Gay relationship advice needed

[Artr0]

Hey guys!

I need an external perspective here, advice well appreciated. I’ll try to give a bit of context so this might turn out a long-ish post.
My boyfriend (36 M) and I (36 M) have been together for about 8 years. We’ve met on-line at planetromeo. We live like a 10 minutes walk away. Everyone keeps his place since parents are in the dark we’re gay. But basically we’re usually every evening together.
When we started dating we agreed we are exclusive and we talk about issues and don’t just bottle them down so we avoid a big fight boiling up.
In the beginning of our relationship we were as any couple in their honeymoon phase quite sexually active. He also shared with me that he’s masturbating, which, let’s face it, all of us gay guys do quite a bit as well, so I don’t mind. With the time however we’re having less and less sex. And this I do get, it’s kind of to be expected. He had a really bad family situation and this led to even less sex, to the point we were having it once a year. Don’t get me wrong, I’m totally supportive and do not insist.
I got turned down twice by him, where I explicitly asked for some sexy time. “I’m tired and not in the mood”. So I decided I won’t ask again. This brought a very hard time for me. I started thinking that I’m not attractive to him, I started working out as a maniac, started dieting, went to a dietitian and got medication prescribed although I could have done without it. No change by him. Then I thought maybe he’s not feeling attractive and that’s why he hasn’t made any moves. I stared complimenting him, boosting his ego. No change.
I’ve tried talking about sex asking why we’re not as active to which he answered kind of annoyed “Are you asking me to have sex now?”. No, not right now, rather in general. “I’ve got a lot going on right now”.
I’m not the jealous type of guy. I saw however he’s constantly on his phone and kind of secretively. I’ve seen some times while he’s browsing in his pics to find something to show me that he has taken nudes. Okay, maybe he wanted to see himself from a different angle, I’ve also taken nudes. But I got a bit sus.
A few months ago he forgot his apple watch at my place. I couldn’t but check out what’s going on. I don’t have a watch myself so I’m not aware of how to work with it, but I was able to find out that a guy has sent him nudes on messenger. There was no other communication except for the nudes. There was another guy he chatted but not like a flirt or sext. The convo was around “I’m horney, I’ve jerked off 2 times already today”. But no nudes, calls or what not.
A few days ago he passed out on the couch and I did my worst - checked out his phone in the bedroom. Few things I found out:
1. His nudes. As I wrote. That’s fine as a fact. BUT some of them were taken at my place. And others were taken while we were on vacation together and we didn’t have sex.
2. A lot of instagram video calls with this one guy. Initiated on both ends. With someone I haven’t met from OUR city. I must say he lives abroad.
3. A chat with a local guy I haven’t met where my bf wrote that I’m away for the holidays, he’s jerked off 2 times today and had sex with a neighbour, a jack who was pretending to be a cool dude.
Bf woke up and I pretended I was making the bed and asked him to join. He started looking for his phone, I said it’s already by the bed. No reaction.
I must confess I was kind of turned on by his nudes, after all he’s my boyfriend and I still find him attractive. It was late in the night, we’ve celebrated his birthday, so long story short - we had sex. It’s been more than year by this point since we last have. He told me the morning after he couldn’t sleep anymore after that.
What triggers me now are few things. He’s still active but not with me. I don’t believe he has cheated, rather wanted to look more like a player to the other guy he was chatting with.
I’m not triggered by the video calls. I’m also jerking off on-line but I WILL NEVER ENGAGE IN PERSON. It bothers me a bit that it was with a local guy. I don’t sext with guys from our city.
Also he didn’t reject me, he still finds me attractive?
I really love my man and want to maintain our relationship. I know how tough gay relationships are. What would you guys do in my situation?

 

[curtain_swoosh]

seems to me you need to be single.

talk to your boyfriend. regardless of what situation hes in.
if it goes bad, it may be time to move on.

 

[theplayerking]

Hey guys!

