Cruising Habits - Frequency.

[jamiesux]

Wilhelm Reich always said there was two directions blood could go, towards the heart (anxiety and "constriction") or towards the genitals (pleasure and "expansion") and felt that anxiety was a "direction" of energy that is antithetical to the pleasure function.

Psilocybin is certainly wondrous. I think I may have maxed out my neurotransmitters on it though, having abused higher doses of psychedelics throughout my adulthood. but I definitely see it as a valid treatment for many.

William Reich : I did some body work with a therapist who used his techniques and found the changes were subtle but very effective.

But. I’ve been send my blood to my heart to much then
And is it that those horny guys have no fear and therefore send blood for pleasure and this always horny

 

[jamiesux]

I love this thread. I haven’t cruised in a few years because we’ve moved to a more remote area and I feel that phone apps have put a serious dent in guys looking for sex in the woods. I can also relate to nerves affecting my part in any encounter. Does anyone want to share cruising experiences or is that another forum?

A friend of mine always goes walking and mostly picks up. He walks around ovals and either sees or needs to bend over to do laces up and this signals his wishes or his balls flop out as he running shorts are to short.
Ahem… he never runs

 

[dreambridger]

William Reich : I did some body work with a therapist who used his techniques and found the changes were subtle but very effective.

But. I’ve been send my blood to my heart to much then
And is it that those horny guys have no fear and therefore send blood for pleasure and this always horny

that's awesome! I'm a huge Wilhelm Reich nerd, I don't know why I respond so much to his stuff, perhaps I just have a soft spot for stubborn "outsider" visionary geniuses who believe it's up to them to change the world. I've even virtually attended some of the annual Wilhelm Reich Infant Trust seminars, which has given me access to unpublished archives. and I do believe that he's at least correct about the fact there's a physical correspondence to all mental neurosis.

and yeah, part of my anxiety definitely seemed encouraged by my perception that those cruising guys seem fearless in their readiness to fuck, which just made me more of a shivering deer in the headlights and feeling childish compared to them. Hence why it was comforting to hear from WilliamG that even more experienced cruisers might have to fight a little to establish that courage.

 

[jamiesux]

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that's awesome! I'm a huge Wilhelm Reich nerd, I don't know why I respond so much to his stuff, perhaps I just have a soft spot for stubborn "outsider" visionary geniuses who believe it's up to them to change the world. I've even virtually attended some of the annual Wilhelm Reich Infant Trust seminars, which has given me access to unpublished archives. and I do believe that he's at least correct about the fact there's a physical correspondence to all mental neurosis.

and yeah, part of my anxiety definitely seemed encouraged by my perception that those cruising guys seem fearless in their readiness to fuck, which just made me more of a shivering deer in the headlights and feeling childish compared to them. Hence why it was comforting to hear from WilliamG that even more experienced cruisers might have to fight a little to establish that courage.

I think you just have to bite the nail and go

Or

Maybe it’s just not your thing!!


Or

Research the area.
Picking day or night can make a difference.

In a busy area outside a huge city where there is continuous action one can feel protected.
Some areas I cruised I only went during the day and also in daylight one sees if one of really interested in you or you in them.

Night times can be ‘desperate to get off’ and that’s fine but if one is sensitive then it can play havoc with the nerves.

One of my fave cruise areas outside of a large city was by some water. One could hide if unwanted people arrived , ie cops or even people you just don’t like.
But in that area there was always men looking to suck. Fuck. Be fucked or just jerk off.

I used check new areas out in my free time when I wasn’t looking or desperate to get action and therefore was a walker out for a walk.

Otherwise, why stress yourself out when it is better to research. Check things out. More relaxed rather than dealing with anxiety all the time.

 

[dreambridger]

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I think you just have to bite the nail and go

Or

Maybe it’s just not your thing!!


Or

Research the area.
Picking day or night can make a difference.

In a busy area outside a huge city where there is continuous action one can feel protected.
Some areas I cruised I only went during the day and also in daylight one sees if one of really interested in you or you in them.

Night times can be ‘desperate to get off’ and that’s fine but if one is sensitive then it can play havoc with the nerves.

One of my fave cruise areas outside of a large city was by some water. One could hide if unwanted people arrived , ie cops or even people you just don’t like.
But in that area there was always men looking to suck. Fuck. Be fucked or just jerk off.

I used check new areas out in my free time when I wasn’t looking or desperate to get action and therefore was a walker out for a walk.

Otherwise, why stress yourself out when it is better to research. Check things out. More relaxed rather than dealing with anxiety all the time.

