Anyone else feels like their dick and their brain belong to two different people?

[deleted28504631]

Here's my thing: I love women. Every crush I've ever had, every romantic relationship (not that I've had many but still), every time I’ve fell in love, they have all been with a woman. I'm still reeling from a breakup with a woman who I thought was "The One." I love looking at hot women. I follow hot thots on Insta, I have a folder full of pics, the only time I've ever paid money on OF was for a woman. Out and about on the street, 9 out of 10 hot people I notice are women.

The problem is, my dick didn't get that memo. It's not that I don't get hard with women, I do. But there's something that I've been refusing to acknowledge for years, something that I've been in denial of for a long time: I get much harder with guys. Now, I haven't actually been a with a man (I'll get to why later), but just jerking off to a man, it's undeniable that I get harder, I finish faster and the orgasm is more intense than when jerking off to women. When I jerk off to women, I usually need porn or really sexy pics, nude or near nude, to cum. But with men, I can jerk off to a picture of a guy's face, I can jerk off to a picture of a guy fully clothed, I don't even need any visual aid, I can just use my imagination. And whenever I'm having sex with a woman I can't help but think, "This feels good. But I wish I was getting fucked by a man instead."

Which leads to the second problem: that my brain didn't get THAT memo. I've never felt anything remotely close to a crush for a guy in real life, much less love. Out and about, I only notice guys if they're REALLY hot, like actual 10s. And that's not because I'm a 10 myself, far from it. And neither are most of the women I've been with or that I've been attracted to. But with men, I just have these abnormally high standards. I've been to a couple of gay bars with a friend and he would point out guys in the crowd like, "what about that one? he's hot" but I'm never into them. I'm scrolling through grindr and I'm only into a handful of obvious 10s that I wouldn't have a shot with anyway.

For a time, I believed that my inability to see irl, accessible men as desirable was a kind of denial of my bisexuality (or homosexuality) and that once I fully accepted that then the world would open up to me like a buffet with hot dudes on every corner. But the truth is, even though I'm still in the closet, I can say with 100% certainty that I don't think I'll ever be interested in being in a relationship with a man. The very thought of romantic or emotional intimacy with a man holds no desire for me, especially compared to the same thing with a woman. But damn, I also want a really hot daddy to bareback me.

It feels like a cruel joke of nature. I wish I was either straight enough to really crave sex with women or gay enough to desire romance with men. But as it is, I'm in a weird in-between place where I can't do either.

 

[Jay1192]

Here's my thing: I love women. Every crush I've ever had, every romantic relationship (not that I've had many but still), every time I’ve fell in love, they have all been with a woman. I'm still reeling from a breakup with a woman who I thought was "The One." I love looking at hot women. I follow hot thots on Insta, I have a folder full of pics, the only time I've ever paid money on OF was for a woman. Out and about on the street, 9 out of 10 hot people I notice are women.

The problem is, my dick didn't get that memo. It's not that I don't get hard with women, I do. But there's something that I've been refusing to acknowledge for years, something that I've been in denial of for a long time: I get much harder with guys. Now, I haven't actually been a with a man (I'll get to why later), but just jerking off to a man, it's undeniable that I get harder, I finish faster and the orgasm is more intense than when jerking off to women. When I jerk off to women, I usually need porn or really sexy pics, nude or near nude, to cum. But with men, I can jerk off to a picture of a guy's face, I can jerk off to a picture of a guy fully clothed, I don't even need any visual aid, I can just use my imagination. And whenever I'm having sex with a woman I can't help but think, "This feels good. But I wish I was getting fucked by a man instead."

Which leads to the second problem: that my brain didn't get THAT memo. I've never felt anything remotely close to a crush for a guy in real life, much less love. Out and about, I only notice guys if they're REALLY hot, like actual 10s. And that's not because I'm a 10 myself, far from it. And neither are most of the women I've been with or that I've been attracted to. But with men, I just have these abnormally high standards. I've been to a couple of gay bars with a friend and he would point out guys in the crowd like, "what about that one? he's hot" but I'm never into them. I'm scrolling through grindr and I'm only into a handful of obvious 10s that I wouldn't have a shot with anyway.

