How did you start?

[Elixir]

For those of you who wanted to experiment with your bi side. How did you start? From an app? On here? Did you already know someone? An escort?

It's an area I am determined to experiment with after years of indecision and chickening out. I've been on here for a number of years and have had numerous offers to have my balls drained by gay and bi guys and tbh the thought is hot. But I'm not sure if the reality is something I'd be into. I'd like to try though. I definitely feel it needs to come from a source of some kind of trust. Not just a random meeting.

 

[beginner63]

I met a guy on silverdaddies. I was 47 and he was 65. We talked online for a month or so until I traveled to his area for work . We met for a drink before going to my hotel

 

[WilliamG]

SilverDaddies here as well. Then moved on to Sniffies. Be aware many guys are being discreet about their meeting up. Hence why it's so hard to actually meet sometimes. Just know that you control the situation. So far I've not met any "creeps" because the initial chats can wean them out. Meeting in a public space is a great way to do it for your first time. I like parks for this reason. Out in the open but... there may be a safe area nearby to play peepee touch.

Edit: Your profile pics would get some good attention on a meetup site.

 

[dickthrobbing]

At a swing party I went to with a girl friend, she suggested ....... more insisted I try it

 

[Southlincsnudist]

I started with my best friend

 

[halcyondays]

After flirting with me at the front desk for a couple days a gay college student invited me to his room after hours at the hotel where I worked when I was at uni.

 

[latinluva]

How did I start? Well you said you don't wanna start by doin random strangers. That's exactly how it all started for me. In fact, 95% of the time I was sucking cock or getting fucked in the ass....it was a random stranger.

 

[wewlad202]

Sniffies. Looking for awhile and no one in my area was interesting. Finally found a guy and just chatted for awhile (must have been on/off for a couple weeks, he was out of town some and I was busy too). He wasn't pushy and trying to meetup instantly. His cock looked good and he was in decent shape. eventually we met up (in public first, then quickly back to his place). Super understanding about it being my first time with another guy, didn't push me to do anything, just let me enjoy sucking his cock.

 

[Elixir]

Thanks for the input all!

 

[Samantha V]

I met a guy in a hotel gym locker-room. I thought I was alone in there so had been edging in the shower. Came out into the locker area semi-hard. He complemented me (which was a bit embarrassing) and we arranged to meet in the bar afterwards. Few drinks, back to my room, one thing led to another. I really enjoyed it.

 

[elklindoxxx]

For those of you who wanted to experiment with your bi side. How did you start? From an app? On here? Did you already know someone? An escort?

It's an area I am determined to experiment with after years of indecision and chickening out. I've been on here for a number of years and have had numerous offers to have my balls drained by gay and bi guys and tbh the thought is hot. But I'm not sure if the reality is something I'd be into. I'd like to try though. I definitely feel it needs to come from a source of some kind of trust. Not just a random meeting.

I strongly recommend to all of the people who are straight curious is to find a local masturbation club. There you can explore your sexuality, for a lack of better words, in a more gentle way. So you find out if it is really for you.

Also, I would stay away from escorts and hooking up with random strangers the first time around. You will have no idea what to expect....especially from strangers.

 

[WilliamG]

I strongly recommend to all of the people who are straight curious is to find a local masturbation club. There you can explore your sexuality, for a lack of better words, in a more gentle way. So you find out if it is really for you.

Also, I would stay away from escorts and hooking up with random strangers the first time around. You will have no idea what to expect....especially from strangers.

I found the "random stranger" on Sniffies works out the best for me. But with some hard guardrails:

We have a little back and forth chat online first. If they can't chat properly or it feels weird... Red flag.

We both show full body photos (I can pass on the face shot if the chat feels right). If they can't post a good pic... Red flag.

We keep communications on the app or thru email. Not the phone (though I hear some feel safe using Google Phone Numbers). Depending on how the meetup goes I decide whether to allow text in the future. If they must have my phone number... Red flag.

We meet somewhere public (usually a known cruise area in the daytime) that has a safe "play area" to go to if the vibe is right at that point.

