Great Article On Male Sexuality

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A straight guy doesn’t have sex with other guys. Maybe he’s bi. Maybe he’s confused. Maybe it doesn’t matter. But you can’t call yourself straight if you’re not.

And of course this is how I feel. It’s all based on how people feel.

 

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A straight guy doesn’t have sex with other guys. Maybe he’s bi. Maybe he’s confused. Maybe it doesn’t matter. But you can’t call yourself straight if you’re not.

And of course this is how I feel. It’s all based on how people feel.

This is your personal definition of a straight or gay guy.

I had a friend who was a skilled craftsman. He lived by the comment that there was only one wood, walnut. Everything else was just construction material or kindling. He had a very narrow focus.

On the other hand we have someone like Margaret Mead, twentieth-century anthropology who says this about humanity:

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We may say that many, if not all, of the personality traits which we have called masculine or feminine are as lightly linked to sex as are the clothing, the manners, and the form of headdress that a society at a given period assigns to either sex.


Human nature is almost unbelievably malleable, responding accurately and contrastingly to cultural conditions.

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Bottom line is: who you are (if defined by what you do) will always be a product of your culture, learning, and biology.

Like bigbull29 says, who you are is a moving target.

 

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Count me as one who doesn't think that just because a guy has fooled around or did some experimentation means they are automatically gay or bi. I suspected I was gay when I was in school because I had zero interest in dating a woman but I was very afraid to admit it to myself due to my religious upbringing and living in a small community.

After I had sex with a guy for the first time at 26 I got a therapist and he and I worked through my guilt, shame, and he also educated me a great deal on sexuality. There has been a significant amount of research in the fields of biology and psychology to determine why people are gay and to be honest I think it's kind of a waste of time. Science still doesn't conclusively know why some men are sexually attracted to males even though there has been some interesting ideas.

Granted I live in a large city and realize there are still plenty of people around who are against homosexuality but the general stigma around same sex relationships has largely faded.