As a group of Straight Man, would you go to Japanese Onsen / Publich Bathouse with your gay bestfriend?

[Brianhalim]

I am a gay/bi man, and I will be traveling to Japan with my group of straight best friends (mostly men in their late 20s), and half of them know that I’m gay/bi.

We’ve discussed going to an onsen, and we’re all a bit concerned about feeling shy or awkward since, in our culture, it’s uncommon to see each other nude. Honestly, I wouldn’t mind going to the onsen fully naked, but I’m worried about how my straight friends might feel about it.

So, I want to ask for your opinions. As straight men traveling in a group, would you feel uncomfortable if one of the group members is gay and you’re all going to the onsen together? Or would it be better for the gay friend to go at a separate time?

 

[Rooker]

There is just no way a sampling of Internet responses are going to give you the insight you need. It seems like comfort with nudity will influence the response more than the difference in sexuality.

 

[cofrader]

I am a gay/bi man, and I will be traveling to Japan with my group of straight best friends (mostly men in their late 20s), and half of them know that I’m gay/bi.

We’ve discussed going to an onsen, and we’re all a bit concerned about feeling shy or awkward since, in our culture, it’s uncommon to see each other nude. Honestly, I wouldn’t mind going to the onsen fully naked, but I’m worried about how my straight friends might feel about it.

So, I want to ask for your opinions. As straight men traveling in a group, would you feel uncomfortable if one of the group members is gay and you’re all going to the onsen together? Or would it be better for the gay friend to go at a separate time?

Ok you are going to a small town in Japan and it has baths. A very unusual choice for your age.
Anyway they are your friends, naked or not doesn't anything, a common area where people happen to be naked doesn't make it a pickup bar.

https://imgur.com/0PCvVq0

 

[Brianhalim]

Ok you are going to a small town in Japan and it has baths. A very unusual choice for your age.
Anyway they are your friends, naked or not doesn't anything, a common area where people happen to be naked doesn't make it a pickup bar.

https://imgur.com/0PCvVq0

why is it unusual choice for my age? we just want to feel a new experience since it is cultural thing in Japan, well i agree with you i wouldnt do anything to them, im just afraid of what they think of me, i just afraid they will think i will take advantage to take a glimpse when we go to onsen. if they think like that, i prefer not joining, im not gonna ruin our relatiionship over that and not going to ruin a long planned trip

 

[cofrader]

why is it unusual choice for my age? we just want to feel a new experience since it is cultural thing in Japan, well i agree with you i wouldnt do anything to them, im just afraid of what they think of me, i just afraid they will think i will take advantage to take a glimpse when we go to onsen. if they think like that, i prefer not joining, im not gonna ruin our relatiionship over that and not going to ruin a long planned trip

I just remembered homer on the university. Party! or at least karaoke.
It's your choice based on how can you control yourself if you are like a gremlin that can't get wet without making a mess you could give an excuse.
Naked people is not a big deal but i don't think it's mandatory just follow the group and what are you comfortable with. If the point of visiting that city is the bath it would be a shame to miss it.

 

[ronin001]

I think there are mineral springs in Indonesia. I have no idea if they are as classically erotic as the ones in Japan. Friends, best friends can be jack asses at times, so be careful no one snaps a picture with their phone. Even a harmless picture of mild horse play if shared on local social media, can get you into trouble in Indonesia under Sharia law.

But to answer the question, none of my friends would be traveling without their wives. Sooooo no long distance boys only road trips