A woman's age and her sex drive?

[Grey Hawk]

My parents had sex well into their 70s I’m 64 and still quite active probably more than most but I really enjoy the company of a lady in her mid to late 30s best

 

[elklindoxxx]

My partner and I are into the lifestyle....and there are quite a few senior swingers out there.

 

[dhbike]

We are both 80yo and have sex regularly. We have been together for 5 years and friends for 40 years.

 

[BiDiscovery]

Hmm. You’re kind of wrong. I don’t know your grandparents, so maybe they aren’t having sex - but they would be the exception, not the norm.

Frequency of sex does drop after 60, but it doesn’t usually stop. Typically, a couple over 60 will have sex at least a couple of times a month.

Sex definitely changes. It’s less goal oriented and more about the journey. It’s a slow burn instead of fiery moments. It’s less athletic, more focused on mutual pleasure. Grandma might need to kneel on a pillow to blow grandpa, but she can still send him to the moon. Actually, grandma and grandpa are probably seeking comfortable positions - bad knees, bad backs etc, but the sex can be amazing. Different than 40 years ago, but every bit as good - in some ways better.

May you live long enough to discover the sweetness of senior sex!

I must not be the norm. Over 60 with a insatiable sex drive. Wife 11 years younger can barely keep up. Competed athletically most of my life and still have high testosterone level.
Studies have shown that sex drives do decrease with age, but I guess it’s different for everyone based on life style, heredity, Health and so forth.

 

[Lakeshore]

I would love to have more (any, lol) sex. I don't think it's so much the age that effects the sex drive as much as past experience does, in my case anyway. FOREPLAY! That's what I miss! I think guys adhere to the old saying "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free"...they are ALL-IN when it comes to getting you to say 'Yes', the sexual banter, the touching, massages. It doesn't take long and the next thing you know, their idea of foreplay is "baby, I'm horny" and that's about all the effort you get out of them...20 years later and you're like "WTF?!".

I am 70, my wife is 65 and we still have a strong sex drive.
I have always given my wife sufficient foreplay so she is having orgasm after orgasm. I begin with light touching while kissing. She loves me to suck all over her body, especially her nipples and to work my way to her pussy to give her oral, then after she has couple orgasms, and asks for me to use the vibrator I make sure she has many orgasms with me using the vibrator lightly on her lips, clit and sometimes a-hole. She loves butt play.
Only afterward do I ask for a deep kiss, and ask her to suck my cock for a while. Sometimes we fuck and other times she wants me to cum in her mouth. After 43 years together we both have learned a lot about pleasuring each other. When young, and inexperienced, we just don't know as much about pleasuring the other as we do after a trying different sexual things to give pleasure. JMHO.

 

[deleted22029871]

My ex wife was 14 years older than me and we divorced last year when she turned 55, we always had a good sex life but unfortunately the older she got the less she could keep up

 

[LaFemme]

I watched some show, and these 20 somethings were guessing on when sex stops. Low end was around 40; high end by 50! I almost fell off the couch laughing. Just wait you 20+, you are still the same person while you age. You don’t magically and suddenly turn into an old person. It sneaks up on you until one day you’re walking to Hot Topic in the mall and see this old lady in a mirror. The shock when you find out it’s you!

In my head, I’m still that big haired, bad ass bitch of the 80s. In reality, I’m a sweet and mature lady.

But for sure, sex doesn’t end as you age. For me, I just find that’s no longer a desperate need. If I had a high libido partner? Pretty sure I could match him. Just keep me hydrated and fed.

 

[TryHarrd]

Lol...funny thread. Old age homes are full of sex @Evenflow618. They've got the time and no body shame at all. So yes, @LaFemme, youth is wasted on the youth

I agree with those saying older women just don't want to put up with crap. As @aheidla mentioned, sex shops are going through an unprecedented boom driven by women, both young and old. There are the physical impacts of perimenopause and menopause to consider of course, but at the end of the day, as @Chark pointed out, it's usually the hubbies fault as they become lazy and uninspiring. The Japanese have a similar saying, "Once you catch the fish, you throw away the bait." At our stage in our marriage, I'm now looking to see what other types of bait turns my wife on

 

[LisaViva]

I hope not any time soon!

 

[Electric blue]

If I could add something , Mature women I have dated in the past we're very sexually motivated.
To Them the games are over and being with a man or woman of the same age group can be very exciting . Their sex drive at times were like a machine , was it every night ? No , was it over the top fantastic ? Hell yes . I guess if your in your 60s fast action is frowned on , smooth dance moves , talking to her like she has intelligence, making sure She comes first , most important. And back to dancing , yes they love it , it makes them feel young and wanted , but that's just me

 

[neutrno]

I'm a firm believer that good sex is always wanted. So, we start to lose our drive when the person we're having sex with doesn't make it interesting and isn't open to us making it more interesting either.

 

[Electric blue]

Excellent point , some times the spark dims , even though both parties want to make love

 

[Electric blue]

I wish I could tell how it was with my GF of six years , she is gone now and I still grieve over her
Talking about her brings her back to life to me

 

[nomju]

At what age do women start to lose their sex drive?

It's not all down to age.
Wife - 55 - fully gone through the menopause. No sex drive.
FWB - 61 - still taking the hormone replacement treatment. Fucks like a teenager.

 

[Electric blue]

A few months ago I met this lady , she is a recent widow , and was in a very strict religious cult. The females there had no rights , could not drive , the homes had no radio , tv , computers or phones, could not go out side when they had their periods ,It was more like a 19 century farming community, long story short , she is 58 , I'm older .Sex there was looked at as evil only to reproduce, she never had an orgasm in her life ,
The first time we made love scared her so much , she was so tight I had to go very slow .very slow , but then her body started to shake and she arched her back and went totally wild , her first orgasm . Now she is like a machine , can't get enough , she want to know all about sex , she is like winning the lottery ,, I believe she was sent to me

 

[MickeyLee]

Horny as a Texas toad. Balanced now by streaming, dope ass friends and interesting hobbies.

I think if sex vanishes, without a medical related issue, then something else vanished from the relationship. I think women run out of emotional fucks long before the drive to fuck goes away.

All relationships now are balanced against how highly I now value my time, attention and solitude.

Also. My masturbation game is tight! I can get off in less than a minute, the physical release/energy purge is no longer a driving urge. My frequent fucking is all about desiring my partner.

 

[LisaViva]

I can't imagine not wanting BBC and BWC!!!

 

[Johnmichaelz]

Sex drive most likely. All my grandparents stop having sex before 60. From observation on other older people they are probably not having sex.

Wtf... I'm 57, been with a few 60 something and rooted non stop. Talking a dozen or more times in a weekend, and at my age i almost needed traction afterwards... lol, loved every minute. After menopause women seem to increase sex drive I've found. It's like I'm back in my 20s. They are less concerned about what people think and are happier to try stuff, and find ways to please themselves.

 

[Evenflow618]

Wtf... I'm 57, been with a few 60 something and rooted non stop. Talking a dozen or more times in a weekend, and at my age i almost needed traction afterwards... lol, loved every minute. After menopause women seem to increase sex drive I've found. It's like I'm back in my 20s. They are less concerned about what people think and are happier to try stuff, and find ways to please themselves.

Maybe the older generations were more prudes. My grandparents are now 80 plus and most family members too.

 

[Electric blue]

I'm , Senior, my lady friend is also , we have a fantastic love life. We are not dead .
I met her from a very strict religious cult, after she left ,a widow and never had an orgasm in her life , out first time together in bed was like an explosion,she went totally wild , and it happens every time, It's like the both can't get enough