Grindr And Dating/hookup Apps: Do You Ignore Messages When Not Interested?

[cedarizzo]

I have 2 profiles on Grindr. My main one is for my gloryhole. It used to be very specific about what I was looking for. I would always chat with the guys who messaged, most of them usually had questions and I tried to answer them. But I kept getting a lot guys who were looking for something different. A lot of them were wanting to meet without the gloryhole, the entire reason for that profile. I would have to tell them "No thanks, we are looking for different things." But after too many times, I got to the point I would just block them or ghost them.

 

[jslates215]

I respond, but if I’m not interested I let them know. Some can’t take the hint though and keep going so they get blocked.

 

[Kingjay239]

Grindr is fucking annoying af, unfortunately in my area it’s nearly one of the only options we have to hook up or meet someone.

that being said, yes I mostly try to reply. And if I tell someone I’m not interested I don’t do it in a rude way, the only times I will not reply are when they send me Dick/hole pics right off the bat. Or when they have no picture and their first message is “pics, like really dude? You have no picture at all wtf. I’ve had people message me with like a pic taken from a potato and it’s just one, and I have like 5 pics which is what grindr allows I think, and they ask me for more pics. Like dude. You saw 5 of mine, and I’ve seen one grainy ass pic. I rather get a face pic over a dick pic any day. Also, I’ve been finding it really annoying when a person just sends me a message and all it says “hi” like really dude... you can’t even type out “hi how are you” or something with more substance and etc. idk. Some people are just really dumb on there. I get taps, and then I message them and sometimes they don’t reply, so I assume it was an accident idk. Another thing that annoys me the fucking most. Is these older men, the ones in their 60s, they’re soooo fucking picky and shallow, and god forbid if you turn them down. They get so angry, yet they feel entitled to pick and choose who they want to fuck. If you don’t look hot enough and etc... and meanwhile they’re all old and wrinkly with liver spots and etc. I have nothing against older men, but I can’t stand the shallow ones. Sorry not sorry. Makes me wonder if maybe that’s why they’re still single in their 60s which is my biggest fear lol, not really but man... I don’t want to be like so many older men that live on grindr. If I don’t reply right away, I get like 10-15 messages in a period of 30min or less.

 

[Growing123]

What do you do if you have an acquaintance (at best - you just know him to see but have only engaged on the app) and he initiates a conversation occasionally which you respond to politely. Then you notice that he randomly views your profile? Like every 3 weeks just out of the blue. It means he has a crush, right?

 

[Cum_is_Great]

What do you do if you have an acquaintance (at best - you just know him to see but have only engaged on the app) and he initiates a conversation occasionally which you respond to politely. Then you notice that he randomly views your profile? Like every 3 weeks just out of the blue. It means he has a crush, right?

What? No. It means he clicked your profile. Possibly to see if you were online to talk.

 

[bighosenow]

The point is at the end of the day you are rejecting someone. Whether you don’t respond, respond nicely for a bit, or block them, the end result is the same: you aren’t interested. Changing the avenue of how that message is delivered shouldn’t matter. And they have certainly rejected someone else before.

If someone is going to be dating - whether in real life or on an app - they (and us) are most likely going to get rejected and rejected repeatedly. Especially on apps like Grindr. Gotta have thick skin if you are gonna be in the game.

Before someone can sign up on Grindr they should be required to take a course on " handling rejection" both giving and getting.

 

[hypolimnas]

Grindr is fucking annoying af, unfortunately in my area it’s nearly one of the only options we have to hook up or meet someone.

that being said, yes I mostly try to reply. And if I tell someone I’m not interested I don’t do it in a rude way, the only times I will not reply are when they send me Dick/hole pics right off the bat. Or when they have no picture and their first message is “pics, like really dude? You have no picture at all wtf. I’ve had people message me with like a pic taken from a potato and it’s just one, and I have like 5 pics which is what grindr allows I think, and they ask me for more pics. Like dude. You saw 5 of mine, and I’ve seen one grainy ass pic. I rather get a face pic over a dick pic any day. Also, I’ve been finding it really annoying when a person just sends me a message and all it says “hi” like really dude... you can’t even type out “hi how are you” or something with more substance and etc. idk. Some people are just really dumb on there. I get taps, and then I message them and sometimes they don’t reply, so I assume it was an accident idk. Another thing that annoys me the fucking most. Is these older men, the ones in their 60s, they’re soooo fucking picky and shallow, and god forbid if you turn them down. They get so angry, yet they feel entitled to pick and choose who they want to fuck. If you don’t look hot enough and etc... and meanwhile they’re all old and wrinkly with liver spots and etc. I have nothing against older men, but I can’t stand the shallow ones. Sorry not sorry. Makes me wonder if maybe that’s why they’re still single in their 60s which is my biggest fear lol, not really but man... I don’t want to be like so many older men that live on grindr. If I don’t reply right away, I get like 10-15 messages in a period of 30min or less.

Block straight away and move on lol. I don't like timewaster who want to debate or criticise.

