Help! i need to come to terms with penis size.
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Update: I'm on a 2 day trip with my ex....just hopped on top of his 8 incher....all is good....
So here is my two cents. And I can't guarantee it is worth much more than that.
We are talking about two different things. One is fuck buddies where dick size, body type and physical preferences are a big part of the action. The good part about fuck buddies is that they can be one off experiences and you never see the guy again of things aren't what you are looking for. Or they can become a regular thing if physically things just click. But you don't have to think about what it might be like to live with the guy.
The other thing we are talking about is long term relationships. How you get along and if you share common interests and goals become paramount in whether a relationship is a good fit.. Dick size and body build become much less important. Even sexual preference becomes less important. My boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship. I know I will be with him forever. But sexuality we are so far off it isn't even funny. For one thing, we are both tops. For another, my dick physically is just way too big for him. When he saw my dick, he told me it was almost a deal breaker. But we have managed to work through these physical issues to end up in this amazing relationship. It is mostly about setting ground rules that both of you can live with and not being threatened by outside guys. While I know that monogamy is very important to some guys, it is still not the only option. I think one of the great things about being gay is that we can decide exactly what kind of relationship we want. There are no rules or boundaries set up by expectations or traditions.
We are talking about two different things. One is fuck buddies where dick size, body type and physical preferences are a big part of the action. The good part about fuck buddies is that they can be one off experiences and you never see the guy again of things aren't what you are looking for. Or they can become a regular thing if physically things just click. But you don't have to think about what it might be like to live with the guy.
The other thing we are talking about is long term relationships. How you get along and if you share common interests and goals become paramount in whether a relationship is a good fit.. Dick size and body build become much less important. Even sexual preference becomes less important. My boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship. I know I will be with him forever. But sexuality we are so far off it isn't even funny. For one thing, we are both tops. For another, my dick physically is just way too big for him. When he saw my dick, he told me it was almost a deal breaker. But we have managed to work through these physical issues to end up in this amazing relationship. It is mostly about setting ground rules that both of you can live with and not being threatened by outside guys. While I know that monogamy is very important to some guys, it is still not the only option. I think one of the great things about being gay is that we can decide exactly what kind of relationship we want. There are no rules or boundaries set up by expectations or traditions.
Some like big boobs, some like big butts, some like legs, some like blondes or brunettes. So if someones tells you what they like and you dont meet the criteria, just move on and dont take it as an insult, because all it means is that they are comfortable enough with you to he completely honest.
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Hi there... i really get turned on by guys with small or smaller dick... so as you get turned on by big/bigger its same for me - while there is a large number of guys who will say that they are ONLY turned on by big... there is also large number of guys who will get turned on by small...they will just not be open about it... as when i say i like guys with small dick everyone is looking at me like i am a freak ... for me if guy is cute that all whats matter...and its a top bonus if he has a small one.... look at your self as a certain type and you will always be attractive to some and less to others - and that may be because of your dick, body, face and so on... no one can have all....
First thing is to separate this out into the three or four separate issues. If you want to come to terms with it, it might be best to learn that you have to accept some things as a given. One of them is that you're cock is your cock and it isn't going to really change in size or shape.
One issue you bring up is your feeling when the guy you were going to date said you were too small for his interest. I think classifying this as a "date" is a bit of a stretch. He wasn't interested in you. He was interested in your cock, ass, and mouth. You could have been blond, or bald, or left handed, or have a tattoo, or piercing... whatever... It is a physical attribute and you have no control over their physical reactions.
Another issue you bring up is your physical reaction to a larger cock. Just like the other guy, it is about your body and your physical reaction. You may be attracted to an uncut cock, or a curved cock, or a darker flesh tone, or a specific scent, or someone with larger feet... whatever... That is about a physical reaction. You could experience heightened pleasure from someone tweaking your nipples, or fingering you, or deep throating you... it is all extremely personal and individualized.
The next issue is that you should not judge yourself harshly. I read into your comments that you are judging yourself the same way you judged the guy who didn't want you. That is an interesting projection, but totally unnecessary.
The most important issue, from my perspective, is that you're mixing up the qualities of having a relationship (dating), with the physical attributes you desire from having a sexual encounter (hookup).
I can tell you from personal experience, that being in a relationship strictly for sexual purposes is hollow. It is great to have an active and mutually enjoyable sex life with your boyfriend/girlfriend. But it isn't required. Decades from now, you and your husband/wife/partner may or may not even have sex. The intimacy should always be there, regardless of the sex.
Well I continue my tour of big cocks. Just had a hook up with a guy with 8.5 thick inches. It felt good but I have to go back to my first boyfriend who had a very nice 6.5 thick cock that until this day felt the best of them all. Seems like when they are so big they just kind of fill the vacuum but don't have the contours that hit the prostrate more directly. Interesting (and fun) research project.
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Great piece and very succinctly put my friend. Your boyfriend is a very lucky guy indeed! Rob x
I personally don't like anything smaller than 6inches so I understand what you are saying.
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