I need an external perspective here, advice well appreciated. I’ll try to give a bit of context so this might turn out a long-ish post.
My boyfriend (36 M) and I (36 M) have been together for about 8 years. We’ve met on-line at planetromeo. We live like a 10 minutes walk away. Everyone keeps his place since parents are in the dark we’re gay. But basically we’re usually every evening together.
When we started dating we agreed we are exclusive and we talk about issues and don’t just bottle them down so we avoid a big fight boiling up.
In the beginning of our relationship we were as any couple in their honeymoon phase quite sexually active. He also shared with me that he’s masturbating, which, let’s face it, all of us gay guys do quite a bit as well, so I don’t mind. With the time however we’re having less and less sex. And this I do get, it’s kind of to be expected. He had a really bad family situation and this led to even less sex, to the point we were having it once a year. Don’t get me wrong, I’m totally supportive and do not insist.
I got turned down twice by him, where I explicitly asked for some sexy time. “I’m tired and not in the mood”. So I decided I won’t ask again. This brought a very hard time for me. I started thinking that I’m not attractive to him, I started working out as a maniac, started dieting, went to a dietitian and got medication prescribed although I could have done without it. No change by him. Then I thought maybe he’s not feeling attractive and that’s why he hasn’t made any moves. I stared complimenting him, boosting his ego. No change.
I’ve tried talking about sex asking why we’re not as active to which he answered kind of annoyed “Are you asking me to have sex now?”. No, not right now, rather in general. “I’ve got a lot going on right now”.
I’m not the jealous type of guy. I saw however he’s constantly on his phone and kind of secretively. I’ve seen some times while he’s browsing in his pics to find something to show me that he has taken nudes. Okay, maybe he wanted to see himself from a different angle, I’ve also taken nudes. But I got a bit sus.
A few months ago he forgot his apple watch at my place. I couldn’t but check out what’s going on. I don’t have a watch myself so I’m not aware of how to work with it, but I was able to find out that a guy has sent him nudes on messenger. There was no other communication except for the nudes. There was another guy he chatted but not like a flirt or sext. The convo was around “I’m horney, I’ve jerked off 2 times already today”. But no nudes, calls or what not.
A few days ago he passed out on the couch and I did my worst - checked out his phone in the bedroom. Few things I found out:
1. His nudes. As I wrote. That’s fine as a fact. BUT some of them were taken at my place. And others were taken while we were on vacation together and we didn’t have sex.
2. A lot of instagram video calls with this one guy. Initiated on both ends. With someone I haven’t met from OUR city. I must say he lives abroad.
3. A chat with a local guy I haven’t met where my bf wrote that I’m away for the holidays, he’s jerked off 2 times today and had sex with a neighbour, a jack who was pretending to be a cool dude.
Bf woke up and I pretended I was making the bed and asked him to join. He started looking for his phone, I said it’s already by the bed. No reaction.
I must confess I was kind of turned on by his nudes, after all he’s my boyfriend and I still find him attractive. It was late in the night, we’ve celebrated his birthday, so long story short - we had sex. It’s been more than year by this point since we last have. He told me the morning after he couldn’t sleep anymore after that.
What triggers me now are few things. He’s still active but not with me. I don’t believe he has cheated, rather wanted to look more like a player to the other guy he was chatting with.
I’m not triggered by the video calls. I’m also jerking off on-line but I WILL NEVER ENGAGE IN PERSON. It bothers me a bit that it was with a local guy. I don’t sext with guys from our city.
Also he didn’t reject me, he still finds me attractive?
I really love my man and want to maintain our relationship. I know how tough gay relationships are. What would you guys do in my situation?

I suspect you boyfriend is a bit like me and gets off on the validation of being attractive to a lot of different guys. It doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t love you, but the dopamine rush he gets from sex is more psychological than physical. If you want a monogamous yet sexually fulfilling relationship, you should break up. If you value other aspects of the relationship (like friendship, compatibility, emotional intimacy, stability) you might consider discussing ground rules for and open relationship.

 

[tps87]

Well, this is a tough one for me anyway cause I see this is rather complex. You have an attachment that transcends sex which is a consideration.

