I agree with some of what you said. When straight people see things like this, they sure do think that being gay is a choice. It’s their “gotcha” moment. They will say things like “see, he can like women if he wants, he chooses to be gay!”
But aside from their ignorance, when some of these gay porn stars do it is upsetting for people like me because we feel it is akin to a betrayal of our community. I remember I felt that way when Blake Riley did things with a woman for a porn. He identified as gay but did it for I guess the money and the attention. Or maybe he just simply wanted the experience (but if that’s the case... why on camera?).
Neither Blake or Francois are bi. I think it’s totally fine with a bi star does things with both, like Tomm (although I believe he identifies as straight, but hey, as long as he is willing to bottom, I count him as one of ours. I like him. I just can’t stand straight guys who do gay porn but only top and never lift a finger to reciprocate in any way. Tomm is cool because he will bottom and suck).
But just to me (and people like me), when gay people do bi things for whatever their reason, I don’t like it.
I wouldn’t tell them this to their face because it is none of my business what they do with their lives. I want them to live their best lives. I’m just simply stating how *I* feel about it here for conversation. That’s all.
I don’t judge Francois negatively for it. I’m sure he didn’t intend any harm to my feelings. But I can’t help how I feel when I see him do things like that. And it does feel like a betrayal. (Clearly, I realize we don’t even know each other. I’m not deluded. But it’s just a feeling).