 

[hypolimnas]

I have 2 profiles on Grindr. My main one is for my gloryhole. It used to be very specific about what I was looking for. I would always chat with the guys who messaged, most of them usually had questions and I tried to answer them. But I kept getting a lot guys who were looking for something different. A lot of them were wanting to meet without the gloryhole, the entire reason for that profile. I would have to tell them "No thanks, we are looking for different things." But after too many times, I got to the point I would just block them or ghost them.

Block immediately prevents any hassles that might ruin the night.

 

[cedarizzo]

Block immediately prevents any hassles that might ruin the night.

One time I was online early in the morning. I am pretty grumpy in the morning. But my profile said I was not looking at the time and it also mentions I prefer more masculine types. A bigger guy who was dressed as a woman in 1/2 his pictures kept sending me messages. I tried to ignore them, but he just kept sending more. I was chatting with a friend and I told him what was happening. He said he was getting messages from this guy too and he was also ignoring them. I told him I had enough, so I blocked the guy.

5 minutes later, I get a message from a blank profile. It is the guy I just blocked. He signed into another account just to bitch me out for blocking him. I told him he's an idiot. My profile said I wasn't looking, I politely (as politely as I could) ignored his messages because I was not interested and I was looking for masculine guys. He said he was masculine and I was rude. I told him I am not rude, I am just being realistic. And if he wants to say he is masculine, he should take down the pictures of him dressed as a woman. I then blocked that account. I never heard back from him.

 

[Player_01]

Does anyone have Grindr Extra? I'm curious how "read receipts" work. Do they just show you in the message string that the person read it, or do you get a notification that your message has been read?

I've had some people act like they knew I had read their message, and message again and again even without me replying so now I don't even open them if the face isn't one that's interesting to me.

What do you do if you have an acquaintance (at best - you just know him to see but have only engaged on the app) and he initiates a conversation occasionally which you respond to politely. Then you notice that he randomly views your profile? Like every 3 weeks just out of the blue. It means he has a crush, right?

I've wondered that too. I would get guys nearby that looked at my profile more than once. Then I've noticed how many times I accidentally view someone's profile, especially if it's under the "viewed me" button and I click them by mistake. Or if I'm on a profile and try to swipe for more photos and end up swiping right unto another profile (since you have to tap the sides for more photos, not swipe). There are ways it can be an accident. Or if you just swipe through every profile online out of boredom.

But at the same time they could have you in favorites and are looking at your new photos or something.

 

[cedarizzo]

Does anyone have Grindr Extra? I'm curious how "read receipts" work. Do they just show you in the message string that the person read it, or do you get a notification that your message has been read?

I've had some people act like they knew I had read their message, and message again and again even without me replying so now I don't even open them if the face isn't one that's interesting to me.

When you send a message it will say Sent under the message. When it gets delivered to their phone, it changes to Delivered. And when they open the message, it changes to Read.

 

[3424461]

Yes because you can get some very sorry replies and it would ruin my experience. I’ve had some pretty bad replies . I’m glad I’m just masturbating now

 

[Belieber]

Not to sound like a conceited asshole but my inbox and taps blow up, I can’t even answer them all... so I don’t.

I only reply if attracted and even then they’re in for some serious mind games as I analyze their brains.

same with tinder. If I switch to guys I get 99+ likes within 20 minutes but rarely ever match because I’m a picky 99%er bisexual I guess.

 

[1347983]

I ignore. Idc if it seems rude.
Some guys can’t handle rejection and lash out or automatically want to fuck after I reply with hi.

 

[drainedmt]

Speaking of ignoring/blocking:

As I wrote before, I get a decent amount of profile views and very few replies. I got a new tablet recently and wanted to load my account to that device. I logged on with the email I thought was associated with the account; however, it ended up being an old one from years ago.

So I had this profile on my tablet from the old account -- which had no photo -- but started getting replies right away. It's a really shitty feeling when you get more replies from no photo than with your photo. The other interesting thing was I was able to see who blocked my cell phone/main account nearby -- guys I had no interest in or interactions with. But I guess they wanted to free up the one extra space on their feed.

The one "benefit" of being an undesirable minority in my area/not a "hot" guy is I don't have to deal with all the responses.

I know I don't handle rejection well (even if it's from a stranger I'm not interested in; it makes me depressed), so I never reach out to anyone first. A guy may look at my profile seven times in a week but unless he reaches out I won't respond. If he taps me first, only then will I tap back.

I'm a realist. So if a "hot" guy sends me a message I am always wary. And for good reason. I just encountered a guy who has gone around extorting money from guys of my ethnicity. And one rentboy kept hitting me up continually to the point where I was like, "Do you keep messaging me because you think all Asian guys are desperate and will pay for sex?"

So yeah, for all the "hot" guys whose biggest problem is too many replies, realize that at least you're not the target for criminals and opportunists.

 

[blabla18p]

It really changes depending on my mood. Sometimes I just reject nicely and sometimes I ignore.
I hate to get a "why?" when I reject, tho. And I love those who curse me when I say they are not my type.