Buttercup, your lack of empathy is evident speaking about rape with a stranger is a serious matter at least ask my zodiac sign first.
I'm giving you my viewpoint without any adjective, I'm sorry If touched a nerve.
I try to break it for you would you offer a ribb to someone you know is a vegan? Obviously not but veganism is a philosophy now offer him something that is against his being his identity, no one has to be flexible to humor someone else. And if someone accepts it just means he was bi or gay, and it's also alright.
The obsession with straight kinda reminds when woman were preferred virgin it perhaps talked more about that person insecurities than the virgin itself.