I think you need to start ensuring you know what you want. You may know already or may want to think it thru more. Exclusive or open relationship, is you non-sexual life with your BF meeting your needs, are you both on the same page with not telling your parents/remaining DL, financially are you on the same page, etc. If you both did decide to open up the relationship would you be tempted to break up if you met someone who wanted to be monogamous with you? If so that tells me this is just a “soft” way of breaking up and shopping around for Mr. right. If that’s the case then you should maybe consider just breaking it off now and being able to date freely.

After 8 years it seems a bit strange you haven’t told your parents. At your age they probably wonder if something is up if you never talk about or show up with a girlfriend. Does that add any stress to your relationship? Does it prevent spending holidays with your BF or have other impact? If you are both ok with the arrangement then fine I just wonder if if prevents you from being a real couple in some ways and adds stress. Maybe it has just got too convenient to each have a BF that also wants to be DL since not every guy out there will accommodate that?

Having some some alone sexy time or enjoying some porn alone is one thing, cam’ing live with other guys seems really close to if not cheating in my book and since you both seem to be doing it I suppose any fault is canceled out. It would be easy to cam with someone nearby and be tempted to make that real. You need to decide how you would feel about that if either of you did.

A big hurdle for you seems to be getting you BF to have a productive conversation on this topic. I think you need to be fully sure of what you want and are looking for, then insist on having the discussion to find out what is going on. I would not admit to snooping on his phone - just keep it about lack of activity between the two of you. For all you know he snooped on your phone and knows you have been cam’ing. Maybe you can bring up “it would be fun to” ideas like - fun to both cam with someone together, fun to watch porn together and maybe try to reinvigorate your sex life together with some new activities. If you really want an open thing maybe suggest bringing in a third but doing it together.

I don’t really have advice just all this to consider. Ultimately you need to figure out what works for you. If needed, maybe seek out a therapist to help you sort thru it and then potentially see a couples therapist if you are both open to that.

 

[tps87]

Couple more things - just because he turned you down a couple time don’t avoid initiating ever. Your dynamic may be that he has mostly done that but certainly it doesn’t hurt to let him know what you want. You make it sound like since he turned you down twice you are now boycotting initiating which is not good to do.

Secondly, when you first got together 8 years ago masturbating a lot probably didn’t impact the ability to also be sexual together a lot. Now, a bit older, it may take a bit more time to recharge so cutting back on solo activity may help. Make it clear you are open to fool around anytime he is horny - that could be jerking together or doing more, Next time you want to wank maybe say - I really need to wank want to join? You could try to walk in on him and join in maybe?

 

[Artr0]

Thank you a loy

Well, this is a tough one for me anyway cause I see this is rather complex. You have an attachment that transcends sex which is a consideration.

I think you need to start ensuring you know what you want. You may know already or may want to think it thru more. Exclusive or open relationship, is you non-sexual life with your BF meeting your needs, are you both on the same page with not telling your parents/remaining DL, financially are you on the same page, etc. If you both did decide to open up the relationship would you be tempted to break up if you met someone who wanted to be monogamous with you? If so that tells me this is just a “soft” way of breaking up and shopping around for Mr. right. If that’s the case then you should maybe consider just breaking it off now and being able to date freely.

After 8 years it seems a bit strange you haven’t told your parents. At your age they probably wonder if something is up if you never talk about or show up with a girlfriend. Does that add any stress to your relationship? Does it prevent spending holidays with your BF or have other impact? If you are both ok with the arrangement then fine I just wonder if if prevents you from being a real couple in some ways and adds stress. Maybe it has just got too convenient to each have a BF that also wants to be DL since not every guy out there will accommodate that?

Having some some alone sexy time or enjoying some porn alone is one thing, cam’ing live with other guys seems really close to if not cheating in my book and since you both seem to be doing it I suppose any fault is canceled out. It would be easy to cam with someone nearby and be tempted to make that real. You need to decide how you would feel about that if either of you did.

