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I really think lingering prejudice against homosexuals grew out of the AIDS epidemic in the 80s. I won't say that people accepted homosexuality in the 70s, but it seems like everyone knew someone who was gay, they didn't talk about it, but it was acknowledged. Even Archie Bunker had a gay friend, to his surprise. People loved bands like Queen. I think we were on our way to a place of comfort like the Will & Grace era until AIDS took hold.
I definitely recognize the improvements of today vs. years past...I didn't ask in the sense that I experience homophobia daily. I was really just curious how straight guys view it. I have my opinions but wanted to hear other ones. The openness of gay people today has made a huge impact on society. Everyone probably has a gay relative that they actually like and have a hard time condemning. Lots of friends groups , especially younger have gay and straight members. All that is definitely something I'm grateful for.How gay men are treated today is 1000% better than ever before.
Why not celebrate that, and enjoy the continuation of that, rather than focusing on what little negative treatment that exist.
We have came a long-long way. Ask any gay man over 50. Who grew up and went to high school and knew if their feelings were exposed, they would - literally - be in very real physical danger. I remember how some feminine boys were treated in the early 80s when I was in high school. They were downright tortured - DAILY.
We have improved tremendously since then. Be thankful for that and look forward to that continuation.
This!Frankly, I see heterophobia on this site sometime. It's not a one way thing. It's the fear of validation of our peers.
I guess making the question is the most important not sure if it ever will answered.In a world of polarisation where everyone hold on to their belief. Where a difference mean a menace too their established security.
One can view homosexuality as dislike of conformity. Something that doesn't fit in their perspective.
Frankly, I see heterophobia on this site sometime. It's not a one way thing. It's the fear of validation of our peers.
Phobia is a survival instinct, to protect our mental concepts.
Like everything else, acceptance is the remedy. Take care of yourself my friend, It's good that you ask yourself those questions, but focusing on them only give them fuel.
I think what he's trying to say is that the AID crisis ramped up what may have been a waning stigma and made it that much worse going foward. The 90's was homophobia on steroids. I think that we regressed as a community during the 90's and 2000's because we lost a lot of elders and possibly role models during the 80's.Homophobia existed long before the AIDS crisis...
What i see a lot here is a view of "there is no heterosexuality, only bi. Straight people are bisexuals who have not come out of the closet yet".
This is what i meant.I think all men have internalized homosexual desires. Those that can't come to terms with their feelings express it as varying levels of homophobia.
Woa !So I answered earlier, but hearing these responses, are making me pivot a bit because it seems like people are answering to more of a collective societal sense of homophobia then instead of why specifically straight men are so. I stand by my resentment hypothesis because I do think it's a layer present, but I think for whatever reason, people here are tiptoeing over the obvious basis of specific straight male homophobia, and how it relates to heterosexual sexual opportunities. What I've observed in the West is that amongst the small echelon of attractive, desirable, and powerful men, homophobia not only disappears but a lot more sexual fluidity and deviance seems to appear. Which is why your coworker seems to have gay panic near an openly homosexual man, but Tom Hardy can allude to having messed around with guys before nonchalantly. What I've also observed is in non western cultures where sex is considered more of an obligation that women are to bestow upon men, they've managed to societally reconcile non heteronormative interactions, up to and often including homosexual or transsexual encounters and couplings.
I don't know how an experiment could be set up, and I couldn't tell you how the the metrics would be extrapolated exactly, but I'm willing to bet could you take any significant population of straight men(in the west), and you'd find the "% of homophobia expressed" exists in an somewhat direct inverse ratio to "% of men deemed desirable by the average straight woman"
The few short men deemed desirable by women at large tend not to have short man insecurities. Broke men have no qualms about their socioeconomic ineffectiveness when they are successful hobosexuals. "Himbos" are often quite happy with being percieved as unintelligent. Every single aversion, phobia, insecurity, or negative projection common to straight men in some way shape or form exists as an inverse to their attractiveness to straight women, more specifically the opportunities their desirability conjures.