Gay guy here but I’ve had talked with my boyfriend about how big he is compared to other guys I’ve been with. He’s not the biggest I’ve had and I think that bothered him at first but now he couldn’t give a shit.
Conversations With Women About Past Penis Sizes
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Yes, but you're gay and you've talked with your boyfriend about it. The thread is about, "Conversations With Women About Past Penis Sizes." The significance of the question lies in the unremarkable fact that men will talk about dicks, and dick size, and all things dick to exhaustion because men care very much about dick. But women do not, by and large, and the man to which said dick is attached is much more important and interesting to them. Consequently, women have no compulsion to discuss "past penis sizes" with other women, much less, men. I get that men refuse to believe it, no matter how many times women say it. I get that someone will say, "Well, my (wife, girlfriend, best friend who is a girl, second female cousin once removed...) once got drunk and told me about a guy who had a dick that was...." but that does not obviate the fact that women care very little about dick per se (as long as it works), and men care a great deal about dick in every infinitesimal detail.
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I'm discreet bi. LTR Gfs I've had knew. I've had conversations with them about size.
Most women (or people in general) are not good at accurately gauging penis size just by looking. I've had exes guess that I was around 7-7.5". In reality, I am 6.25-6.5". Whenever I hear or read of women describing dick size, it's safe to assume 1-2" shorter than stated. And usually it is correct.
Women I've dated have told me that they've been with men who were smaller and bigger. The bigger ones tended to hurt. They described it as "being punched in the stomach" because a 8"+ would hit their cervix. Some described awkward situations where it was too painful to even take in and had to stop, or couldn't even begin intercourse, thus leading to an awkward disappointment on both parties.
Whereas the smaller ones there were no complaints. They only brought up their small size in a way to put them down because the guy was an asshole. I've come to the conclusion that most women do not care about dick size unless you hurt their feelings so they will use a small size to hurt them back. I did know one women who described having sex with a guy who had a micropenis. She said she couldn't feel anything sex wise. But she did have strong emotional feelings for him.
When I was younger, I used to stress out a lot because I am an Asian male and the stereotype is so casually thrown around. Being older, and having been with a number of men of all races and backgrounds, I can anecdotally say that the race/size thing is a myth. There is a lot of bad infographics and unreliable self-reported studies floating around the internet with a racial-superiority angle. I'm taller than the average white male and more hung than the average worldwide male (me being 6.25-6.5" while the average is 5-5.5"). I've hooked up with short Asian guys with hung cocks and big Black guys with small cocks. It's all stereotypes designed to make white dudes feel like the "standard"; to feel better about themselves compared to other races (eg, Black is to be feared, Asian is to be put down)
I've been with many white dudes who were smaller, average, or bigger. I've personally seen and handled them. I've visited nude bath houses, gay bath houses, saunas, etc. Size and race really don't have a correlation. If someone truly believes it, then I chalk it up to conditioned racism that makes them look at men of certain races and automatically think small or big.
Obviously I can't speak on behalf of women. And of course there will be exceptions and women who fall for the stereotypes as well. Sexuality is very personal and we all have a uniquely idealized version of it. Some women will think bigger is better for them. Most won't.
My past exes have also complimented me on being one of the best they've had. When I asked for them to go into detail, they described it as me being "emotionally present". That I was eager to please them with foreplay, connection, assertiveness, dominance, and cuddling afterward. Whereas they described not-so-great past partners as being lazy, selfish, and emotionally absent.
I'm discreet bi. LTR Gfs I've had knew. I've had conversations with them about size.
Most women (or people in general) are not good at accurately gauging penis size just by looking. I've had exes guess that I was around 7-7.5". In reality, I am 6.25-6.5". Whenever I hear or read of women describing dick size, it's safe to assume 1-2" shorter than stated. And usually it is correct.
Women I've dated have told me that they've been with men who were smaller and bigger. The bigger ones tended to hurt. They described it as "being punched in the stomach" because a 8"+ would hit their cervix. Some described awkward situations where it was too painful to even take in and had to stop, or couldn't even begin intercourse, thus leading to an awkward disappointment on both parties.
Whereas the smaller ones there were no complaints. They only brought up their small size in a way to put them down because the guy was an asshole. I've come to the conclusion that most women do not care about dick size unless you hurt their feelings so they will use a small size to hurt them back. I did know one women who described having sex with a guy who had a micropenis. She said she couldn't feel anything sex wise. But she did have strong emotional feelings for him.