A big hurdle for you seems to be getting you BF to have a productive conversation on this topic. I think you need to be fully sure of what you want and are looking for, then insist on having the discussion to find out what is going on. I would not admit to snooping on his phone - just keep it about lack of activity between the two of you. For all you know he snooped on your phone and knows you have been cam’ing. Maybe you can bring up “it would be fun to” ideas like - fun to both cam with someone together, fun to watch porn together and maybe try to reinvigorate your sex life together with some new activities. If you really want an open thing maybe suggest bringing in a third but doing it together.

I don’t really have advice just all this to consider. Ultimately you need to figure out what works for you. If needed, maybe seek out a therapist to help you sort thru it and then potentially see a couples therapist if you are both open to tha

Couple more things - just because he turned you down a couple time don’t avoid initiating ever. Your dynamic may be that he has mostly done that but certainly it doesn’t hurt to let him know what you want. You make it sound like since he turned you down twice you are now boycotting initiating which is not good to do.

Secondly, when you first got together 8 years ago masturbating a lot probably didn’t impact the ability to also be sexual together a lot. Now, a bit older, it may take a bit more time to recharge so cutting back on solo activity may help. Make it clear you are open to fool around anytime he is horny - that could be jerking together or doing more, Next time you want to wank maybe say - I really need to wank want to join? You could try to walk in on him and join in maybe?

Thank you a lot for the point of view. I’m trying for now to be more in touch - cuddle, kiss, any physical activity. I read a lot that couples should do this more often.

Not proud of it but I’ve also done my best to figure out what the person he sexted with is. I’ll keep you posted.

 

[tps87]

Thank you a loy

Not proud of it but I’ve also done my best to figure out what the person he sexted with is. I’ll keep you posted.

I don't blame you a bit - I would do the same. Your hunch was not wrong and you only snooped to confirm it. I would just choose if or when to bring it up very carefully cause once you say it you can't take it back. I'll admit I don't know when that moment would be. I think you need to judge when the time is right and keeping in mind that bringing it up could have a lot of ramifications maybe including breaking up.

You do have a right to know as what he is doing has potential health impact for you and it is only fair that if he is pursuing outside action you have the option to as well.

 

[ronin001]

I have asked this of a few other members who have posed similar questions in the past.

Does your BF know you are a member of LPSG ? You are on a site where if you are inclined and encouraged to share your nude pictures with others. Interact with others in a somewhat sexual manner Etc. Would he be OK; or suspicious ?

Possibly he is just having fun online; and not looking for a real hook up.

Good luck

 

[Artr0]

H

I have asked this of a few other members who have posed similar questions in the past.

Does your BF know you are a member of LPSG ? You are on a site where if you are inclined and encouraged to share your nude pictures with others. Interact with others in a somewhat sexual manner Etc. Would he be OK; or suspicious ?

Possibly he is just having fun online; and not looking for a real hook up.

Good luck

He does not know I’m on here, he knows I do snapchat. He also tried it out but didn’t like it.
I also think he’s just having fun online and I’m fine if this is just that.

 

[ILoveGames48]

Well you two living apart after 8 years of being together could be an issue for him and hasn’t said anything about it because he knows you’re very intent on staying in the closet forever..

You two should moved in together said you were doing it to save money.. guys and even straight couples do it. As they at times want to keep it a secret that they are together or having sex…


If he has become more interested in being on his phone more than with you.. this is where the trouble with relationship is triggered..
Is there stuff he is seeing online or chatting with others guys sexually that you won’t do with him? Some times they will find someone as those urges don’t just go away ..

If it was me .. sit down and talk with him.. stay calm and tell him to remain calm as well as just wanna talk ..

Ignore words .. like fuck.. god darn it.. slut whore and any other words like that .. words like that triggers things to be more aggressive and argumentative.. and that will get you and him no where …



And also what makes things change is from the time you met each other and begin having sex.. you probably did it as often as you could when together..

Then as time goes by this slows down and it seems like the love for one another is slowly dying… a lot of relationships and marriages end for this reason …


Last thing is.. if he doesn’t want to talk about it at all.. if it was me.. I’d get my stuff out of his place and his stuff out of yours .. change locks and move on and find someone that will love you

 

[ClaphamRob]

Hi Artr0.