For a time, I believed that my inability to see irl, accessible men as desirable was a kind of denial of my bisexuality (or homosexuality) and that once I fully accepted that then the world would open up to me like a buffet with hot dudes on every corner. But the truth is, even though I'm still in the closet, I can say with 100% certainty that I don't think I'll ever be interested in being in a relationship with a man. The very thought of romantic or emotional intimacy with a man holds no desire for me, especially compared to the same thing with a woman. But damn, I also want a really hot daddy to bareback me.

It feels like a cruel joke of nature. I wish I was either straight enough to really crave sex with women or gay enough to desire romance with men. But as it is, I'm in a weird in-between place where I can't do either.

Bro! I have never met or heard anyone who has the same struggle as me in this area. When I tell you that is the exact same thing that I go through on a regular, that no exaggeration. I thought/felt like I’m completely by myself in that. And I can’t talk to anyone about it. It’s definitely a struggle for me.
Thanks for sharing man.

 

[deleted19462351]

My bisexuality is all over the place and by this point I'd rather not think about it much cause I get even more confused, I've been with guys though it wasn't exactly what I was expecting (but that probably has to do with not having feelings for those I was intimate with and definitely not enjoying casual hook ups)

 

[deleted19462351]

Also there's the fact I like gay porn more than I like having sex with guys, but then again, if I have feelings for someone, they get me harder than anyone, it just happened that I didn't had feelings for them.

 

[Jamesbgck]

I wish I was either straight enough to really crave sex with women or gay enough to desire romance with men. But as it is, I'm in a weird in-between place where I can't do either.

Well said.

 

[demiannasty]

Esto es lo mío: amo a las mujeres. Cada enamoramiento que he tenido, cada relación romántica (no es que haya tenido muchas, pero aun así), cada vez que me he enamorado, todas han sido de una mujer. Todavía me estoy recuperando de una ruptura con una mujer que pensé que era "la indicada". Me encanta mirar mujeres calientes. Sigo chicas calientes en Insta, tengo una carpeta llena de fotos, la única vez que pagué dinero en OF fue por una mujer. En la calle, 9 de cada 10 personas atractivas que noto son mujeres.

El problema es que mi pene no recibió ese memorándum. No es que no me ponga duro con las mujeres, lo hago. Pero hay algo que me he negado a reconocer durante años, algo que he estado negando durante mucho tiempo: me vuelvo mucho más duro con los chicos. Ahora bien, en realidad no he estado con un hombre (luego explicaré por qué), pero con solo masturbarme con un hombre, es innegable que me pongo más duro, termino más rápido y el orgasmo es más intenso que cuando me masturbo. a las mujeres. Cuando me masturbo con mujeres, normalmente necesito porno o fotos realmente sexys, desnudas o casi desnudas, para correrme. Pero con los hombres, puedo masturbarme con una foto de la cara de un chico, puedo masturbarme con una foto de un chico completamente vestido, ni siquiera necesito ninguna ayuda visual, solo puedo usar mi imaginación. Y cada vez que tengo relaciones sexuales con una mujer no puedo evitar pensar: "Esto se siente bien. Pero preferiría que me follara un hombre".

Lo que lleva al segundo problema: que mi cerebro no recibió ESE memo. Nunca he sentido nada remotamente parecido a un enamoramiento por un chico en la vida real, y mucho menos amor. Fuera de casa, sólo noto a los chicos si son REALMENTE atractivos, como los de 10 años. Y eso no es porque yo sea un 10, ni mucho menos. Y tampoco lo son la mayoría de las mujeres con las que he estado o que me han atraído. Pero con los hombres, tengo estándares anormalmente altos. He estado en un par de bares gay con un amigo y él señalaba a los chicos entre la multitud y decía: "¿Qué pasa con ese? Está bueno", pero a mí nunca me gustan. Estoy navegando por grindr y solo me encuentro con un puñado de 10 obvios con los que no tendría oportunidad de todos modos.

Durante un tiempo, creí que mi incapacidad para ver a los hombres libres y accesibles como deseables era una especie de negación de mi bisexualidad (u homosexualidad) y que una vez que aceptara eso por completo, el mundo se abriría ante mí como un buffet con tipos atractivos. en cada esquina. Pero la verdad es que, aunque todavía estoy en el armario, puedo decir con 100% de certeza que no creo que alguna vez me interese tener una relación con un hombre. La sola idea de tener intimidad romántica o emocional con un hombre no me produce ningún deseo, especialmente en comparación con lo mismo con una mujer. Pero maldita sea, también quiero que un papá realmente bueno me haga un bareback.