When I was younger, I used to stress out a lot because I am an Asian male and the stereotype is so casually thrown around. Being older, and having been with a number of men of all races and backgrounds, I can anecdotally say that the race/size thing is a myth. There is a lot of bad infographics and unreliable self-reported studies floating around the internet with a racial-superiority angle. I'm taller than the average white male and more hung than the average worldwide male (me being 6.25-6.5" while the average is 5-5.5"). I've hooked up with short Asian guys with hung cocks and big Black guys with small cocks. It's all stereotypes designed to make white dudes feel like the "standard"; to feel better about themselves compared to other races (eg, Black is to be feared, Asian is to be put down)
I've been with many white dudes who were smaller, average, or bigger. I've personally seen and handled them. I've visited nude bath houses, gay bath houses, saunas, etc. Size and race really don't have a correlation. If someone truly believes it, then I chalk it up to conditioned racism that makes them look at men of certain races and automatically think small or big.
Obviously I can't speak on behalf of women. And of course there will be exceptions and women who fall for the stereotypes as well. Sexuality is very personal and we all have a uniquely idealized version of it. Some women will think bigger is better for them. Most won't.
My past exes have also complimented me on being one of the best they've had. When I asked for them to go into detail, they described it as me being "emotionally present". That I was eager to please them with foreplay, connection, assertiveness, dominance, and cuddling afterward. Whereas they described not-so-great past partners as being lazy, selfish, and emotionally absent.
I was in a band with a somewhat short fellow with quite modest looks who was fairly well known as being on the small side. I have no idea what that means, but I doubt it means "micropenis". Guy had been out with almost every nice looking girl we knew, had girls at his work fighting over him, stayed on good terms with any whom he no longer dated, and could probably take his pick of whichever one he had wanted to remain with. Despite what some of my male friends wanted to believe, it started before he became popular in any band, so it wasn't that. It also started long before (I assume) any of us were out looking for "marriage material", so it wasn't that either. He was smart, funny, ambitious, and a nice guy, so I guess the small thing really is low on the list for many. He's got a beautiful wife, kids, and a good job now, and is hopefully doing very well.
- and ditto from me on that
Truth is no woman is gonna like any cock under 4 inches appealing. They really just care if they cum. If you can make
her cum with your tongue with toys and any clitoral stimulation they will be fine.
her cum with your tongue with toys and any clitoral stimulation they will be fine.
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I've never had conversations with the women I've been with about penis size that included inches, for this very reason. When discussing sizes of past partners in comparison with me, it was while they were actively stroking and/or sucking my fully engorged erection. One said the longest she'd had was 'this much' longer than my penis (7") holding her fingers about 1 1/2 inches above the tip of mine. Other very experienced women mentioned that I was among the largest they've encountered as most guys were, well, average! (as expected!)
Almost all of them made comments about my girth (6") while gripping it, and they all loved the combination of that very thick girth with an above average length, labeling me as 'big', 'huge', 'perfect', 'hung', 'big boy', etc. Other than using lube to help with insertion and ensuring the women were comfortable, every woman has been able to comfortably enjoy full insertion of all of me, most even enjoying deep thrusting once we got going.
This! Exactly! While the women I've been with loved the 'filled up' feeling when I was inside them, I was called a good/great lover by them because of everything else you describe! Paying attention to what the woman wants, how she wants it done, attentiveness, eagerness to please, etc. ensures she has the best possible sexual experience.
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I've had conversations about priror sizes and 'comparison/pecking order' of size. Although I never probed for the information, it was often just volunteered after a reaction' such as 'shit its huge' 'oh yeah' 'yeah, definately biggest ive seen' and then maybe later on would openly discuss more specifics about past penises. Sometimes in the heat of sex I may have said 'you like that big dick' and theyve moaned something like 'i've never had one this big'
Most had either had some big dick before but they were saying mine was a step up even. For some it was going from mostly average, to their first huge one.
I do quite enjoy some open comparison but I tend to be careful about going down the outright probing route. As I figure, if you probe they could lie to stroke or protect ego, where as if its organically volunteered, its more likely to be the truth.
Most had either had some big dick before but they were saying mine was a step up even. For some it was going from mostly average, to their first huge one.
I do quite enjoy some open comparison but I tend to be careful about going down the outright probing route. As I figure, if you probe they could lie to stroke or protect ego, where as if its organically volunteered, its more likely to be the truth.
I have a 4-inch penis. I don't ever remember any woman saying she came because of the motion -- or that she "didn't cum because of the motion" -- but many have have said because I'm "an attentive, caring, and skilled lover", or words to that effect; some have thrown in "creative" and "fun"; some just because they think I'm "a hunk"; and many more because I have a fantastic tongue.
