after sex

[abu101]

A question for the ladies - after you have unprotected sex and the guy has had an orgasm inside of you, is it necessary that you go to the bathroom and "clean up" or can you just go to sleep and take care of it in the morning.

(The question assumes pregnancy and disease is not the issue, but rather just bed hygiene, for lack of a better term).

In other words, if you just go to sleep will it all leak out all over the sheets, or is your anatomy designed to retain it without leaking until you decide to clean it out later.

Hope its not too gross and i get some replies. The question was raised during a completely different thread about sex between guys, and someone asked "well what do women do after - can they just roll over and go to sleep like we do, or do they have to go clean it out otherwise it will make a big mess on the bed pretty shortly when it leaks out"

No one seemed to know, LOL, so i am asking. I sure you all have very certain thoughts on the matter, but perhaps no one as ever asked. So i am asking, thanks in advance,

Aloha

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

In my limited experience, it leaks out. Either around my lips and down the top part of my thighs, or when I pee. There's not much to "clean out," it mixes with my own fluids then is removed through the vag's natural cleaning process. The most I've done is shower later, not too soon though, 'cause I always love his scent on me.

 

[abu101]

hmm, interesting, thanks. so its not like you have to run to the bathroom immeditately afterwards. so i guess ladies can stay in bed and go to sleep without worrying about it leaking out onto the sheets.


i asked since my BF produces a large quantity of cum , and so maybe i am just over analyzing it all.


thanks

 

[D_Millie_Mammaries]

A question for the ladies - after you have unprotected sex and the guy has had an orgasm inside of you, is it necessary that you go to the bathroom and "clean up" or can you just go to sleep and take care of it in the morning.

(The question assumes pregnancy and disease is not the issue, but rather just bed hygiene, for lack of a better term).

In other words, if you just go to sleep will it all leak out all over the sheets, or is your anatomy designed to retain it without leaking until you decide to clean it out later.

Hope its not too gross and i get some replies. The question was raised during a completely different thread about sex between guys, and someone asked "well what do women do after - can they just roll over and go to sleep like we do, or do they have to go clean it out otherwise it will make a big mess on the bed pretty shortly when it leaks out"

No one seemed to know, LOL, so i am asking. I sure you all have very certain thoughts on the matter, but perhaps no one as ever asked. So i am asking, thanks in advance,

Aloha

Sometimes I just go to sleep and dont care if it leaks out, but most of the time I go to the bathroom and clean it out.

 

[abu101]

thanks for the reply

i wonder if the majority of ladies agree with you and do the same thing

then again , i suppose its not the kind of thing that women discuss "in polite company"

another related question from a male non-expert : is that why women buy "douche" products ? or is it really only for if/when they are on a monthly cycle.......

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

^the vag is self-cleaning. Can't say I know any women younger than my mom's generation who, baring some medical condition, still douches.

It might leak out, but we're talking a relatively small amount of fluid. I produce more wetness in terms of vaginal secretions than any guy, big load or not, could through ejaculation. I've found the sheets get wet, however it isn't all over the place.

I am a jizz lover, but c'mon, all of that cum cannon stuff is fake.

 

[abu101]

hi and thanks for the reply again

since you mention it, i should let you know that i had initiated a thread earlier today asking about the sensation that a semen orgasm has inside of you.

(that's what ultimately led to this question about cleanup......)

i've never had that sensation since my bf and i always use condoms, but i have gotten used to giving him handjobs and he produces a huge amount of load, and powerfully, so of course now i have gotten it in my head that i gotta feel what this feels like inside.

since we're monogamous and no diseases, i think now that i'm gonna see what it feels like. on the guy thread, i asked other guys what it feels like and responses were mixed from major to minor.

now it occurs to me that all i really need to do is to ask WOMEN about this, since obviously (unless you have ALWAYS had protected sex) you would have much more experience with this then men.

to emphasize, my BF really does have fairly violent orgasms, lots of shaking and shuddering, and produces a lot of volume that goes farily far. i was kinda shocked the first time, but now i am totally into it and love seeing how jacked up i can get him. if he was a dribbler, then i assume i would feel nothing special.

thanks for your helpful replies,

aloha ps i admit that i have seen a fair amount of porno, and i don't know if its all real, i suppose not, but i can attest from experience that large volume and force is certainly real, or in his case at least. (i am not even in that league....)

 

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

I waited a long time as well before having unprotected intercourse, so I totally understand the curiosity. He has a big load - the feeling is mainly a bit of warm wetness combined with his cock pulsing and pushing deeper (the best part, imo). There's something extremely sexy about it, but nothing like he's hosing me down and no thick, hard streams of cum filling me up either... Booooooooo! Is that the theme of some of my fave porn, yes. :biggrin: It just isn't realistic.

Hope you share your experience when it happens.