Parece una broma cruel de la naturaleza. Desearía ser lo suficientemente heterosexual como para desear realmente tener sexo con mujeres o lo suficientemente gay como para desear un romance con hombres. Pero tal como están las cosas, estoy en un extraño lugar intermedio donde no puedo hacer ninguna de las dos cosas.

You are bisexual and it's fine

 

[Torabraaten]

Here's my thing: I love women. Every crush I've ever had, every romantic relationship (not that I've had many but still), every time I’ve fell in love, they have all been with a woman. I'm still reeling from a breakup with a woman who I thought was "The One." I love looking at hot women. I follow hot thots on Insta, I have a folder full of pics, the only time I've ever paid money on OF was for a woman. Out and about on the street, 9 out of 10 hot people I notice are women.

The problem is, my dick didn't get that memo. It's not that I don't get hard with women, I do. But there's something that I've been refusing to acknowledge for years, something that I've been in denial of for a long time: I get much harder with guys. Now, I haven't actually been a with a man (I'll get to why later), but just jerking off to a man, it's undeniable that I get harder, I finish faster and the orgasm is more intense than when jerking off to women. When I jerk off to women, I usually need porn or really sexy pics, nude or near nude, to cum. But with men, I can jerk off to a picture of a guy's face, I can jerk off to a picture of a guy fully clothed, I don't even need any visual aid, I can just use my imagination. And whenever I'm having sex with a woman I can't help but think, "This feels good. But I wish I was getting fucked by a man instead."

Which leads to the second problem: that my brain didn't get THAT memo. I've never felt anything remotely close to a crush for a guy in real life, much less love. Out and about, I only notice guys if they're REALLY hot, like actual 10s. And that's not because I'm a 10 myself, far from it. And neither are most of the women I've been with or that I've been attracted to. But with men, I just have these abnormally high standards. I've been to a couple of gay bars with a friend and he would point out guys in the crowd like, "what about that one? he's hot" but I'm never into them. I'm scrolling through grindr and I'm only into a handful of obvious 10s that I wouldn't have a shot with anyway.

For a time, I believed that my inability to see irl, accessible men as desirable was a kind of denial of my bisexuality (or homosexuality) and that once I fully accepted that then the world would open up to me like a buffet with hot dudes on every corner. But the truth is, even though I'm still in the closet, I can say with 100% certainty that I don't think I'll ever be interested in being in a relationship with a man. The very thought of romantic or emotional intimacy with a man holds no desire for me, especially compared to the same thing with a woman. But damn, I also want a really hot daddy to bareback me.

It feels like a cruel joke of nature. I wish I was either straight enough to really crave sex with women or gay enough to desire romance with men. But as it is, I'm in a weird in-between place where I can't do either

 

[Torabraaten]

I'm starting to acknowledge my attraction to women and I'm married to a very conservative man. New feeling's and I'd love to explore with a married couple but that's not going to happen while still married. Oh bother!!!

 

[nhguy78]

Attractions don't have to be equal. Could be 60-40, 55-45. Enjoy it.

 

[celestialone]

Here's my thing: I love women. Every crush I've ever had, every romantic relationship (not that I've had many but still), every time I’ve fell in love, they have all been with a woman. I'm still reeling from a breakup with a woman who I thought was "The One." I love looking at hot women. I follow hot thots on Insta, I have a folder full of pics, the only time I've ever paid money on OF was for a woman. Out and about on the street, 9 out of 10 hot people I notice are women.

The problem is, my dick didn't get that memo. It's not that I don't get hard with women, I do. But there's something that I've been refusing to acknowledge for years, something that I've been in denial of for a long time: I get much harder with guys. Now, I haven't actually been a with a man (I'll get to why later), but just jerking off to a man, it's undeniable that I get harder, I finish faster and the orgasm is more intense than when jerking off to women. When I jerk off to women, I usually need porn or really sexy pics, nude or near nude, to cum. But with men, I can jerk off to a picture of a guy's face, I can jerk off to a picture of a guy fully clothed, I don't even need any visual aid, I can just use my imagination. And whenever I'm having sex with a woman I can't help but think, "This feels good. But I wish I was getting fucked by a man instead."