I totally agree with @Pficcie255:
I particularly go along with "There is no universal way to make a woman cum every time." That's what I meant by creative. I've heard guys reel off how their secret formula in screwing a girl, like the steps in assembling a piece of furniture; I find "listening" to what a woman's body is telling you is the secret of success when it comes to sex.
Yes, it's true "some like to dom and humiliate to get turned on and so prefer small cocks", and that can be really hot, but I've found many just like small cocks.
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I totally agree, every woman is not the same. From my personal experiences though, ever since I was about 25 and learned what positions and angles work best for my penis shape, literally every woman cums in these positions. It almost feels like a cheat code
"We" should be less braggadocious for fear that such self-congratulatory hyperbole is considered a pretentious and spurious attempt to impress the gullible and interpreted as a cover-up for a truth that is less fortunate.
I am 5.5x4.8. I tried to get some details from my wife but she says she doesn't remember her ex's size. Which sounds fishy to me.
Many times she has said to me that she can't feel anything and often make true sph remarks like "your penis has gone soft" and "make it hard" or "you don't have the stamina for me". She loves the carrying position and standing sex which i cannot perform due to my very limited stamina and extremely limited size, Many positions are impossible for me but she gets the urge for it and wants to go for a long time. As soons as she get's turned on i prematurely ejaculate. She then get's frustrated.
I told her i used to have an inch more in length when i was in my late teens. Now in my thirties i have lost some size. Her words were "well then make it longer".
This has been going on for years now.
Many times she has said to me that she can't feel anything and often make true sph remarks like "your penis has gone soft" and "make it hard" or "you don't have the stamina for me". She loves the carrying position and standing sex which i cannot perform due to my very limited stamina and extremely limited size, Many positions are impossible for me but she gets the urge for it and wants to go for a long time. As soons as she get's turned on i prematurely ejaculate. She then get's frustrated.
I told her i used to have an inch more in length when i was in my late teens. Now in my thirties i have lost some size. Her words were "well then make it longer".
This has been going on for years now.
Evenflow618
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@belvano start doing a kegel routine, if you are overweight start working out like today if you can. Do lower body exercises everyday. Start the kegels you will gain your full hardness for sure
My first wife made me wear a child's toy rubber bagel over my erection to prevent me from going too deep. In the early 1990’s, I was divorced and convinced my girlfriend to go for a MMF threesome. We were both new to our town and we didn’t know any good candidates, so I placed an ad in a local free hippie paper that held a section in the personals section titled "Other." My ad went on and on about how hot she was, how big her natural tits were, how long her legs were, and how we were looking for someone massively hung to fuck her. We got about a dozen letters in my P.O. box. She choose none of them, as they didn't get her going. In other words, I wasted $50 on the ad.
She wrote the next ad, which stated that she wanted to read some men's fantasies and if they matched any of hers or tickled her greatly, she and I might be willing to make them come true. She went on to state that she didn't want any cock pics and that as far as cocks went, smaller was definitely better than bigger, which was not what I expected to write. She also described herself as being attractive enough; that was it (and she was extra-fine looking, a 31 year-old tall blonde from Europe, with a sexy accent). Ok, how did this ad do?
It also got about a dozen replies. Three or four included hard cock pics and she immediately threw them away. The last letter was from a 52 year-old recently divorced man who hadn't had any sex in years. He had a small penis and he was terrified of entering the dating scene because of it. My girlfriend was into older guys (I was about 38 at the time) and she liked this letter best, as it was several pages long and it included a photo of him taken a photo studio, you know the kind CPAs and realtors have taken.
We all went out to dinner and he told us his life story. He was extremely well dressed and gentlemanly and funny. Later, when he took off his clothes, I had to suppress a laugh, as he had a 3-inch cock, hard. It was normally thick, maybe thicker than most, but really short (it might have been 2.5" long, I was being generous with 3"). She loved it. She got on top and rode his cock as if he was Brad Pitt. She also came like crazy; I think that his short pecker hit her G-spot perfectly. She told me that his ex must have been crazy to let such a sexy man go. We got together with him several times.
Really? That's "truth?" Rather than your speaking for an entire population of heterosexual women -- for which you are hardly qualified -- you should be clear that you speak only for your own unfortunate circumstance.
I do them already. My dick get to 5inch only full hard on the thickest part of the shaft. But I still can't touch her walls. Feels like just a hot vacuum.
Evenflow618
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It’s time to find a partner with a smaller vagina. Sexually you and your current partner are not compatible genital wise
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