Women That Don’t Give Blowjobs

[deleted817718]

I’m sure there will be plenty of women saying how they love giving blowjobs, that’s lovely for you, but not what I want to discuss.
My wife has never enjoyed sucking cock and has been pretty open about it from the start of our relationship. Talking about it with me when we started getting serious she let me know that she didn’t want to give blowjobs and would like me to respect that. It’s not exactly what I would choose, but I have respected her wishes and come to accept that I can love without them because I love her.
Do many other women not do blowers? What are your partners reactions to you telling them?

 

[Hot_tease]

Hello , did you ask her why she doesn't like giving blowjobs ..... what doesn't she like about it ?

I know for me i was turned off by blowjobs because the man didn't taste good ...... so i stopped !

 

[MickeyLee]

People like what they like, don't like what they don't like. I love pineapple and black olive pizza. Some people would call me a monster.

Of the people I've spoken to who do not give blowjobs most say bad experience or a feeling of disrespect/humiliation. I blame porn, women are treated horribly and the experience is not filmed with female pleasure as a goal.

Some people don't like the taste of dick or semen. Some folks have TMJ or a sensitive gag reflex. Deviated septums or restricted airflow through their nose.

I usually respect boundaries. Personally feel seeking a why might feel like I am trying find a way to devalue thier reasons.

 

[TinyPrincess]

Well, some guys don't go down - and when they do many have no clue what they're doing.

If you like doing something then do it, if not don't. Male or female.

I think you're lucky actually. She know she don't like it and is honest about it.

 

[deleted817718]

Hello , did you ask her why she doesn't like giving blowjobs ..... what doesn't she like about it ?

I know for me i was turned off by blowjobs because the man didn't taste good ...... so i stopped !

Yes we talked about why. She doesn’t like how it feels, mentally she just can’t feel comfortable doing it and she said her jaw hurts after seconds of doing it. Whatever her reasons, if she doesn’t want to, I totally respect her wishes.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

How would I know what "many other women" do or don't do? I know the women I know, and they aren't a representative group which speaks for women collectively.

My guy won't lick my pussy. I got over it. Our sex life improved a lot when I let it go.

 

[deleted817718]

Well, some guys don't go down - and when they do many have no clue what they're doing.

If you like doing something then do it, if not don't. Male or female.

I think you're lucky actually. She know she don't like it and is honest about it.

She knows I like to go down on her and I am good at it (so I am told), which she loves. I am grateful that she is open and honest about it

 

[Hot_tease]

Yes we talked about why. She doesn’t like how it feels, mentally she just can’t feel comfortable doing it and she said her jaw hurts after seconds of doing it. Whatever her reasons, if she doesn’t want to, I totally respect her wishes.

If its because her jaw hurts maybe suggest trying sucking the tip ..or even just licking up and down and all around

you don't have to deepthroat ! I really don't know if alot of women do that ......

 

[deleted817718]

If its because her jaw hurts maybe suggest trying sucking the tip ..or even just licking up and down and all around

you don't have to deepthroat ! I really don't know if alot of women do that ......

That’s just one part of it. Her choice is no, and it has been now for the 8 years we have been a couple. I would not try to talk her into trying it again now, would be very wrong to.
I am interested in wether many other women didn’t give oral sex

 

[Hot_tease]

That’s just one part of it. Her choice is no, and it has been now for the 8 years we have been a couple. I would not try to talk her into trying it again now, would be very wrong to.
I am interested in wether many other women didn’t give oral sex

Awww okay ! Hope you find what you are seeking for ......

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I am interested in wether many other women didn’t give oral sex

Some women I've known absolutely will not, other's (including myself) enjoy it quite a bit, other's won't even talk about it because it's very personal and I'm not one to pry.

I couldn't/wouldn't attempt to generalize what the majority prefer to do or not do. I can only speak for me.

 

[286798]

I love it, but I have 2 close girlfriends who hate it. Like HAAAAAATE it. One had a bad first experience where a selfish asshole boy shoved her head down and she hasn’t gotten beyond the emotional trauma. I can’t say that I blame her. The other has a horrible gag reflex... like she has to take a sedative to go to the dentist, will gag while brushing her teeth, etc. This is not an immature “pee comes from there” hang up.

Both are now interested in trying IF they find the right, patient, respectful partner. I’ve offered a few tips (use mostly hands, can just lick vs suck, etc) to ease them into it. A guy in our friend group has offered to be the stunt cock if I give lessons.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I have some TMJ dysfunction.
I like long, teasing oral sessions with my guy. (I’ve had partners where their attitude made oral a huge turn off, too)
When the TMJ kicks in, control of when and how far that joint will go, and for how long, isn’t fully mine, consciously.
I don’t want to bite him.
(in past relationships, I was too shy to say so, thinking I was damaged in some way. So oral dropped off, and sometimes, away. )
We had a session where he got overeager and while some guiding to pushing is okay, with him (and we talked about it a lot before), he crossed a line. And almost left it in the dust.
We had to have more talks, decide on some gestures because safe words won’t work.
Ya gotta be determined and committed to communication for this to work. another situation? I’d have walked and likely not indulged in oral for a long time.

 

[6026411]

I love giving BJ's but I have a very small mouth so my activities are pretty much limited to licking and sucking the head and using my hands. Two reasons for me to absolutely refuse are poor personal hygiene and a guy shoving my face down where he thinks it should be. I'm not into having my face raped, thank you very much.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Rough when consensual can be okay on occasion.
Don’t assume what worked on a one off night is now standard.