I'm a college student who is openly gay but never had a relationship with a guy before. I have tried flirting before but it didn't really ended well, I want to ask your opinions on how I can atleast try to make a straight guy like me, without looking desperate I guess? Thanks in advance for your answers!
You would be better off finding a guy who is actually attracted to other men. Straight men usually aren't. I think that's a fantasy. It's like a straight girl asking how can she make a gay man like her to the point of forming a relationship. That's not really reality. Yes, sexual behaviors are not the same thing as sexual attraction and people can behave opposite their attractions sometimes. But that's usually not long lasting & mostly sexual experimentation, based on studies. If you're looking to form a relationship, you're not going to find it in someone who's attracted to the opposite sex. Find another gay man who likes you for you. There are plenty of stories of gay men seeking to find relationships with straight men that end in heartache, because it's unrealistic.
When you say "like you", what are you going for? Is it sex, realtionship or both?
Straight guys have been known to fool around or experiment but certainly not all of them. What makes a guy straight is they aren't romantically, emotionally or physically drawn to other men. The likelihood of you getting what you want is pretty small to almost zero.
I suspect every gay guy has been interested in at least one straight guy before so I have empathy for you. It's never easy but I'd keep my viewings to guys who are interested in other men and maybe just try to be friends.
Straight guys have been known to fool around or experiment but certainly not all of them. What makes a guy straight is they aren't romantically, emotionally or physically drawn to other men. The likelihood of you getting what you want is pretty small to almost zero.
I suspect every gay guy has been interested in at least one straight guy before so I have empathy for you. It's never easy but I'd keep my viewings to guys who are interested in other men and maybe just try to be friends.
I assume you mean you want them to hangout with you. Be friends. It would be easier if you both have some shared interests to chat about.
SilentButDeadly
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Easy, don't
Badgirl_lips
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Sadly sweetheart, if it's for romantic reasons, they're not going to that's why they're straight
halcyondays
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One of my favorite scenes from Heartstopper. Charlie asks Mr. Ajayi how to stop liking a straight guy.
It's different from your question which is how do I make a straight guy like me.
As a bi man everyone sees as straight here's my advice. Don't try to make him like you. If you're interested in him tell him. Ask him out. Some gay/bi men have asked me. Some I dated, some not.
If that's too direct and you want him to ask you try inserting yourself into his life until he asks you out. Many women (who generally don't ask men out) and gay/bi men have done this to me over the years. It's usually obvious to me and if I like them I'll go for it.
Good luck!
Dude,
please don’t try and ‘make‘ anyone like you, you’ll just come across badly, do good things, people will see and then start to like you, in whatever way they want to..
flirting, I’m defo no expert but if you smile at them and they smile back and you get a bit of eye contact then go talk to them, otherwise save your self haha
also, straight guys have less than 0% interest in another man, just sayin’
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Straight guys aren't into guys, so there is absolutely, positively nothing you can do to "make a straight gut like me." As others have said, go out, socialize, make friends. If you are openly gay, then like minded people will probably notice you. Most colleges have LGBTQ+ clubs where you can also meet people.
You be yourself and people will like you for who you are, but if a guy tells you he's straight, then respect that and don't cross his boundaries. If he makes a move on you, then he isn't straight, but that's a different conversation.
OP generally you don't. But if you can't get him off your mind. If you still post on LPSG please let me know and I'll give more personal insight as to what you should do. Limerence is a bitch, but yeah. Life in general is sometimes.
But yeah if he's straight you don't have a whole lot of options honestly. But if you have deep feelings for him, and you feel it's not a straight guy you can pass up/"Okay he's straight I'll move on". Usually it will be time, or maybe you'll stop thinking about him. But if it's meant to be he will recripcorate I guess.
Again let me know if you're still active here as I can give additional cheat codes (as I'm going through the same fucking thing as you.) and tips and tricks to get through this shit dearest. <3
But yeah if he's straight you don't have a whole lot of options honestly. But if you have deep feelings for him, and you feel it's not a straight guy you can pass up/"Okay he's straight I'll move on". Usually it will be time, or maybe you'll stop thinking about him. But if it's meant to be he will recripcorate I guess.
Again let me know if you're still active here as I can give additional cheat codes (as I'm going through the same fucking thing as you.) and tips and tricks to get through this shit dearest. <3
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