 

[abu101]

nice of you to reply, thanks very much.

and yes, now that i have gotten all this excellent advice and info on this site from far more experienced folks, i really should write up my experience and post it here.

i can't wait. he just really does it to me. such a total turn on. i just melt when he gets those eyes and when we kiss and i feel his hot breath on my neck i just tremble. its weird since i'm fairly physical and aggressive in my life and not some wimpering weak kneed nerd. but he really can make me melt. and when he enters me and we have our sessions its is like there is no words for it. but usually i just bring him off wiht a hand job since i have so gotten used to looking forward to the big finale. which seems to start well before it starts and really builds to quite the climatic burst. but to actually feel that inside of me, with him on top of me and us kissing each other, and all sweaty, i do not know if i will be able to describe that in words later, but i will try.

thanks for your encouragement, aloha

I waited a long time as well before having unprotected intercourse, so I totally understand the curiosity. He has a big load - the feeling is mainly a bit of warm wetness combined with his cock pulsing and pushing deeper (the best part, imo). There's something extremely sexy about it, but nothing like he's hosing me down and no thick, hard streams of cum filling me up either... Booooooooo! Is that the theme of some of my fave porn, yes. :biggrin: It just isn't realistic.

Hope you share your experience when it happens.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Some leaks out if I leave it. A dime sized spot will show on the sheets, and the rest will cling to me. I prefer to rinse. Not right away, but , before I go to sleep.

 

[gretchenweiner]

Depends on when we're having sex. If we're having sex during the day, then I'll go clean up and throw on some panties so it doesn't leak out on the couch or anything. But if it's right before bedtime, I usually just go to sleep afterwards. If we haven't had sex in a day or two and his load is bigger than normal, I'll go clean up and then go to bed.

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

If we're going to sleep after, i don't clean up. It's just cum, it's not gonna rot the sheets or anything. But then my sex is normally sweaty and sticky and messy and all over the shop (if he's doing it right) so a bit of sperm isn't going to bother me. I@m more inclined to immediately get up and wash when i'm with someone i use a condom with. Hate that horrible smell afterwards.

 

[Serial Kisser]

I don't have unprotected sex. It's high risk. Who wants a baby or the herp? Not this gal.

 

[LaFemme]

Personally, I'm old enough to remember pre-AIDS days when all we used to worry about was pregnancy and the pill took care of that; a strong dose of antibiotics took care of any STDs anyone might catch, so unprotected sex was pretty common. Getting used to condoms was tough. I consider myself pretty blessed to make it through those years unscathed.

Anyway, back then and currently (should I have a long-term monogamous lover) I never worried about cleaning up. Especially when it was someone I cared about it about. There would always be some leakage for the next day and it reminded me of him and what we did. Right after sex, there didn't seem to be that much of a mess. Like AE said, maybe a dime spot and that's it - regardless of how much cum he would produce.

What I find strange is that there were a few guys who would request that I clean up after sex. I'd be all snuggled up in bed and they'd nudge me and say, "Aren't you going to go wash up?" or something to that effect. I found that to be kind of offensive. It was their semen inside me, not something vile! And I didn't see them jumping up to clean up. That was something I found odd.

 

[sanaxx]

as a woman prone to bladder infections, i've always been advised to go pee after sex to help clean out any potential bacteria that might have gotten into the wrong pipes.

most times however if we haven't been doing anything too crazy (involving lots of lube or other messy things), i'll just snuggle up and go to sleep. i'll clean up when i wake and shower.

 

[abu101]

thanks girls for all the excellent replies. i wish i could respond to each of you and thank you individually but you get the idea.

i really did not have any idea if clean up after vaginal sex was mandatory ? optional but frequent ? optional but occasional ? optional but infrequent ? rare ? never ?

i would say based on the replies that no one senses the need for immediate, mandatory clean up and you are ok with just going to sleep and taking a shower in the morning, and no douching even necessary. that... i did not know.

back to my much earlier point for asking the question, i am not too familar with bareback anal but i would imagine that bareback anal (even with your monogamous long term disease free partner) would instead likely result in clean up after sex, but i may be wrong about that.

thanks again ladies, aloha abu

 

[AlteredEgo]

thanks girls for all the excellent replies. i wish i could respond to each of you and thank you individually but you get the idea.

i really did not have any idea if clean up after vaginal sex was mandatory ? optional but frequent ? optional but occasional ? optional but infrequent ? rare ? never ?

i would say based on the replies that no one senses the need for immediate, mandatory clean up and you are ok with just going to sleep and taking a shower in the morning, and no douching even necessary. that... i did not know.

back to my much earlier point for asking the question, i am not too familar with bareback anal but i would imagine that bareback anal (even with your monogamous long term disease free partner) would instead likely result in clean up after sex, but i may be wrong about that.

thanks again ladies, aloha abu

If it's surprise butt sex, I probably need to clean up right away. If I knew it was probable, I probably gave myself an enema before I bathed to go out, and I likely don't need to do any cleanup immediately after sex.

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

I get up right away and clean with anal. It's just too messy for lying down comfortably adter anal and not thinking about it.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Not if you enema thoroughly first.

 

[D_Anne_T_Freeze]

Not if you enema thoroughly first.

I rarely plan anal sex. The mood just takes me during. Or takes him during. TBH it's not a hugely common occurence. I rarely have unprotected sex (i have a strict criteria of the guy having to get tests results THAT DAY and they only have the time they are in my company to have it) so it doesn't happen often. I don't mind mess and they don't mind it plus i have an en suite so it's just a quick walk to the bathroom after and i'm done. Weirdly though, i don't like the feeling of cum up there. I know it sounds weird but it's almost a wriggly feeling. Lol!