Ever bumped into a "straight" acquaintance/friend on the DL?

[Growing123]

I spotted someone that I know-ish (friend of a friend) at a urinal looking very suspect. I walked in and am fairly sure that he was on the DL. The other guy zipped up fairly quick when I walked into toilet. When the acquaintance saw me he was really mortified and started talking urgently. It was clear that they were up to something. He is married with children. I acted as if I suspected nothing and made a few minutes of small talk. Except that I couldn't pee as i felt nervous with stage fright so just stood there feeling embarrassed with no flow sounds. It became uncomfortable. Then I zipped up without peeing and washed my hands.

Tonight I'm thinking about what happened. I never suspected that he liked guys. He is also very responsible and respectable so cruising was a shock. Has this ever happened to you before and how did you handle it? I will never discuss this with him again and will play dumb.

 

[jdphnx]

I was cruising A4A back in my undergrad days and came across the profile of a graduate student in our department. He was the last type I’d ever expect to see on a gay cruising site: very scholarly, introverted, nerdy. His only picture was his bare upper torso and face. We exchanged a few messages, anonymously, before I said something about “you’d probably recognize me”. I never saw him on A4A again, or any other site. I felt bad about it.

 

[Stumpjumper310]

I was cruising A4A back in my undergrad days and came across the profile of a graduate student in our department. He was the last type I’d ever expect to see on a gay cruising site: very scholarly, introverted, nerdy. His only picture was his bare upper torso and face. We exchanged a few messages, anonymously, before I said something about “you’d probably recognize me”. I never saw him on A4A again, or any other site. I felt bad about it.

Yeah not a great idea with a power imbalance. I have to be very careful and ask a lot of questions before meeting.

 

[theplayerking]

I was cruising A4A back in my undergrad days and came across the profile of a graduate student in our department. He was the last type I’d ever expect to see on a gay cruising site: very scholarly, introverted, nerdy. His only picture was his bare upper torso and face. We exchanged a few messages, anonymously, before I said something about “you’d probably recognize me”. I never saw him on A4A again, or any other site. I felt bad about it.

If you find someone you know on an app I find it’s best to start flirting in real life. Guys on the down low usually freak out if they’re recognized on an app.

 

[Inputpower1]

I spotted someone that I know-ish (friend of a friend) at a urinal looking very suspect. I walked in and am fairly sure that he was on the DL. The other guy zipped up fairly quick when I walked into toilet. When the acquaintance saw me he was really mortified and started talking urgently. It was clear that they were up to something. He is married with children. I acted as if I suspected nothing and made a few minutes of small talk. Except that I couldn't pee as i felt nervous with stage fright so just stood there feeling embarrassed with no flow sounds. It became uncomfortable. Then I zipped up without peeing and washed my hands.

Tonight I'm thinking about what happened. I never suspected that he liked guys. He is also very responsible and respectable so cruising was a shock. Has this ever happened to you before and how did you handle it? I will never discuss this with him again and will play dumb.

How I handle it depends on how I feel about him. I would never “out” him or tell your mutual friend. If he is someone I want to be friends with, I would befriend him. I wouldn’t bring up your suspicions, but you obviously have some things in common. If you are attracted to him or want to fool around, now you know that is a possibility with this guy.

 

[Marriedinkansas]

I spotted someone that I know-ish (friend of a friend) at a urinal looking very suspect. I walked in and am fairly sure that he was on the DL. The other guy zipped up fairly quick when I walked into toilet. When the acquaintance saw me he was really mortified and started talking urgently. It was clear that they were up to something. He is married with children. I acted as if I suspected nothing and made a few minutes of small talk. Except that I couldn't pee as i felt nervous with stage fright so just stood there feeling embarrassed with no flow sounds. It became uncomfortable. Then I zipped up without peeing and washed my hands.

Tonight I'm thinking about what happened. I never suspected that he liked guys. He is also very responsible and respectable so cruising was a shock. Has this ever happened to you before and how did you handle it? I will never discuss this with him again and will play dumb.

I wish it would

 

[Assman1]

Once, well over 20 plus years ago before I discovered my bi side. I now wish I was all in for my entire life.

 

[JD__OL992]

No, but I've seen a couple of people who gave me gay/bi vibes in Grindr.

 

[Assman1]

How did you respond to them JD?

 

[JD__OL992]

How did you respond to them JD?

I didn't, by the time I found them there I wasn't that much into them, got more satisfaction knowing I was right and my radar ain't never wrong, lol.

 

[Assman1]

So you are on a site about penises but are anti others who like penises?

 

[Assman1]

So, what?

 

[JD__OL992]

So you are on a site about penises but are anti others who like penises?

The fuck? No, I'm just not desperate, aye they are hot, I used to have a crush and I don't anymore, simple.
Besides I need to be attracted to the person whose dick is attached.

 

[BlkBiNDom]

Definitely and it's so weird and slightly embarrassing for him... So I was in Reddit in a Cleveland male for male Ohio group and I posted some pictures of someone else and he hit me up, like hey you live around blah blah blah I live around here . like how old are you I told him, he's like I like your pictures you got a nice cock I want to hook up are you cool with that are you free today.... you seen pictures of me like what's up with you though... he says like I'm shy and discreet and secretive all right cool Im not having I'm a fucker that's only going to show his pinky toe come over my house so good luck with that

no no wait wait wait I'll send you a couple pictures I'm like okay he sends me a couple pictures, I respond instantly I'm like James he's like wait you know me who are you I'm like nope no hookup have a good day bye-bye no no at least just tell me who you are like I'm not going to say nothing it's just like it'll freak me out if I don't know who see me and I'm like it's big you know friends with Kevin and Jerry and Kyle and Jack we played basketball together like LITERALLY 3 weeks ago at the yellow pole courts , this is having a heart attack I'm like bro you're not out I'm not out what is the big deal well just don't say nothing like if I say something I implicate myself I was like now you are dating a girl sleeping with guys behind her back I'm single I just don't tell everyone I'm bisexual there's a difference in that and then like 4 years ago that dude passed away he somehow drowned in Lake Erie I still don't know how I feel about it ...
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