How do I get an older man to like me?
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Yeah, you shouldn't have any problems. When I was your age I did the same and it's easy.
The most annoying thing will be guys not taking no as an answer.
One piece of advice for your first time would be to develop a friendship with someone first, rather than just a random who will ghost you after.
You will probably have issues you will want to talk to this person afterwards.
You will probably have issues you will want to talk to this person afterwards.
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Speaking as someone whose age is 56 and that makes about 90% of the people on Grindr & Scruff younger than me, here is some advice I would give you, from my perspective
1) Be mature - I tend to dismiss the 18 - 21 age, in general, as that we probably don't have anything in common. 21 + I tend to generalize that at least they've been to college, or are holding a job, or maybe in the military (all things that I did). There is nothing wrong with being young and starting out but, for me, you have a higher standard to meet, for me.
2) Don't come across as desperate. Nothing (to me) wreaks more of immaturity than desperation. Sadly, I meet/talk with guys my own age that come across that way.
3) Find some common ground where you can chat and talk and get to know each other better.
4) Be very careful - There are a lot of guys out there that are looking to take advantage of others and the younger and "newer" they are, they easier it will be for them. Meet in public, first. If you have a best friend/someone you can trust (not sure if you are out or not) let them know who you are meeting with and when and where.
5) Don't let anyone, and I mean ANYONE, EVER, talk you into doing something you don't want to do or makes you uncomfortable. The most powerful thing you can learn, right now, is to say this: NO! The second most powerful thing you can learn is this: Walk away and don't look back and don't let them into your life again.
6) Know what you want and don't compromise - Right now, you know you want age 30 +, that's fine. But that's the age. What kind of person would make you feel more comfortable? What kind of person is it that you seek? This doesn't mean ignore anyone who isn't 30 +, you do need to get out and meet people. Just know what you want and don't compromise.
I'm not sure if this was the type of answer you were looking for. Perhaps some of the others on here can give you advice from their perspective and experience.
Keep us informed on your progress, Please.
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1) Be mature - I tend to dismiss the 18 - 21 age, in general, as that we probably don't have anything in common. 21 + I tend to generalize that at least they've been to college, or are holding a job, or maybe in the military (all things that I did). There is nothing wrong with being young and starting out but, for me, you have a higher standard to meet, for me.
2) Don't come across as desperate. Nothing (to me) wreaks more of immaturity than desperation. Sadly, I meet/talk with guys my own age that come across that way.
3) Find some common ground where you can chat and talk and get to know each other better.
4) Be very careful - There are a lot of guys out there that are looking to take advantage of others and the younger and "newer" they are, they easier it will be for them. Meet in public, first. If you have a best friend/someone you can trust (not sure if you are out or not) let them know who you are meeting with and when and where.
5) Don't let anyone, and I mean ANYONE, EVER, talk you into doing something you don't want to do or makes you uncomfortable. The most powerful thing you can learn, right now, is to say this: NO! The second most powerful thing you can learn is this: Walk away and don't look back and don't let them into your life again.
6) Know what you want and don't compromise - Right now, you know you want age 30 +, that's fine. But that's the age. What kind of person would make you feel more comfortable? What kind of person is it that you seek? This doesn't mean ignore anyone who isn't 30 +, you do need to get out and meet people. Just know what you want and don't compromise.
I'm not sure if this was the type of answer you were looking for. Perhaps some of the others on here can give you advice from their perspective and experience.
Keep us informed on your progress, Please.
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That can be difficult.
But if you can talk to your friends and not be desperate, you can do that with strangers, too.
Don't let whatever is driving you, control you.
You will have questions, so, as you talk to whomever you are talking, too, interweave them into the conversation.
I hope that helps
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I meant to get chatting to them online. This is a form of sieving through the trash.
I'm not saying you need to become best friends. Just that after a while, if you met, you'd see yourself being friends.
Completely agree with Sklar!
I have also enjoyed being with older guys, and the more enjoyable times were with those I had some connection with, at least before I felt comfortable enough to have more one off encounters. I was fortunate to have some older guys who became 'mentors' for me which was really helpful to discover interests and kinks (some even shared me with their mates which was a lot of fun!!).
I had the same problem when I was 18, looking back I think most of the old guys thought I would not be interested in them. Don't be afraid to make the first move or let them know bluntly that you are interested.
Mate I am older and enjoy younger guys, and i know plenty younger guys who enjoy older... just need a bit of trust
Agree make the first move, I would not make a first move being older for a younger guy... on dating app you can make it know you have a preference for a mature guy or an age range etc..
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As an older (old) guy, I have found that almost all younger guys I have met are looking for one thing. They want to be "kept". They want the old guy to support them and they want to be in the will (or at least living together so they can claim the estate when old guy passes on. As an example, I have a friend who has just lost his third "older" partner. He now owns three houses. If you want to have sex with older man, no problem but be prepared for some serious vetting. I had an opportunity to shack up with a 20 year old. When I mentioned a pre-nup, he was gone like the wind. So, decide what you want and when you meet someone, be honest and be prepared to pay half the bills.
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