Icey: PLEASE LET ME CORRECT A MISTAKE THAT IS BEING MADE BY SOME RESPONDENTS HERE, BECAUSE DUE TO THIS MISTAKE, I AM GETTING INCORRECT RESPONSES THAT DO NOT APPLY TO MY SITUATION:
Okay, apparently some people here are not reading my original request for advice thoroughly, and are having & making ALL KINDS of INCORRECT conclusions, ideas, suppositions, fantasies, etc, about what type of a person I am and what type of a relationship I am currently engaged in. So I hope this clears up the air here, and will stop some of these responses from good intentioned people, who never the less are confused about what type of relationship I am in, and are now trying to make a Lifetime Made For TV Movie about poor little abused Icey! :
Furthermore, with all due respect, as Max stated in his very eloquent and appropiate response: I am not here looking for relationship advice, only advice on products or techniques that may help me adjust sexually to my lovers large penis when engaged in sex...nothing more, nothing less..just the facts please, thanks!
SO HERE IS A CLARIFICATION OF MY SITUATION:
My lover does not, and never has forced me to have sex with him. He does not give me guilt trips, nor make me feel bad in any way, shape, or form, about not being able to handle his overly large penis anally for more than a few minutes. If he did, I would be out the door, TRUST ME on this. I was a Psychology major in College, so I am very adept at recognizing all forms of abuse, whether mental, physical or emotional.
My lover is a very beautiful, kind hearted, masculine yet gentle man, who only thinks of me and my needs, and is faithful in every way. He doesn't even bring up this subject at all, because like myself, he realizes there are other more important things in life to think about, and we please each other sexually in other ways. But most importantly, we have LOVE -which is different from sex, and in my humble opinion, far more important and lasting. Now this being said, I have yet to meet anyone who is a perfect lover to their partner (although many think they are) and who fulfill EVERY request or sexual fantasy their lover makes of them -this just isn't realistic nor healthy, as we all have our personal boundaries and expectations on what a healthy sex life is.
So the *only* reason I came to this message board was for advice on how to better accomodate my lovers large endowment anally. Everyone has different techniques, tricks, lotions and potions, that help them do this, and this is what I am interested in hearing about.
I am sorry for this long explanation, but some here were getting carried away by having incorrect ideas that I was being abused, sexually forced to submit to my lover, was settling for less, and on and on... Thank you for your concern, but this is not the case at all.
I know a good man when I see one, and my lover is one of them. NOBODY is perfect, and as I said before,
'You don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.'
I don't want to be one of these guys who say they will never settle, and will not be with ANYONE long term, unless ALL their needs, sexual and otherwise, are met. I see these guys all the time, year after year, hunting for the 'perfect man' in clubs, chat rooms, message boards, etc. And it truly saddens me. I find that once you sit down, and realize that you are not perfect, and cannot be everything to everyone, you adjust your unrealistic expectations & fantasies. Life, like Relationships, has many facets, some good, some bad, some just 'there'. The key is to maximize and enjoy the good facets, which will help to deal with the others.
That's all I'm trying to do here, maximize the good...
Blessings,
Icey
Okay, apparently some people here are not reading my original request for advice thoroughly, and are having & making ALL KINDS of INCORRECT conclusions, ideas, suppositions, fantasies, etc, about what type of a person I am and what type of a relationship I am currently engaged in. So I hope this clears up the air here, and will stop some of these responses from good intentioned people, who never the less are confused about what type of relationship I am in, and are now trying to make a Lifetime Made For TV Movie about poor little abused Icey! :
Furthermore, with all due respect, as Max stated in his very eloquent and appropiate response: I am not here looking for relationship advice, only advice on products or techniques that may help me adjust sexually to my lovers large penis when engaged in sex...nothing more, nothing less..just the facts please, thanks! SO HERE IS A CLARIFICATION OF MY SITUATION:
My lover does not, and never has forced me to have sex with him. He does not give me guilt trips, nor make me feel bad in any way, shape, or form, about not being able to handle his overly large penis anally for more than a few minutes. If he did, I would be out the door, TRUST ME on this. I was a Psychology major in College, so I am very adept at recognizing all forms of abuse, whether mental, physical or emotional.
My lover is a very beautiful, kind hearted, masculine yet gentle man, who only thinks of me and my needs, and is faithful in every way. He doesn't even bring up this subject at all, because like myself, he realizes there are other more important things in life to think about, and we please each other sexually in other ways. But most importantly, we have LOVE -which is different from sex, and in my humble opinion, far more important and lasting. Now this being said, I have yet to meet anyone who is a perfect lover to their partner (although many think they are) and who fulfill EVERY request or sexual fantasy their lover makes of them -this just isn't realistic nor healthy, as we all have our personal boundaries and expectations on what a healthy sex life is.
So the *only* reason I came to this message board was for advice on how to better accomodate my lovers large endowment anally. Everyone has different techniques, tricks, lotions and potions, that help them do this, and this is what I am interested in hearing about.
I am sorry for this long explanation, but some here were getting carried away by having incorrect ideas that I was being abused, sexually forced to submit to my lover, was settling for less, and on and on... Thank you for your concern, but this is not the case at all.
I know a good man when I see one, and my lover is one of them. NOBODY is perfect, and as I said before,
'You don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.'
I don't want to be one of these guys who say they will never settle, and will not be with ANYONE long term, unless ALL their needs, sexual and otherwise, are met. I see these guys all the time, year after year, hunting for the 'perfect man' in clubs, chat rooms, message boards, etc. And it truly saddens me. I find that once you sit down, and realize that you are not perfect, and cannot be everything to everyone, you adjust your unrealistic expectations & fantasies. Life, like Relationships, has many facets, some good, some bad, some just 'there'. The key is to maximize and enjoy the good facets, which will help to deal with the others.
That's all I'm trying to do here, maximize the good...
Blessings,
Icey
