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I tried DMing you but it’s not letting me… lmk if you want to chat privately.
In order to give you advice, I’d need to know more about what you’re interested in. It sounds like you’ve done oral but want to try anal… do you want to top or bottom? Do you have a type? Is there anything in particular you want to try?
The main thing to focus on is finding the right guy. That’s by far the hardest part!
In terms of preparation, don’t overthink it. In most cases, all you need to do is buy condoms and lube; and take a shower right before you meet him. If you want to bottom, I’d recommend eating a high-fiber diet for at least 24 hours beforehand. (I’m not a fan of douching because it’s a lot more work and can actually be counterproductive.)
Anyway, if you can give me more details, I can give you more tips!
In order to give you advice, I’d need to know more about what you’re interested in. It sounds like you’ve done oral but want to try anal… do you want to top or bottom? Do you have a type? Is there anything in particular you want to try?
The main thing to focus on is finding the right guy. That’s by far the hardest part!
In terms of preparation, don’t overthink it. In most cases, all you need to do is buy condoms and lube; and take a shower right before you meet him. If you want to bottom, I’d recommend eating a high-fiber diet for at least 24 hours beforehand. (I’m not a fan of douching because it’s a lot more work and can actually be counterproductive.)
Anyway, if you can give me more details, I can give you more tips!
I'd love you pm but idk how
I'm looking to bottom, I don't really have a type as long as they're understanding and not selfish.
I have an overactive sex drive so I just wanna do it for the first time so I can get used to it, then I can do it whenever.
I just don't know how to find someone, I don't trust grindr, and I don't know how to stay safe from stds and generally my personal safety meeting up with a stranger.
I'm also insecure of my body.
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For DMs, try clicking on my avatar on the left side of this page. You should see a link that says “Start a Conversation“ or something like that. (If that doesn’t work, check your account settings. Go into your account and click “Privacy.” There should be an option for people to start conversations with you. Click “Members” to allow people to DM you.)
Anyway, based on what you’re saying, it sounds like that last sentence may be the key. You’re definitely not alone: gay guys tend to be especially self-conscious about our bodies, and if you don’t feel good about yourself, it can hold you back any number of ways. So the real question is, what‘s the root cause of your insecurity? Is there a particular part of your body that you’re unhappy with? Have you had bad experiences in the past, that might’ve left you with baggage? (I’m not a professional or anything, but I can at least support you as a friend!)
In terms of safety, I’d recommend communicating on an app that allows you to block people. It doesn’t need to be Grindr: it can be Snap or really any social media app. And in terms of STDs, condoms are pretty much the gold standard for safer sex. (Once you get more experienced, you may want to switch to PrEP, but you can cross that bridge when you get there.)
There’s lots more to talk about, but we can do that over DM!
Anyway, based on what you’re saying, it sounds like that last sentence may be the key. You’re definitely not alone: gay guys tend to be especially self-conscious about our bodies, and if you don’t feel good about yourself, it can hold you back any number of ways. So the real question is, what‘s the root cause of your insecurity? Is there a particular part of your body that you’re unhappy with? Have you had bad experiences in the past, that might’ve left you with baggage? (I’m not a professional or anything, but I can at least support you as a friend!)
In terms of safety, I’d recommend communicating on an app that allows you to block people. It doesn’t need to be Grindr: it can be Snap or really any social media app. And in terms of STDs, condoms are pretty much the gold standard for safer sex. (Once you get more experienced, you may want to switch to PrEP, but you can cross that bridge when you get there.)
There’s lots more to talk about, but we can do that over DM!
the option to chat dm isnt there--so i guess have to type message here-- for gay men-its not like we are born with this pamphlet telling us what to do and not to do--i will say i never "prepped" myself before going out and meeting a guy--i never heard such thing--i never got shit on anyones dick--and when the guy rimmed me he never complained about how it tasted--in fact a few guys loved how it was natural
remember---even porn stars have bad experiences--only difference is-their bad experiences are edited out--helix studios has a few blooper reels out there that shows these guysgetting crap on ther cocks even after prepping themselves---then shows sometimes they cum quickly and even have a hard time staying erect---
sex is supposed to be enjoyable--and until you not worry about if doing the right things or wrong-- you need to stay on the sidelines until you feel safe about yourself--and tell whover you are with its your first time for anal whether its being rimmed or getting screwed---- that way he can be prepared just in case something happens--or he may take his time and help make sure you are ready and make sure its pleasurable for both you--
if were here i know i would help you out and feel safe and secure--
other than that hope this helped
remember---even porn stars have bad experiences--only difference is-their bad experiences are edited out--helix studios has a few blooper reels out there that shows these guysgetting crap on ther cocks even after prepping themselves---then shows sometimes they cum quickly and even have a hard time staying erect---
sex is supposed to be enjoyable--and until you not worry about if doing the right things or wrong-- you need to stay on the sidelines until you feel safe about yourself--and tell whover you are with its your first time for anal whether its being rimmed or getting screwed---- that way he can be prepared just in case something happens--or he may take his time and help make sure you are ready and make sure its pleasurable for both you--
if were here i know i would help you out and feel safe and secure--
other than that hope this helped
for some reason, I'm only able to chat with members or people I follow.
thank you, it really helped I'm not as nervous to mess up.
all I need now is to gather up some confidence to meet up with someone.
I'm in a similar position except i'm 22. I think I might be a bottom but I could be vers, I really don't know because I haven't tried anything. But i'm terrified that if I try topping ima be awful and cum within the first 2 seconds lol and if I bottom then i'll end up creating a mess... You mention eating a high-fiber diet, this might be random but what kind of foods do you eat and how much of it? Also, what foods do you tend to stay away from before doing the deed? Sorry if it's too personal, I really struggle getting my daily fiber goal lol. When it comes to it I really wanna make sure I don't poop
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It’s all good! I personally like to eat a lot of fruit: raspberries, strawberries, bananas, apples, etc. The great thing about them is that they actually taste good, unlike a lot of veggies like broccoli or brussels sprouts (which are also a great sources of fiber, but I have to force myself to eat them).I'm in a similar position except i'm 22. I think I might be a bottom but I could be vers, I really don't know because I haven't tried anything. But i'm terrified that if I try topping ima be awful and cum within the first 2 seconds lol and if I bottom then i'll end up creating a mess... You mention eating a high-fiber diet, this might be random but what kind of foods do you eat and how much of it? Also, what foods do you tend to stay away from before doing the deed? Sorry if it's too personal, I really struggle getting my daily fiber goal lol. When it comes to it I really wanna make sure I don't poop
Popcorn also works surprisingly well. Just remember the nutritious part of popcorn is the corn itself, so don’t add too many toppings like butter, salt, sugar, etc.
There are plenty of websites that list high-fiber foods, so you can always browse them and see which foods you like best. Just make sure you’re sticking to reliable sources like WebMD, Mayo Clinic, etc.
Everybody is different, so feel free to experiment. Try using a dildo on yourself after eating these foods, and see if you run into any mess. (Just remember, it takes at least a few hours for your body to digest them. If you don’t make a mess with a dildo, you probably won’t make a mess with a real dick either.)
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I extremely appreciate this thread, its been a great read and thank you all for the advice because similarly to yall Im 19 going on 20 soon and just trying to experiment and have a bit of fun.
i will tell guys at those ages 18 19 if go longer before getting out there making yourself available--the harder it will be--so try do it sooner so make it easier on you