Thank you for your honest and open post. There was a lot to take in and process, and I think many of the people who answered have done a great job of answering your questions.

I’ve recently come out of an 8 year relationship and there are a few similarities that I also experienced, such as the pretty much total lack of sex drive from him (unless he’s on his own with the internet!) inability to talk about his feelings, his flirting with other guys online…

…I could go on, but the bottom line for me was this; if your man is unable, and unwilling to communicate with you at a level that is intimate, revealing and open, then you really don’t have a relationship, it’s more a convenient form of companionship.

If your partner is unable to compliment you (even if you’ve shown him that you’re very comfortable with complimenting him) then your self-worth will take a hit, and that won’t help either of you.

If you did want to explore trying to make this relationship work then I would seriously consider coming off chat/sex sites TOGETHER for a while. These DO NOT help your cause. I can say this with complete certainty because my ex was on sites, flirting with the same people, having long conversations with them, which, I guess to him, acted like surrogate relationships - entirely safe and risk free because they were not in the same room/house as him, so he could never make a mistake. My partner had very extreme intimacy issues (to the extent that he could not and would not want to engage in sex when sober, but would get flirtier the drunker he got, and often with people other than me!). Again, when I tried to chat to him about it he would clam up and go silent, so nothing ever got resolved.

If you want to explore an open relationship then (as others have said) this will need a lot of discussion. If you’re the one doing all the talking then, and I’m saying this with love and compassion, you’re with the wrong person, because he’ll likely never open up to you. You deserve someone who can engage with you directly, without fear of being judged, who can listen to you and consider your thoughts and feelings, as well as his own, who can demonstrate their love to you physically, and emotionally and who can move through the challenges and difficulties of a relationship WITH you.

YOU deserve all of that.

 

[Artr0]

Thank you, guys. This was exactly what I needed - an outside perspective. I’m still working on my feelings and wont do anything before NewYear.
@ILoveGames48, I have actually less problems being in the closet. I know my family will deal with it.
@ClaphamRob, I see change lately. We BOTH needed to work on our intimacy and I can’t say I shouldn’t work on the relationship either. I’ve deleted all my apps so I can concentrate on the person I am with and not fantasize virtully…

 

[Northyara]

Hey guys!

