Advice for bottoming

[leeisleee]

Hi!
I’m newer to sex and I’m unsure about a couple of things regarding bottoming
My boyfriend and I have been experimenting with a lot of things but for some reason bottoming is strange to me.
Is there any way to minimize the pain? My boyfriend and I are on the larger side of things but he seems to deal with the pain a lot better than me atleast. To be fair he is a bit more on the thicker side than long, and I’m the other way around.

 

[halcyondays]

Hi!
I’m newer to sex and I’m unsure about a couple of things regarding bottoming
My boyfriend and I have been experimenting with a lot of things but for some reason bottoming is strange to me.
Is there any way to minimize the pain? My boyfriend and I are on the larger side of things but he seems to deal with the pain a lot better than me atleast. To be fair he is a bit more on the thicker side than long, and I’m the other way around.

Here's what I did. I got a set of S/M/L butt plugs, a quart of lube and a lube injector. After cleaning out with an enema I injected lube, lubed the small butt plug and inserted it. It took a few days to get used to that.

When small was no longer uncomfortable I graduated to medium size. Again it took several days practice to get used to it. When it was comfortable I graduated to large. Overall it took a couple weeks of practice to train my hole to relax and be stretched.

If you don't know this already the way to relax anal sphincter muscles is to push like you're defecating. What allows poop out lets toys or cock in.

Don't be in a hurry, use tons of lube, relax and have fun! Penetration is supposed to feel good and will once you train your hole to open and get used to the stretch.

BTW you can use gravity to assist penetration by squatting or sitting down on plugs, dildos or other toys.

Good luck!

 

[BigAl9]

Very good advice given above. I got an assortment of dildoes. I practiced with the dildoes gradually going with a bigger one. I have one which is nearly the size of my cock. That one took some getting used to. I began bottoming about 5 months ago. One thing which halcyondays mentions is to kearn how to relax your anal sphincter. This makes initial penetration much more enjoyable. Good luck. Do not rush things.

 

[Richard Licks]

Here's what I did. I got a set of S/M/L butt plugs, a quart of lube and a lube injector. After cleaning out with an enema I injected lube, lubed the small butt plug and inserted it. It took a few days to get used to that.

When small was no longer uncomfortable I graduated to medium size. Again it took several days practice to get used to it. When it was comfortable I graduated to large. Overall it took a couple weeks of practice to train my hole to relax and be stretched.

If you don't know this already the way to relax anal sphincter muscles is to push like you're defecating. What allows poop out lets toys or cock in.

Don't be in a hurry, use tons of lube, relax and have fun! Penetration is supposed to feel good and will once you train your hole to open and get used to the stretch.

BTW you can use gravity to assist penetration by squatting or sitting down on plugs, dildos or other toys.

Good luck!

Good advice.