Good News, Bad News...

[A_dub]

The good news is I asked out this lady I've had my mind on for several months now and she said yes.

The bad news is I'm nervous.

What makes a good first date a good one?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

The answers to this question are subjective. What makes a good "date" to me might not be the same for her.

 

[TinyPrincess]

I would say the two magic must haves is "listen to her" and "be yourself".

 

[286798]

+1 to TP... emphasis on the be yourself. Who cares if it's a great date if you're not being genuine?

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Authenticity, lack of expectations, little to zero talk about sex as in between you two.

do something fun (and safe)

 

[EllieP]

I was going to say give her an opening to talk about herself, but if you were dating me you'd never speak all night.

Seriously, listen to her. Talk to her. Don't don't don't talk about your merits, your wins, how you outwit others in business. Keep it light.

Do not go to a movie. That's dead time. That's a third date or later kind of thing.

Let her get to know the real you, and try to get to know the real her. Like the others said being genuine is underrated.

Avoid politics even if you both agree. That'll snowball on you. And if you don't agree, then good night. Nice knowing ya. So no politics.

 

[MickeyLee]

Honestly, living in the cootie-pocalypse how do you go on a date? *blink*

Outdoors walking date. Food carts.

Beware the masked catfisher!

 

[A_dub]

I was going to say give her an opening to talk about herself, but if you were dating me you'd never speak all night.

Now I do love to talk about myself and my friends. But not being able to get a word in has the benefit of not saying something dumb.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Likely she will ask about you at some point. first or second date. If not by then, that’s a flag. Yellow, but a flag.
she might be so nervous that blathering is defensive, but she might be self centered.

 

[A_dub]

Alright...first date done and dusted.

it was outdoors socially distanced and zero physical contact between us (except a elbow tap “handshake’ at the very beginning. I’d say overall it went OK. Pretty well considering I was very surprised she agreed to meet me. There were a few awkward pauses but in general I chose to speak less so as not to say something dumb. I’m quite a talkative person so I had to bite my tongue on numerous occasions. She seems a nice person.

I would definitely be down for a 2nd date haha.

 

[ChanelleNo5]

Ok so did you text her or something after like you want to see her again or was it said in person?

 

[ChanelleNo5]

This is over a week later. What happened?

 

[A_dub]

Ok so did you text her or something after like you want to see her again or was it said in person?

I did text her a few days later. I would have earlier but I wanted to see if she was going to text me first. She still hasn't responded to that text and its been a few days so I'm guessing she's not interested. Perhaps the date didn't go as well as I thought or hoped. No big deal, I didn't expect to be married within a week hehe. It was a good learning experience I think. I'm working on another first date as we speak, so positive thoughts!

 

[A_dub]

Update of sorts. Finally had sex for the first time. Not with this date but a different one.

 

[neutrno]

Update of sorts. Finally had sex for the first time. Not with this date but a different one.

OMG! Congratulations! And we get no details?

Just kidding! Happy for you!