I need an external perspective here, advice well appreciated. I’ll try to give a bit of context so this might turn out a long-ish post.
My boyfriend (36 M) and I (36 M) have been together for about 8 years. We’ve met on-line at planetromeo. We live like a 10 minutes walk away. Everyone keeps his place since parents are in the dark we’re gay. But basically we’re usually every evening together.
When we started dating we agreed we are exclusive and we talk about issues and don’t just bottle them down so we avoid a big fight boiling up.
In the beginning of our relationship we were as any couple in their honeymoon phase quite sexually active. He also shared with me that he’s masturbating, which, let’s face it, all of us gay guys do quite a bit as well, so I don’t mind. With the time however we’re having less and less sex. And this I do get, it’s kind of to be expected. He had a really bad family situation and this led to even less sex, to the point we were having it once a year. Don’t get me wrong, I’m totally supportive and do not insist.
I got turned down twice by him, where I explicitly asked for some sexy time. “I’m tired and not in the mood”. So I decided I won’t ask again. This brought a very hard time for me. I started thinking that I’m not attractive to him, I started working out as a maniac, started dieting, went to a dietitian and got medication prescribed although I could have done without it. No change by him. Then I thought maybe he’s not feeling attractive and that’s why he hasn’t made any moves. I stared complimenting him, boosting his ego. No change.
I’ve tried talking about sex asking why we’re not as active to which he answered kind of annoyed “Are you asking me to have sex now?”. No, not right now, rather in general. “I’ve got a lot going on right now”.
I’m not the jealous type of guy. I saw however he’s constantly on his phone and kind of secretively. I’ve seen some times while he’s browsing in his pics to find something to show me that he has taken nudes. Okay, maybe he wanted to see himself from a different angle, I’ve also taken nudes. But I got a bit sus.
A few months ago he forgot his apple watch at my place. I couldn’t but check out what’s going on. I don’t have a watch myself so I’m not aware of how to work with it, but I was able to find out that a guy has sent him nudes on messenger. There was no other communication except for the nudes. There was another guy he chatted but not like a flirt or sext. The convo was around “I’m horney, I’ve jerked off 2 times already today”. But no nudes, calls or what not.
A few days ago he passed out on the couch and I did my worst - checked out his phone in the bedroom. Few things I found out:
1. His nudes. As I wrote. That’s fine as a fact. BUT some of them were taken at my place. And others were taken while we were on vacation together and we didn’t have sex.
2. A lot of instagram video calls with this one guy. Initiated on both ends. With someone I haven’t met from OUR city. I must say he lives abroad.
3. A chat with a local guy I haven’t met where my bf wrote that I’m away for the holidays, he’s jerked off 2 times today and had sex with a neighbour, a jack who was pretending to be a cool dude.
Bf woke up and I pretended I was making the bed and asked him to join. He started looking for his phone, I said it’s already by the bed. No reaction.
I must confess I was kind of turned on by his nudes, after all he’s my boyfriend and I still find him attractive. It was late in the night, we’ve celebrated his birthday, so long story short - we had sex. It’s been more than year by this point since we last have. He told me the morning after he couldn’t sleep anymore after that.
What triggers me now are few things. He’s still active but not with me. I don’t believe he has cheated, rather wanted to look more like a player to the other guy he was chatting with.
I’m not triggered by the video calls. I’m also jerking off on-line but I WILL NEVER ENGAGE IN PERSON. It bothers me a bit that it was with a local guy. I don’t sext with guys from our city.
Also he didn’t reject me, he still finds me attractive?
I really love my man and want to maintain our relationship. I know how tough gay relationships are. What would you guys do in my situation?

I have a similar situation. And it’s stereo typical of what I’m about to say, but maybe you guys should open up your relationship.

Have rules and boundaries, and see how it goes. You guys already seem like you have good communication apart from the secret texting.

Maybe invite a third to join at first to see how comfortable you guys are, and then start having NSA fun on your owns.

 

[Beefderky]

In my honest opinion, to me, this isn't a healthy relationship anymore.

I feel like you keep making excuses for him because you are afraid to accept reality, you aren't happy. You haven't been for some time now. It doesnt mean you don't love him anymore. Want to know a little secret? It's perfectly fine to admit that you're unhappy. What you do next is what's truly important. You can stay and work on your relationship, but you need both parties to participate to possibly make it work. Sometimes though, you both can put the work in but a relationship can just fizzle out. That or it's onesided which can never work if only one person tries. Anyways, just dont disrespect yourself for someone who doesnt care about your happiness. That's a death sentence to you ever being happy again.

Lack of sex drive? Yes, you can be tired and not in the mood for sex. There are many factors as to why sex dwindles, but, giving the same excuses over and over are just convenient lies to end the conversation. There is always an underlying issue as to why things happen. Depression, anxiety, has a negative outlook on his body image, no longer in love with you, another man, wants you to break up with him so you're the bad guy, stress, wants to open the relationship, so many options along with more that he could specify. 8 years, you both should be able to communicate to one another on a more deeper level. Whatever the reasoning is, his inability to communicate to you is neglecting your needs as a partner and in a sense it's a form of abuse. You acknowledged the abuse but didn't put a finger on it. You started to feel unattractive to your partner and think it's your fault he's not wanting sex with you. Now you're putting the work and effort into yourself just for him. Did he even notice? Did he acknowledge the hardwork you did because you wanted him to want you again? Did he at least compliment you at all with your progress? Or is this all about him? Where's his effort into showing he cares for you, that he wants this to work between you two? Have you noticed yet that you are the only one trying? By now, it's not only about the sex. It's always good to reread your own posts to discover more about yourself.

