“donut” method?

[1337357]

my SO and i have been together for a long time; she’s easily my longest-running sexual partner; one could argue my only one...

anyway, from the start she had issues with my size; i’ll spare you the details but bottom line she’s had pain; so she talked to her OBGYN, etc; all is good physiologically with her; it’s just a sex thing; we cut out various positions, and i looked into getting some of those “donuts” to put on my dick; she didn’t want to waste money on them (they’re expensive), so instead she’s begun holding my cock with her hands while i’m penetrating; i like this a lot in missionary and cowgirl (though in cowgirl the angle prevents her from using two hands); at the same time, her knuckle bumps her during sex and so she’s not loving this either.

here is my question then: should i get those donuts? Are they worth the money? she doesn’t think so, but maybe i should surprise her? anyone have experience with this?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Is the money the only issue?

Is the financial situation one where sexual pleasure can't be responsibly factored in?

I have never needed one, even with larger partners so I couldn't answer whether or not it's "worth it".

She has already expressed her thoughts, and personally speaking for myself I would probably be annoyed if I told my man that I didn't want something and he got it anyway. However, this is a circumstance we have never faced, so I don't really know what to say.

How many times have the two of you discussed getting one?

 

[1337357]

she’s just frugal, figures her hands are “good enough;” i literally had two donuts in my online cart when she shot this idea down; she claimed they weren’t as thick as her hands—which made sense.

it just makes me sad that she’ll never have truly comfortable sex, at least not with me; it’s fine, she says, but so are a lot of other less than ideal things.

 

[LaFemme]

I didn’t even know they existed! I mean, how much could they possibly cost? If it’s going to mean you can’t afford the rent or meals, then yes, skip it. Personally, I think sex is pretty important in a relationship and I’d rather use my hands for other things than prevent full penetration (something I have a lot of experience with in dealing with previous partners).

I don’t know that I’d surprise her with it, but I’d talk to her about investing in your sex life. How important mutual sexual pleasure is for both of you. I know it’s something I would have loved for my partner to suggest because it would have meant he cared about sparing me pain, and maybe made it easier for both of us.

 

[MickeyLee]

Ms. @petite had some amazing posts about using penetration limiting donuts. Like, there is a whole thread on it.

I'll do some searching to see if I can find it

ETA: found it! Click

You can find more posts on the subject by doing a forum seach. Keyword donut. Limit the seach to posts by @petite.

 

[deleted924715]

I didn’t even know they existed! I mean, how much could they possibly cost?

This is what I thought! I mean, should I be coveting one instead of a Marc Jacobs handbag or what? I feel like I want one now.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

My husband and I dealt with this issue by buying the thickest biggest cock rings we could find and stack them up to prevent them from going in. Each ring was about $40 but it was so worth it.

 

[sweetlucky12]

I’ve always used the hand method when trying to prevent hubby from going too deep when we first start the penetration. This might be easier and a little kinkier if you are too long.

I agree I would Surprise with them. Maybe tell her you think it’d be a sexy way to enhance both of your experiences. I know I wouldn’t want to keep my hand on his shaft for the whole ride.

 

[1337357]

I’ve always used the hand method when trying to prevent hubby from going too deep when we first start the penetration. This might be easier and a little kinkier if you are too long.

I agree I would Surprise with them. Maybe tell her you think it’d be a sexy way to enhance both of your experiences. I know I wouldn’t want to keep my hand on his shaft for the whole ride.

yeah, i think it’s okay in cowgirl, but not so great in missionary; thx!

 

[Holly Doors]

My husband has used them in the past, not with me I can take him fine but he has used them in the past when we swing, he's certainly not a fan of them tho, hasn't used them for a long time I'm not even sure where they are anymore.
I'm pretty sure we bought them off eBay and they weren't very expensive, like £5 for a set X