I'll be moving to a college town soon where I think it'll be a lot easier for me. I hooked up really easily the last time I visited there and found I'm *way* less nervous around much younger guys.

 

[Geo0104947]

The first time I went to the forest preserve on my way home from the mall because I had heard that guys cruised there. I had no idea how it worked. It was January and I sat in my car in the parking lot. I wasn’t there long and another guy pulled in about 3 spots away from me. I tried to act disinterested but kept stealing glances at him. He looked about my age and was watching me very closely. I saw him shrink down in his seat and his arm was moving like he was jacking off. I really couldn’t see anything but was desperate to get better vantage so I got out of my car and causally tried to walk past his. Sure enough his cock was out hard and being pumped by his right hand. I stood there staring and he motioned me to get in. I got into the passenger side of his car and he asked what I wanted. I said I really need a bj because my wife refuses. He said it’s not safe here and asked if it was ok for him to drive to a remote parking area he knows. On the way I learned he is a doctor and felt I was getting lectured on safe sex. When we got there he unwrapped a condom and put on me before gobbling up my cock. I think he wanted this more than me. He was swallowing the full length of my cock and I was reclined back loving it. Wasn’t long and I filled that condom for him. He took it off and carefully cleaned me up. Then he drove me back to my car and we discussed meeting again there. I never saw him again. I had many failed attempts after that to try to find someone at the forest preserve , and it was months before I learned how to find guys interested in sex. My first time was lucky and I wonder some time if I would not have returned if it had been unsuccessful.

 

[Geo0104947]

Following my first experience at the forest preserve I returned several times and nobody was there. After a few weeks I stopped by when I had some time to wait it out. I drove to the furthest parking area from the road and backed my car into a parking place so I could see others who drove past. I had also seen other guys backing into parking spots and wondered if it was a signal that they were looking. Anyway I had drove past a parking area with like 10 parked cars but no occupants. I assumed it was couples or families out on a hike because it was a nice day. It didn’t take long and a guy backed into the spot next to me and I sensed he may be looking because his gaze at me lasted a bit too long, such that it made me uncomfortable. Suddenly he got out of his car and walked into the woods. I thought that was strange because I definitely thought he was interested but then just walked off. I was really still learning and wasn’t reading his signals correctly. Shortly he returned to his vehicle but this time didn’t look my way before driving off. I was trying to figure out if he was interested and what I was supposed to do when I decided I would follow him in the car. He drove back to the parking lot that had many unoccupied cars. He parked and quickly jumped out heading down a trail into the woods before I could even get my car parked. I saw him glance back at me over his shoulder as he walked as if saying follow me. Much later I learned that the woods by this particular parking lot were where the most guys went for cruising because the trails created like a labyrinth in the woods. I would return here frequently. I jumped out of my car and followed him down the trail but I never found him because the trail split many times and I didn’t know which direction he went. It didn’t matter though because there were horny guys wondering everywhere in the woods. Literally it was only minutes before this 20 year old thin guy with shoulder length dark hair was following behind me. I was uncomfortable with all the people around so I took a small path that led to a dead end deep in the woods. When the trail disappeared I turned around and was standing face to face with this cute younger guy. He said his name was Martin. He asked what I was looking for and I told him I really just wanted a bj. He said let’s see it. I unbuttoned my pants and my rock hard cock sprang out. I really needed this and just the thought that it may happen had me rock hard. He immediately knelt down and I felt his warm wet mouth wrap around my cock. All my nerves about a stranger performing sex on me literally in a public place evaporated. I was quickly learning that guys were much more eager than my wife had ever been in orally servicing me. Guys went to work hoping and expecting me to cum, where my wife acted like it was her worst fear. Martin was throating my cock and would occasionally lick and suck my balls. I started to push my cock into his throat and he seemed to welcome that. When I was about to cum I told him and tried to pull away. He grabbed the back of my legs and latched on swallowing every drop. I am sure it was a big load and he was wiping his mouth with his sleeve as he stood up. He never gave any indication of expecting reciprocation and for many years I didn’t offer. I just figured that we both got what we needed. I started talking to him because I wanted to meet him again but all he said was that he worked at a factory nearby and needed to get to work. He said he frequently stops here on his way to work and maybe we will see each other again. I never saw him again.
I did learn that I have to get out of the car and walk the woods though, and that empty cars in the lot is a good thing. I returned to that spot many times and was rarely disappointed.

 

[Geo0104947]

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The first video does good job showing cruising in the woods and the signals that you get from other guys