Have any of you straight men ever hooked up with another man, yet still consider yourself straight?
funny the question is phased in such a way that a yes or no answer would not work.
Actually it does.funny the question is phased in such a way that a yes or no answer would not work.
Actually it does.
"Have any of you straight men ever hooked up with another man"
That is a yes or no question
"yet still consider yourself straight? "
That is also a yes or not question, and beyond that is is a yes or no question posing as a qualifier for the previous question.
So yeah. No works.
It should have been to separate questions though..
Have any of you straight men ever hooked up with another man, yet still consider yourself straight?
Huh? Are you serious? If a straight guy hooks up with another guy, he's not straight.
I'm surprised after going through the same questions SO many times, members continue trying to approach the problem from the same perspective. Isn't it fairly obvious by now that the gender and/or sex identity of a person is not necessarily a determining factor when considering the strength of attraction between two individuals?
Sure, there are plenty of people who think in such simple and unrealistic terms such as females are for sex and males are for everything else (i.e. the gender binary and everything that means in full).
Moving past that, we can realize that there are CLEARLY people who don't think in such a simplistic manner. Trying to force them into one doesn't answer any questions. There is this ridiculous perception that if you are "straight" or "gay", you must be attracted to ALL females or ALL males (respectively). In all honesty, this is part of what the sexual binary means. Even if you think of it more as a "spectrum", there will always be those who simplify it to a binary.
If you truly want to eradicate this simplistic and unrealistic approach, you MUST consider other approaches. Personally, I grew up as gay. Sure, that means I often find pleasure in observing other males.
But that doesn't necessarily mean I am attracted to every single one of those males. I believe attraction cannot be separated into sexual and platonic categories, among whatever else. If you are attracted to someone, there is something in that person you consider important for whatever reason. I say explore that attraction; what does it mean and where does it come from? That is the start of most relationships (any kind of relationship, not just the romantic ones) if you ask me. If, upon answering those questions, you find there is a mutual attraction, then you should be open-minded enough to explore the possibilities present. Consider what both parties involved want and/or need and move forward from there.
From that point, most people again reference the gender and sexual binary. However, if you ignore that and consider the possibilities you may be pleasantly surprised. You should ask yourself the question, "Am I attracted to a specific sex identity, or a person?" If you reject someone's more intimate attraction toward for no other reason than that they are the "wrong sex", than you might want to re-examine your priorities. If you reject those intimate attractions for reasons you consider legitimate and valid, then you might not regret anything of it when you grow older. Good for you. Personally, I like to explain to myself (and/or maybe a close friend who cares) why those reasons are legitimate.
I did this when I still considered referencing the gender and sexual binary as a legitimate reason for rejecting someone, and I found myself coming to radical conclusions that changed my life. After going through this process for years, I found myself entering into a pansexual identity. This post describes much of the process for me, but not all of it. I find that it has helped me understand my relationships with other people in far greater detail; I'm not left alone at the end of the day with unsatisfactory answers for why I am alone in the first place.
I come back after going through all of that to threads like this and I laugh to myself. All of you seem to successfully beat around the bush endless. None of the right questions are asked; any critically thinking that does occur doesn't push the discussion forward whatsoever. To quote a favorite movie of mine, "It is useless to push your cards sideways." I feel this quote applies to what I am talking about here quite well.
I agree with you on some points, however
1) You are a young man
2) Life is not a "process" or a "model"
3) Peoples feelings are not science projects
Life is short live it to the best of your ability and have a good time doing it