“you have ruined other men for me”

[Thikn2velvet1]

I bet some of you have heard that. Can that really happen? I have heard that a few times but generally disregarded it as harmless pillow talk but I heard it again and this time with deadly seriousness.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

To be honest I find it silly when people say this. Even if they "mean" it. (I think it's just an ego stroker statement)

There are billions of people in the world. Billions. With a B. I'm more than confident that there's at least *one* other person in the world who could satisfy your partner or yourself.

I don't mean to take away from a happy sexual relationship, but it's just far fetched to think that anyone could honestly be so amazing in bed that there's not a single human on Earth who could ever please their partner again.

 

[wallyj84]

To be honest I find it silly when people say this. Even if they "mean" it. (I think it's just an ego stroker statement)

There are billions of people in the world. Billions. With a B. I'm more than confident that there's at least *one* other person in the world who could satisfy your partner or yourself.

I don't mean to take away from a happy sexual relationship, but it's just far fetched to think that anyone could honestly be so amazing in bed that there's not a single human on Earth who could ever please their partner again.

But what if that guy has a really big penis?

 

[Chrysippus]

But what if that guy has a really big penis?

Wally, what if that doesn’t matter? a man, like anything else, is greater than one part or the sum of his parts.

If the big-cocked guy is a cheat, a thief, a liar, someone who’s abusive, is not kind, generous, or responsible, the dick don’t mean dick.

 

[ronin001]

Ahhhhh the famous last words a woman says, after hooking up and being screwed over by a totally selfish dick of a guy; and she renounces all men forever and becomes a full time Lesbian

I bet a few guys have heard it used that way

 

[Phil Ayesho]

My first love broke up with after a year.

33 years later, she contacted me out of the blue to tell me she felt she owed me an apology and to tell me that I had ruined her for other men.

Not in the absolute sense- she clarified- but in the sense that she ended up going thru a LOT of guys before she found one that lived up to the example I had set... That In terms of how I treated her, and made love to her- I had set the bar pretty high.


It was certainly nice to know that she hadn't just forgotten me- but I told her I could have really stood to hear that much earlier than the age of 50. -- all that time I had always felt I must have failed her in some regard.

 

[sangheili90]

My first love broke up with after a year.

33 years later, she contacted me out of the blue to tell me she felt she owed me an apology and to tell me that I had ruined her for other men.

Not in the absolute sense- she clarified- but in the sense that she ended up going thru a LOT of guys before she found one that lived up to the example I had set... That In terms of how I treated her, and made love to her- I had set the bar pretty high.


It was certainly nice to know that she hadn't just forgotten me- but I told her I could have really stood to hear that much earlier than the age of 50. -- all that time I had always felt I must have failed her in some regard.

Jesus, dude, you were young......that's a nice story but why would you hold on to something like that for so long?

 

[socalfreak]

Jesus, dude, you were young......that's a nice story but why would you hold on to something like that for so long?

Because he was happy, idiot.

 

[wallyj84]

Wally, what if that doesn’t matter? a man, like anything else, is greater than one part or the sum of his parts.

If the big-cocked guy is a cheat, a thief, a liar, someone who’s abusive, is not kind, generous, or responsible, the dick don’t mean dick.

Wally, what if that doesn’t matter? a man, like anything else, is greater than one part or the sum of his parts.

If the big-cocked guy is a cheat, a thief, a liar, someone who’s abusive, is not kind, generous, or responsible, the dick don’t mean dick.

Uh-huh, just keep on telling yourself that.

 

[longozzy]

Jesus, dude, you were young......that's a nice story but why would you hold on to something like that for so long?

Love

 

[sangheili90]

Love

No one should hold onto something like that for such a long period of time, actually sounds unhealthy.

 

[sangheili90]

Get some help from a counselor. You were young, man. WTF? She also has way more of a problem than you if after 33 years she contacted you with those sentiments, She has problems.

It may sound like something out of a romance/drama film with the ending plot resulting in them getting back together.....but that woman actually sounds kind of creepy. Seriously, she carried that around for 33 years because of a dude she was with in high school, like she is intentionally making herself miserable by not allowing herself to move on and fall in love with another great guy out there.

 

[rayray]

My first love broke up with after a year.

33 years later, she contacted me out of the blue to tell me she felt she owed me an apology and to tell me that I had ruined her for other men.

Not in the absolute sense- she clarified- but in the sense that she ended up going thru a LOT of guys before she found one that lived up to the example I had set... That In terms of how I treated her, and made love to her- I had set the bar pretty high.


It was certainly nice to know that she hadn't just forgotten me- but I told her I could have really stood to hear that much earlier than the age of 50. -- all that time I had always felt I must have failed her in some regard.

Sounds like she was reminiscing about the good ole days and her first love . Hell without modern technology it probably still would be a memory for both of you .

 

[rayray]

Jesus, dude, you were young......that's a nice story but why would you hold on to something like that for so long?

It's called emotions and feelings . Reminiscing . Possibly regret . @sangheili90 . Since you don't have any true relationship experience from just knowing you on here and what you post you wouldn't know what it's like to love and be loved by someone you have parted ways with many years before . You don't forget your first true love . It's something you think about for many years . Like a euphoric recall .

 

[sodominsane]

To be honest I find it silly when people say this. Even if they "mean" it. (I think it's just an ego stroker statement)

There are billions of people in the world. Billions. With a B. I'm more than confident that there's at least *one* other person in the world who could satisfy your partner or yourself.

I don't mean to take away from a happy sexual relationship, but it's just far fetched to think that anyone could honestly be so amazing in bed that there's not a single human on Earth who could ever please their partner again.

i have heard this so many times over the years.....then we break up and they seem to have other successful relationships....no doubt with guys who are ruining them for other men all over again

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Jesus, dude, you were young......that's a nice story but why would you hold on to something like that for so long?

Proof that you're just a narcissist with no empathy/true concern for the well being of others.

Just because you don't give a fuck about anyone but yourself doesn't mean others aren't capable.

 

[socalfreak]

No one should hold onto something like that for such a long period of time, actually sounds unhealthy.

And that kind of thinking is why you will be alone for a very long time

 

[sangheili90]

It's called emotions and feelings . Reminiscing . Possibly regret . @sangheili90 . Since you don't have any true relationship experience from just knowing you on here and what you post you wouldn't know what it's like to love and be loved by someone you have parted ways with many years before . You don't forget your first true love . It's something you think about for many years . Like a euphoric recall .

I'm sorry but they held onto some high school love for over 30 years when there are plenty of other people out there. It'd be one thing if they were married or had a serious relationship but he was 17, that just isn't healthy.

 

[bigbucky]

I had one ex gf that said "you ruined me." it happened after we broke up and she started dating a friend of mine. after a couple weeks I guess she "laughed" him out of bed. he came to me one nite in a bar...all upset that he and my ex had broke up. the next nite I run into her and ask her what the hell happened. she tells me "you ruined me. he thinks he's a real stud with a big cock. he got to carrying on the other day, and I started laughing aat him. I told him you were twice his size."

 

[Phil Ayesho]

dude GET A FUCKING LIFE.

Ah- you poor poor sap.

The unexamined life is not worth living.

I have had many loves since that first one. If anything, it taught me how to love truly.
Your response is the response of a self absorbed child.

All we ever really have are the experiences we lived. And I have a full and rich life because I carry those experiences forward- am willing to be changed and affected by them.