Secrets are still secrets. If he's talking to other guys, sexual or not, trading nudes, whatever, then why can't he just tell you? It's all too sus if you ask me. I wouldn't tolerate any of that. All I ever ask from my current partner is to always be honest with me.

These secrets are going to eat you up bit by bit. I've been in a relationship where I snooped around because I felt something was off and I was right. I stayed after confronting him but my trust was already gone. I couldn't trust him anymore, kept snooping. I hated myself for that. I always felt he was keeping something from me or not telling me the entire truth. He wasn't totally at fault. I shared the blame as well. I'm no Saint. I learned a lot about myself from that relationship. I am thankful. That was a 6 year relationship, on and off. My first long term and I'll tell you, your first will always turn you blind and stupid. I thought I was the reason we weren't working so I tried harder, tried to do more, tried to be more..... In the end, it wasn't me. We just came to the end of our relationship and I just had to accept it.

Someone said to move in together...... Please do not do that this. If you are having problems now, it's not going to magically disappear just bc you moved in together. Someone else said you were guilty for being on this site as if it's wrong to even be on here. You are here seeking advice. If your bf asks you about this on your phone, I have belief you would tell him the truth. That's the biggest difference between you two. He doesn't appear to want to tell you the truth.

All you need to do is stop focusing on your bf. Focus on yourself. Ask yourself questions and answer them honestly. Write them down and read it out loud to make it real. Do you feel loved? Can you see yourself with him for another 8 years at the rate this is going? Do you think he still loves you? Do you honestly trust him still? How much of yourself are you willing to give to him?

I have a tendency to right a lot. I have more to say but I'm falling asleep lol, work tonight . If you have any questions, feel free to message me directly. In the end, it's your choice. Do it for yourself.

 

[ILoveGames48]

Lack of sex drive isn’t a reason to end a relationship. If you love someone you will work through it as a relationship isn’t all about sex ..


But I am beginning to wonder if maybe there is another person on the side..

I watched this movie the other night where this guy meets another guy and they are together and going out together and everything and having sex .. and the one guy finds out the other guy is a married man .. and goes on “ business calls” so he can be with his man on the side..

Just sit down and think if anything like this happened or something is going on..

This had to be something building up for a while.. it’s not something that happened over night

 

[Northyara]

Lack of sex drive isn’t a reason to end a relationship. If you love someone you will work through it as a relationship isn’t all about sex ..


But I am beginning to wonder if maybe there is another person on the side..

I watched this movie the other night where this guy meets another guy and they are together and going out together and everything and having sex .. and the one guy finds out the other guy is a married man .. and goes on “ business calls” so he can be with his man on the side..

Just sit down and think if anything like this happened or something is going on..

This had to be something building up for a while.. it’s not something that happened over night

Is that "In from the side"

 

[ILoveGames48]

Not sure what meaning

 

[Artr0]

Not sure what meaning

I guess the title of the movie you watched.

 

[Northyara]

Not sure what meaning

It's the name of the film I'm thinking of

 

[Kevinlair]

I was in a similar situation with a ex together for 1.5 years the first year was nonstop sex and couldn’t get enough of each other. After a year together we went on vacation together didn’t have sex and came home he went to his place I went to mine. A week went by no contact from him I went to his place and he was jerking off watching porn he got mad that I interrupted him again no contact for a week until he came over to mine to watch a movie after movie he said he was tired and went home once again no contact until I confronted him and asked why the lack of communication he said he was busy. This went on for another 3 months until we where at his parents for Christmas he was drunk and sleeping on the bed I looked through his phone found nudes and messages from a anonymous number I didn’t say anything but started planning my exit.
3 weeks after Christmas I came over to his place and saw a strange car parked in the drive way I walked around to the back of his house and saw through the French doors him getting spitroasted by 2 of our friends I walked in and confronted him and broke up with him and blocked the other 2 after a few weeks it turned out he had been carrying on with multiple guys behind my back. It started the day before our holiday with a guy from the gym and the day we came home from holiday he went over to the gym guys place to show off his white bits.