Im honesetly curious to know why ya want to mess with straight men so bad who dont even really want you.
You guys not embarrased lusting over straight men that only use ya for sexual favors but never respect you guys?
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From what I understand:
Sometimes it's a conquest thing. Finding the person who will transgress their declared identity. A "rare bird'' (pardon the pun), or catching someone in the thrill of doing something totally new and maybe a bit taboo for them. Maybe a little transgressive.
It could be the same reason that some people employ sex workers: The lack of possibility of emotional connection keeps things light and uncomplicated.
It could be deeper in that it plays out a formative scenario where someone's first crush could have been someone straight.
I think that a lot of people go through a straight-guy phase, but eventually the fantasy gets played out. Not everyone who is into it is necessarily damaged or complicated or ends up hopelessly pining for the same archetype over and over though.
I guess wether they respect the other person might be secondary though. But that's a different issue.
Sometimes it's a conquest thing. Finding the person who will transgress their declared identity. A "rare bird'' (pardon the pun), or catching someone in the thrill of doing something totally new and maybe a bit taboo for them. Maybe a little transgressive.
It could be the same reason that some people employ sex workers: The lack of possibility of emotional connection keeps things light and uncomplicated.
It could be deeper in that it plays out a formative scenario where someone's first crush could have been someone straight.
I think that a lot of people go through a straight-guy phase, but eventually the fantasy gets played out. Not everyone who is into it is necessarily damaged or complicated or ends up hopelessly pining for the same archetype over and over though.
I guess wether they respect the other person might be secondary though. But that's a different issue.
As a random fuck, if he's keen enough to pull his pants down, that's keen enough for me.
It's normal for a gay man to want to have sex with another man who's offering sex regardless of orientation.
Shouldn't the question be "why do straight guys ask gay men for sexual favours when they don't really want them?".
Shouldn't the question be "why do straight guys ask gay men for sexual favours when they don't really want them?".
So are you telling me a proud straight man wouldn't have sex with a 10/10 woman if she offered despite being lesbian?
Not sure what straight means these days anymore, but the main reason for me would be that the sexual favors are pleasurable to give and I want to. As far as "straight" goes, my horny "straight" neighbor can't get enough of my big dick after taking notice and letting me drill his ass the first time. Guess I just mean that he may say he's straight, but actions speak louder 
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.I don’t “go after” straight guys or guys that identify as straight. However I’ve had a lot of straight curious guys approach me and eventually fuck me. When I was younger I thought it was a rush, where I’ve been able to “turn” a guy. But now I just realize that sexuality can be a little fluid, and for the most part, guys in general would fuck anything if they’re horny enough
I love having fun with straight guys and have had plenty of experiences. A lot of guys on these forums talk about the definition of "straight" and what counts as what. For me it doesn't matter. If someone says they're straight then that's what they want to be known as - that's enough.
Personally, I love servicing straight men. There's something incredibly sexy about pleasuring someone to the point of orgasm regardless of their sexuality. the fact that they define as not being sexual attracted to you but are still turned on by what you do is incredibly erotic. It comes down to horniness like ArabicBottom says. If they're horny they will fuck anything. If I'm horny I will take any dick inside me...
Personally, I love servicing straight men. There's something incredibly sexy about pleasuring someone to the point of orgasm regardless of their sexuality. the fact that they define as not being sexual attracted to you but are still turned on by what you do is incredibly erotic. It comes down to horniness like ArabicBottom says. If they're horny they will fuck anything. If I'm horny I will take any dick inside me...
It’s probably different for everyone, but wanting someone to “want you” could possibly give the implication that you want something more than just sex with a straight guy. Sometimes it could be as simple as having the satisfaction of “snagging” a straight guy or as deep as an unhealthy situation where the gay guy thinks he can change the straight guy or is seeking validation in some way. Personally, I like straight men because they are best for being FWB because you don’t have to worry about them wanting more than just sex. There are definitely many different reasons, but there is nothing to be embarrassed about because at the end of the day both the straight and gay guy are in the same room together and getting what they both want. No strings attached fun.
Many people might not agree, but I would place a gay man lusting over a straight man in the same category as gay man lusting over another gay man that is completely out of their league. You might have a better chance hooking up with the gay man that’s out of your league because he’s also gay but that chances are, more than likely they don’t even know you exist.
