I really like the offerings from Lovense. The Hush 2 comes in various sizes... I suggest if you are used to something up there, go with a medium. It will be challenging and filling but will help you become accustomed to the sensation. If you are new, go with a small... I think the extra small is just too little to add much to play. I especially like it because it's waterproof, you can wear it for long periods of time, and you can let a partner connect to it on their phone even if they are on the other side of the world. They can change the speed and even make a "playlist" of vibrations for you. Another product they have that I'm considering getting is the Edge 2. The Edge 2 has the same connectivity capability but also pushes against your prostate with a vibration and motor. It has a large base that presses on the outside of the perinium to contact your prostate that way. It doesn't look like it would be something you could put in and leave in (like the Hush2) but it looks great for an edging session. I've done the long distance thing with a buddy I haven't seen since college. Was fun. These products also connect to your phone's microphone to vibrate when it hears noise, they connect to music, even a video game. Getting that kind of vibration inside you while doing work or other activities is kind of hot. It's not quiet enough that people won't notice when it's buzzing... but you can turn off the vibration and keep it in. I find that it's a good stretch to get used to something in me if I plan on trying some anal play with wife, buddy, or whatever.