing to it and it's all about personality for them. With all due respect, actions speak louder than words sometimes, lol.

Men with small dicks have not often made themselves available to me. First two cocks I ever played with were about average. The next seven ranged from quite large to extremely large. Then there was one micropenis. Then a big, fat one. Then a small one.

Then an outrageously curvaceous one. Looked like bathroom plumbing. It hung on the only man I ever picked because of his penis. That thing was weird, and I wanted to try that novelty peen out. I spotted him on an amateur nudes site, recognized a landmark in a photo described as having been taken near his apartment, found a way to get in touch, and asked to smash. I forgot about him. Meh personality. Decent enough lay. With nothing in common, it fizzled very quickly.

Then a bunch of big ole swangin' dicks. Like, maybe 25 or 30 of them in a row. Then a mix of mostly large and average with two small ones tossed in. This was maybe another run of 20.

Then it slowed down as I returned to serial monogamy. All roughly average. One a little thin. One very thick.

Currently non-monogamous. Roster has changed during this period; always seeing at least two out of the four. Smallest penis hangs on the one I have the most fun talking to, and the best sexual chemistry. We will get back to him in a bit. The other three have big boners.

I am avoiding contact with one because he confuses me emotionally. He's fun in bed, but could definitely learn to better wield his long, thick erection. Eats like a starving champ, though. He just has made the boundaries too blurry. We were a monogamous couple, then we we're apart. Then back together. Then casual sex. I just leave him alone. If he calls I shoot him a text. I do not see him.

The other two have more meat than he does, both length and girth, but are comparable with each other. I have only ever encountered two penises larger than theirs.

One of them is saved by his cute face, sweet demeanor, and fun personality. He's really just an okay lay, but he's sexy and fun to be around. Sometimes I just want to hang out with him, but do not because he would expect sex. I really only sleep with him when I'm horny and nobody else is available. It's a lot of dick to have to deal with for just okay sex. It isn't bad sex. But it isn't great, either, and I'm pretty used to great.

The other is one of the best lays I have ever experienced. It's the best oral, for sure. He is very careful with his giant hard-on, and really a very intuitive lover. Plus, he takes me down a brand new YouTube rabbit hole every time I see him, and when adjusting my medication made me slightly (very) crazy (violent) one day, he followed me around and kept me out of trouble. THAT is a friend. And oh, how I laugh around him! He tickles my soul. He is ridiculous, and I love him. He lets himself be vulnerable emotionally with me. I appreciate and reciprocate that deep trust.

Still, my favorite is the smallest hung in the current bunch. He is packing about average. Maybe a wee little bit thinner than average. It fits great! He isn't the most skilled partner I ever had (not that his skills are poor), not the biggest or smallest, but the curve is perfect and the fit is flawless. During even our laziest, half-assed, drunk or stoned or almost asleep fucks, I come on his dick right away. There is also a strange allure we can both feel. Physically, I wouldn't describe him as my type. He looks like he skips leg day. I hate chicken legs. But the second I see him, I want him inside me. When he smiles I feel like I can't breathe unless I kiss him. I feel so drawn to him, and the feeling is mutual. He just... He sees me. Tou know? And once, we accidentally got pregnant. We had a spill due to careless condom use. We didn't know I was expecting, but when we would talk, he would tell me he was falling asleep at work. He is a raw vegan, but he would tell me he was eating fish (cooked fish!) every day, and didn't know why. Meanwhile I was drinking three or four energy drinks and a few cups of coffee, even smoking or using nicotine patches to stay awake through my own exhaustion, and eating many stacks of pancakes because I was craving my least favorite food, French toast. I don't eat pancakes (even if they are my favorite). I eat 25-50 net carbs per day. I am diabetic. I fall off, but mostly I stay on my wagon. We were both having bouts of vertigo. Then, my miscarriage taught us that we had conceived. We were both grief-stricken, and we were both relieved. We realized my pregnancy had given us both symptoms. The only thing we didn't share was he gained weight (mine stayed almost the same despite eating everything not locked away) and my breasts were very tender and swollen. There is a connection we both feel, and our lost pregnancy solidified it.

There it is. I have lain with literal scores of men. I doubt I've played with a dozen dicks that were average or smaller. I didn't attempt intercourse with the micro guy. I was too shocked. One of the small hung guys was horrifyingly selfish. Terrible lay. Two of the small hung guys are in my top 5 favorite sexual experiences, along with an average one, and some of the others are in my top ten. I do not have clear memories of the ONE AND ONLY dude I picked because I saw his penis somewhere and wanted to try his bizarrely twisted swizzle stick out. Most of the guys with average and smaller had to be heavily pursued, even the ones with a clear demonstrable interest in me.

The fact of the matter is, it is the guys with the bigger penises who make themselves available to me. Scores of playmates and lovers, and only one I chose penis first. The world just does not work like you think it does.

 

[AlteredEgo]

This. Read it again.

Plus size queen is a reference to gay men with preferences.
Says my size Queen roomie.

Here is a problem with the assumption of preference driving selection:
If a man or woman prefers large or small breasts or butts, those are quite visible in everyday clothing. Breasts are not in the grower or shower category.
A person has a general idea of breast or butt size prior to doing any deed, or any undressing.

This is not true of penis.

Shapewear notwithstanding.