The reason I'm not embarrassed is because I've never been in that situation. This cat doesn't meow up the wrong tree.
Every gay guy has crushed on straight men for varoius reasons. Some of these straight men like the attention and will flirt back and enjoy the teasing.
Some of them will actually experiment, I see it as no different from gay guys who may have slept with women before. Sometimes the experimentation unlocks either bi or gay feelings. I believe it's totally okay for a guy to have sex with a guy to see what it's like and still call themselves straight. Plus sometimes guys just get horny and do what they have to do to get off. When I read and see about guys now who are just over that adult threshold, I don't know if the straight label means the same thing as it did when I was 21 but they appear to be much more open minded and accepting of their own feelings and also those of their peers.
What makes a person gay is they are physically and emotionally drawn to the same sex. If a straight man finds himself having sex with men on the regular, I'd say he's not straight. Bisexually does exist even thought it doesn't always get the positive acceptance it should. I don't see any reason to be embarassed over liking "straight" guys or even sleeping with them as long as everyone knows where they stand.
Some of them will actually experiment, I see it as no different from gay guys who may have slept with women before. Sometimes the experimentation unlocks either bi or gay feelings. I believe it's totally okay for a guy to have sex with a guy to see what it's like and still call themselves straight. Plus sometimes guys just get horny and do what they have to do to get off. When I read and see about guys now who are just over that adult threshold, I don't know if the straight label means the same thing as it did when I was 21 but they appear to be much more open minded and accepting of their own feelings and also those of their peers.
What makes a person gay is they are physically and emotionally drawn to the same sex. If a straight man finds himself having sex with men on the regular, I'd say he's not straight. Bisexually does exist even thought it doesn't always get the positive acceptance it should. I don't see any reason to be embarassed over liking "straight" guys or even sleeping with them as long as everyone knows where they stand.
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Eh, I listened to his explanation and it seemed like it is splitting hairs concerning erotic orientation vs. sexual orientation as it pertains to heterosexual men who have sex with men.
Taboo over homosexual sex or bi/homosexual identity is so ingrained in some people. They desperately start looking for some other word or label to hide behind so that they can do what they naturally enjoy but call it something else to make it palatable.
Exactly. There is way too much taboo, social ostracisation and internalized homophobia associated with being gay in this world for me to believe that most "straight men who have sex with men" aren't just bisexuals or down low gays in denial. Maybe some exist but that would be a distinct minority imho. The reality is plenty of guys exist within the closet to some degree, knowingly or unconsciously and we haven't reached the stage in society where most of them will ever admit that. It is what it is.
I don't think merely pining for or masturbating over a straight mas is the same as seeking one out in real life for an encounter. I view these very differently.
Fantasy is almost always fine, reality is a totally different thing. One doesn't involve pressure/coercion while the other certainly has the chance for those things.
As for "straight men" who do the alleged seeking, well let's just say I'm not entirely convinced. Lol
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I don't ask another man how he identifies. Who exactly is using who? He has a penis, and I like sucking on them, so the rest is immaterial. I 100% do not ever want to be in a relationship with another man. I've been in two long term relationships, and that's enough for me. I'm not bitter or angry. I'm actually remarkably happy with my place in life right now. I get my intimacy needs (not sexual) met through my menswork, and I get my sexual needs met by sucking cock. I'm 57 years old, and have a steady stream of clients coming to my door. I'm not complaining. I just had a jawbreaker leave, and I've got another showing up within the hour.
I do find the gay worlds intense attention on straight guys to be a little odd. It's like courting someone who you know won't pick you for the long term.
That being said I've had a few experiences with friends who identify as striaght. There is definitely a bit of satisfaction and pride that a "unobtainable" picked me to experiment with.
It is normally kinda fun like 9/10 of the time. But go in knowing it's not a thing and then move on. Pretty much like a merit badge you may or may not get to share with others.
But I don't see any post in pining over a straight guy.
That being said I've had a few experiences with friends who identify as striaght. There is definitely a bit of satisfaction and pride that a "unobtainable" picked me to experiment with.
It is normally kinda fun like 9/10 of the time. But go in knowing it's not a thing and then move on. Pretty much like a merit badge you may or may not get to share with others.
But I don't see any post in pining over a straight guy.
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