Hey guys,
So I need some advice.
If you have read any of my previous posts you will get an idea of what the situation is.
Long story short. I'm bi, became friends with a fellow Muslim guy who was 12 years younger than me at work. Me 34, he's 22. We would message each other constantly at work and at home, sharing and confiding so much personal stuff with one another. He knew about me and didn't care. He was the best friend that I never knew I needed. Eventually i became attracted to him and I also got deeply attached, to the point where I did anything for his attention and his validation. I pretty much lovebombed him but he never had a problem with it. He knew the person I was and loved talking to me etc.
I was going through a pretty dark period at the time suffering from depression etc so I also think I trauma dumped him. But he never went anywhere even when I would tell him to go. Find better friends etc. I foolishly offered to give him a blowjob if he ever wanted one. And he got a kick from it and politely declined, laughing it off. We both did. And we had said much worse Dirty stuff to one another. Anyways, a week later I got hurt because he didn't tell me something that I thought as a friend he would tell me. I sent him a message, telling him to fuck off, and to keep walking. Why keep coming back etc. I was hurt and I overreacted. He retaliated by saying it was sexual harassment. Maybe there was some truth to that, but he knew what we were doing and I thought it was just something stupid between two close friends.
Anyways, we haven't spoken since. Its been 18 months since That happened. We have passed each other at work and smiled. And we even hugged and had a laugh the last time we saw one another in November.
I've now officially left the workplace last week and I don't know what to do. Do I get in touch with him? Or do I leave it? I do miss his friendship.
Any advice would be welcomed.
Thanks
So I need some advice.
If you have read any of my previous posts you will get an idea of what the situation is.
Long story short. I'm bi, became friends with a fellow Muslim guy who was 12 years younger than me at work. Me 34, he's 22. We would message each other constantly at work and at home, sharing and confiding so much personal stuff with one another. He knew about me and didn't care. He was the best friend that I never knew I needed. Eventually i became attracted to him and I also got deeply attached, to the point where I did anything for his attention and his validation. I pretty much lovebombed him but he never had a problem with it. He knew the person I was and loved talking to me etc.
I was going through a pretty dark period at the time suffering from depression etc so I also think I trauma dumped him. But he never went anywhere even when I would tell him to go. Find better friends etc. I foolishly offered to give him a blowjob if he ever wanted one. And he got a kick from it and politely declined, laughing it off. We both did. And we had said much worse Dirty stuff to one another. Anyways, a week later I got hurt because he didn't tell me something that I thought as a friend he would tell me. I sent him a message, telling him to fuck off, and to keep walking. Why keep coming back etc. I was hurt and I overreacted. He retaliated by saying it was sexual harassment. Maybe there was some truth to that, but he knew what we were doing and I thought it was just something stupid between two close friends.
Anyways, we haven't spoken since. Its been 18 months since That happened. We have passed each other at work and smiled. And we even hugged and had a laugh the last time we saw one another in November.
I've now officially left the workplace last week and I don't know what to do. Do I get in touch with him? Or do I leave it? I do miss his friendship.
Any advice would be welcomed.
Thanks
