Do You Think You Might Regret Your Embrace Of Your Asexuality When You Are Older?

[mallak]

My point is that there will be plenty of time when you are middle-aged and a senior and have lost your looks, and you therefore will have no choice but to be asexual at that point in your life. Do you think you might regret at that point that you hadn't given sex more of a try when you were younger, and had more options?

 

[Acrab69]

Asexuality is not a choice, as it is not a choice to be gay or straight. Therefore, you can’t “regret” that.

 

[mallak]

Ok, I guess I was addressing this moreso to asexuals on the spectrum, who may have some gay or straight to them too, so therefore they have more "choice"

 

[AVeryAverageGuy]

Ok, I guess I was addressing this moreso to asexuals on the spectrum, who may have some gay or straight to them too, so therefore they have more "choice"

If it was a choice, then by definition it wouldn’t be asexuality. Asexual means you have no attraction or no desire for sexual activity. It’s not that you’re choosing to be celibate

 

[mallak]

Very good but as I said, I was addressing my question to asexuals on the spectrum, not to pure asexuals.

 

[Acrab69]

Everybody on the spectrum can have sex, even aromantic people.

 

[mallak]

ok do whatever you want, have fun by not having fun, i don't care.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Very good but as I said, I was addressing my question to asexuals on the spectrum, not to pure asexuals.

Which spectrum do you mean?

 

[Scarletbegonia]

As a demisexual, I don’t “regret” being wired this way, at all.
I actually have an active sex life at 52.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

@mallak
Still waiting on “what spectrum do you mean?”

the arc of asexuality?
Autism spectrum disorders?
Other?

 

[mallak]

There's a whole thread about it just 4 threads below this one , Begonia. Not sure how that could escape your eye.

Question About The Ace Spectrum | LPSG

 

[Scarletbegonia]

There's a whole thread about it just 4 threads below this one , Begonia. Not sure how that could escape your eye.

Question About The Ace Spectrum | LPSG

All respondents must be on the ace spectrum.
You do know other things have spectrums, yes?

 

[mallak]

All respondents must be on the ace spectrum.
You do know other things have spectrums, yes?

Yes, but why would I be discussing the autism spectrum or any other spectrum in an asexual forum? But you're right , I should have been more specific I guess and not assume there is a context.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Yes, but why would I be discussing the autism spectrum or any other spectrum in an asexual forum? But you're right , I should have been more specific I guess and not assume there is a context.

Some research suggests ASD patients are more likely to be asexual.

 

[Guy-jin]

My point is that there will be plenty of time when you are middle-aged and a senior and have lost your looks, and you therefore will have no choice but to be asexual at that point in your life. Do you think you might regret at that point that you hadn't given sex more of a try when you were younger, and had more options?

You’re confusing “celibate” with “asexual”.

I’m quite asexual and have had quite a lot of sex. The two things aren’t related. Though I am fine with not having sex very often, personally… I end up having it far more than I care to at this point because apparently I’m quite sexy.

 

[palakaorion]

I'm already "older" at 60 by many people's standards. I don't at all regret not having plowed every willing female. Instead I embrace being demisexual and only being sexually attracted to whomever I'm in a romantic relationship with.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

You’re confusing “celibate” with “asexual”.

I’m quite asexual and have had quite a lot of sex. The two things aren’t related. Though I am fine with not having sex very often, personally… I end up having it far more than I care to at this point because apparently I’m quite sexy.

“No” is a complete sentence, my friend.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

I'm already "older" at 60 by many people's standards. I don't at all regret not having plowed every willing female. Instead I embrace being demisexual and only being sexually attracted to whomever I'm in a romantic relationship with.

Agreeing at almost 53.
I listen to my guy talk about the relationships where his emotional/mental attraction wasn’t that involved and he seems to almost regret wasting the time. And he’s not ace at all.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

You’re confusing “celibate” with “asexual”.

I’m quite asexual and have had quite a lot of sex. The two things aren’t related. Though I am fine with not having sex very often, personally… I end up having it far more than I care to at this point because apparently I’m quite sexy.

It’s the sunglasses. It’s always the sunglasses.

 

[Guy-jin]

“No” is a complete sentence, my friend.

Of course, but I am not sex repulsed and it’s important to my partner so I do it despite not needing it myself.