Which leads to the second problem: that my brain didn't get THAT memo. I've never felt anything remotely close to a crush for a guy in real life, much less love. Out and about, I only notice guys if they're REALLY hot, like actual 10s. And that's not because I'm a 10 myself, far from it. And neither are most of the women I've been with or that I've been attracted to. But with men, I just have these abnormally high standards. I've been to a couple of gay bars with a friend and he would point out guys in the crowd like, "what about that one? he's hot" but I'm never into them. I'm scrolling through grindr and I'm only into a handful of obvious 10s that I wouldn't have a shot with anyway.

For a time, I believed that my inability to see irl, accessible men as desirable was a kind of denial of my bisexuality (or homosexuality) and that once I fully accepted that then the world would open up to me like a buffet with hot dudes on every corner. But the truth is, even though I'm still in the closet, I can say with 100% certainty that I don't think I'll ever be interested in being in a relationship with a man. The very thought of romantic or emotional intimacy with a man holds no desire for me, especially compared to the same thing with a woman. But damn, I also want a really hot daddy to bareback me.

It feels like a cruel joke of nature. I wish I was either straight enough to really crave sex with women or gay enough to desire romance with men. But as it is, I'm in a weird in-between place where I can't do either.

Sounds like internalized homophobia.... by sounds like, I mean, IS.

 

[celestialone]

Attractions don't have to be equal. Could be 60-40, 55-45. Enjoy it.

They can even be 99-1.... If you like dick and pussy, you're bi.... even if 99% of the time you like the opposite/same sex.

 

[deleted28504631]

Sounds like internalized homophobia.... by sounds like, I mean, IS.

Well, if you know how to fix it, by all means, let me know.

 

[here2cdicks]

Also there's the fact I like gay porn more than I like having sex with guys, but then again, if I have feelings for someone, they get me harder than anyone, it just happened that I didn't had feelings for them.

I mean I'm gay but gang bangs and group scenes only sound good in theory to me but in reality I'm always either like meh or hell no. But most of that's because most people doing groups these days don't give a second thought to contracting any diseases or viruses. Sorry prep isn't a cover all- it only works against STD and any and all infections from any other STD compromises its effectiveness

 

[deleted19462351]

I definitely enjoyed having sex with men, not as much as I thought I would be, but I'm sure that has to do with:
A. I wasn't really into them to begin with, no feelings, no friendship, no nothing.
B. Casual hooks ups sound good on paper but in reality for me and that's fine.

 

[678wsb]

Bro! I have never met or heard anyone who has the same struggle as me in this area. When I tell you that is the exact same thing that I go through on a regular, that no exaggeration. I thought/felt like I’m completely by myself in that. And I can’t talk to anyone about it. It’s definitely a struggle for me.
Thanks for sharing man.

It's the same for me.

 

[Alberto.ftw]

Are your attraction to women romantic as if you would rather start a family with, or a close companionship of sisterhood like the gays called "besties"? You are romantically straight but sexually gay. I think there is a pride flag somewhere abt this

 

[deleted28504631]

Are your attraction to women romantic as if you would rather start a family with, or a close companionship of sisterhood like the gays called "besties"? You are romantically straight but sexually gay. I think there is a pride flag somewhere abt this

Definitely romantic, as if to start a family with. I've always had lots of female friends (about as many as male friends) so the difference between seeing a woman as a friend or companion and seeing her romantically is pretty clear to me.

 

[Smolguy]

Yes 100% I really want somebody sweet who makes me feel safe and comfy, somebody I can make food for and smile with and make amazing memories with

And on the flip side I see a man with a large bulge and I lose my mind, and feel guilty about it because I really want something meaningful and special

 

[deleted19462351]

You could definitely have something meaningful and special with a guy, though in my experience its hard to find one with emotional intelligence.

 

[deleted19462351]

I have evolved, I cannot do hook ups with men anymore (and I've tried) I need to have feelings for them too or at least like them, otherwise it doesn't work.