 

[Elixir]

I found the "random stranger" on Sniffies works out the best for me. But with some hard guardrails:

We have a little back and forth chat online first. If they can't chat properly or it feels weird... Red flag.

We both show full body photos (I can pass on the face shot if the chat feels right). If they can't post a good pic... Red flag.

We keep communications on the app or thru email. Not the phone (though I hear some feel safe using Google Phone Numbers). Depending on how the meetup goes I decide whether to allow text in the future. If they must have my phone number... Red flag.

We meet somewhere public (usually a known cruise area in the daytime) that has a safe "play area" to go to if the vibe is right at that point.

These are some great tips/rules! Thanks!

 

[Elixir]

I strongly recommend to all of the people who are straight curious is to find a local masturbation club. There you can explore your sexuality, for a lack of better words, in a more gentle way. So you find out if it is really for you.

Also, I would stay away from escorts and hooking up with random strangers the first time around. You will have no idea what to expect....especially from strangers.

Thanks for the tip!

 

[goldscorpguy]

My first was a true, random stranger, a chance meeting in a hotel sauna late one evening. He was there on a stopover as flight crew. After a few minutes of conversation we just clicked and it all happened. Maybe I was lucky. That was 15 years ago, no regrets.

I've tried various apps over the years. I now use just two, fabguys and fabswingers. Through the latter, I've discovered a bi club, where we meet twice a month, and I get all the action I need. Have also ticked off the bucket list a few of my fantasy group scenarios.

 

[Elixir]

My first was a true, random stranger, a chance meeting in a hotel sauna late one evening. He was there on a stopover as flight crew. After a few minutes of conversation we just clicked and it all happened. Maybe I was lucky. That was 15 years ago, no regrets.

I've tried various apps over the years. I now use just two, fabguys and fabswingers. Through the latter, I've discovered a bi club, where we meet twice a month, and I get all the action I need. Have also ticked off the bucket list a few of my fantasy group scenarios.

Cool! Thanks alot for the input

 

[Elixir]

Thanks for all the input so far and keep it coming!

I think my feeling on it is still the same in the sense that meeting a stranger immediately isnt something I would go for. I would prefer, as some have said, to at least chat and get to at least know the person a little bit first. That way you can normally filter out the people who are just horny at the time and lose interest later haha.

 

[elklindoxxx]

Thanks for all the input so far and keep it coming!

I think my feeling on it is still the same in the sense that meeting a stranger immediately isnt something I would go for. I would prefer, as some have said, to at least chat and get to at least know the person a little bit first. That way you can normally filter out the people who are just horny at the time and lose interest later haha.

What I tell you is this....if you are going to meet someome on a hookup app. People are not there to chat and cultivate a relationship with you. Their expectation is that you will be having sexual intercourse with them. My partner and I go with other couples. If a couple says that they go AC/DC, well we are expecting that I'm going with the other guy and she will go with the other gal. And trust me when I tell you....we really know who's motivated to to engage in homosexual activity (intercourse) and who's not.

So for the first time around I would not engage in intercourse, go to a masturbation club to explore pressure free. If you are straight curious, I would strongly recommend that you gradually expose yourself to men. And that's why I'm a proponent of men going to a masturbation club. There you can go and chat with other men. See naked men, erect penises and watch them ejaculate. Then you'll have a good idea if it's for you or not.

 

[theplayerking]

Thanks for all the input so far and keep it coming!

I think my feeling on it is still the same in the sense that meeting a stranger immediately isnt something I would go for. I would prefer, as some have said, to at least chat and get to at least know the person a little bit first. That way you can normally filter out the people who are just horny at the time and lose interest later haha.

If you’re using an app, be specific and honest about what you’re looking for (including the probable timeframe) and let people self-select. Be clear that you’re curious and looking to experiment but want to get to know someone first, etc. Most guys will block you right away, but they were not what you were looking for anyway so it doesn’t matter. What you don’t want to do is imply (inadvertently or not) that you’re open to an immediate hookup if you’re not going to follow through. If you’re patient, you should find the right guy, but know that it will take a lot of scrolling and unanswered messages because most guys are either just jacking and have no intention of hooking up, or looking to get off right away.

 

[diver6]

I also started with a best friend