Wife finding out what I was up to

[Steevh]

I (45m) Been with wife (48f) for 24 years, we have two children together. She has always known I had a relationship with a guy before I was with her. Following a very serious health scare a few years ago my life hasn’t felt the same and I’ve had to reset my thinking on a number of issues.

Behind her back, I started hooking up with guys for a bit more fun and to explore that side of me - mostly I loved it (aside from a bad experience which it seems is par for the course). Always felt really bad afterwards for going behind her back and also for being “that kind of person” who I never expected to be. I lasted 22/23 years without this. Why now did I feel I had to be so selfish.

I missed a parking fine which she opened, I had no further explanation so came clean about the whole thing. Agreed with everything she said about lying and the mistrust and about being selfish etc.

Then, she told me off for not telling her so we could have some fun with it together. Still working on that part but is happy for me to see guys every so often but I have to tell her where I am and stay safe. Then at least have fun afterwards telling her what we got up to. She is also keen on trying a bit of fun with a

Not everyone will have that experience I dodged a bullet this time. But please remember how important it is to find someone who accepts you for who you are. Marriages don’t have to be based upon Victorian standards. Life is busier and way more complicated!

 

[WilliamG]

I (45m) Been with wife (48f) for 24 years, we have two children together. She has always known I had a relationship with a guy before I was with her. Following a very serious health scare a few years ago my life hasn’t felt the same and I’ve had to reset my thinking on a number of issues.

Behind her back, I started hooking up with guys for a bit more fun and to explore that side of me - mostly I loved it (aside from a bad experience which it seems is par for the course). Always felt really bad afterwards for going behind her back and also for being “that kind of person” who I never expected to be. I lasted 22/23 years without this. Why now did I feel I had to be so selfish.

I missed a parking fine which she opened, I had no further explanation so came clean about the whole thing. Agreed with everything she said about lying and the mistrust and about being selfish etc.

Then, she told me off for not telling her so we could have some fun with it together. Still working on that part but is happy for me to see guys every so often but I have to tell her where I am and stay safe. Then at least have fun afterwards telling her what we got up to. She is also keen on trying a bit of fun with a

Not everyone will have that experience I dodged a bullet this time. But please remember how important it is to find someone who accepts you for who you are. Marriages don’t have to be based upon Victorian standards. Life is busier and way more complicated!

You married a unicorn. A woman who would stay after that is one in a thousand. It could have really gone south. So she never gave any hint that she'd be ok with this earlier in the marriage?

 

[Steevh]

You married a unicorn. A woman who would stay after that is one in a thousand. It could have really gone south. So she never gave any hint that she'd be ok with this earlier in the marriage?

None at all - opposite. She said after it was repression that drove her verbalised disgust. And agreed I was ready for the divorce papers. But you know, I had done a bad thing.

 

[Steevh]

She is also keen on trying a bit of fun with a

“…another woman perhaps on her own/perhaps with me too” that should have read

 

[elklindoxxx]

I (45m) Been with wife (48f) for 24 years, we have two children together. She has always known I had a relationship with a guy before I was with her. Following a very serious health scare a few years ago my life hasn’t felt the same and I’ve had to reset my thinking on a number of issues.

Behind her back, I started hooking up with guys for a bit more fun and to explore that side of me - mostly I loved it (aside from a bad experience which it seems is par for the course). Always felt really bad afterwards for going behind her back and also for being “that kind of person” who I never expected to be. I lasted 22/23 years without this. Why now did I feel I had to be so selfish.

I missed a parking fine which she opened, I had no further explanation so came clean about the whole thing. Agreed with everything she said about lying and the mistrust and about being selfish etc.

Then, she told me off for not telling her so we could have some fun with it together. Still working on that part but is happy for me to see guys every so often but I have to tell her where I am and stay safe. Then at least have fun afterwards telling her what we got up to. She is also keen on trying a bit of fun with a

Not everyone will have that experience I dodged a bullet this time. But please remember how important it is to find someone who accepts you for who you are. Marriages don’t have to be based upon Victorian standards. Life is busier and way more complicated!

So let me get this straight.....

You went and cheated on your wife with another man or men. And she got angry not because you cheated...but you didn't bring some guy back with you so she could have gotten gang banged? By you and another some other guy?

 

[Steevh]

So let me get this straight.....

You went and cheated on your wife with another man or men. And she got angry not because you cheated...but you didn't bring some guy back with you so she could have gotten gang banged? By you and another some other guy?

Yep - and add to that watch me bang the other guy while she watches.

 

[daftman]

well, in our case, I encouraged my wife to play with a married friend, really only masturbation on the kitchen table etc. I was not there but condoned it... trying to get a foursome going... it was good, and 10 years ago....upshot is the couple (former best friends), no longer in the mix. think the other wife got, uncomfortable. but,the fantasy of my friend's dick, continues in coversation to this day..!

 

[WilliamG]

Yep - and add to that watch me bang the other guy while she watches.

Talk about turning lemons into lemonade!

 

[Steevh]

Talk about turning lemons into lemonade!

Perhaps but this is a cautionary tale as much as anything. Could have gone south very quickly!

 

[goodjock]

So, the question no one is asking but all want to know is… who do you have in mind to get her banged by?

 

[thickcockjames]

I think that’s literally the best case scenario. But just goes to show, what I always say is true, communication is key in any type of relationship.

 

[Steevh]

I think that’s literally the best case scenario. But just goes to show, what I always say is true, communication is key in any type of relationship.

Completely. But for different reasons we both have issues. For instance, I found out I have a half brother I only 1 year ago. My mother passed 8 years ago so I will never get to ask her about it. Ok so I never knew but sufficed to say my life has always been complicated.

 

[Steevh]

So, the question no one is asking but all want to know is… who do you have in mind to get her banged by?

Haven’t decided yet. A few ideas but really want to get a hotel room away from everything and spend the afternoon and night having lots of fun with a third.

 

[thongboy]

By the time I was 19, I'd decided to tell any chick I was dating and fucking that I was bi. A couple of girls never wanted to speak to me again but I still felt better being honest. Two others were fascinated and also adventurous in bed, so they simply wanted to know more, Two more were bi like me and one was my current girlfriend. We both know that things work better when we don't have to keep secrets. We also like group action where everyone is bi — that makes an MMF sensational

 

[MNpervert]

Im sure my wife knows but just not how often and how many men I am with. Before we married we talked about our past sex history. I told her about dating men in my past and she has seen pics and vids and she said from the beginning that is does nothing for her and she wouldnt wasnt to see me with man.