How Often Do You Need To Release?

[BigToken361]

As the title says, how often do you need to release either solo or with a partner? There's often an urban myth that floats around on places like Reddit indicating that big-dicked hunks need to ejaculate more often than normal sized or smaller guys.

For me, I am a 3 to 4 a day type of guy or else I get very irritable.

 

[cofrader]

As the title says, how often do you need to release either solo or with a partner? There's often an urban myth that floats around on places like Reddit indicating that big-dicked hunks need to ejaculate more often than normal sized or smaller guys.

For me, I am a 3 to 4 a day type of guy or else I get very irritable.

You already know it's bullshit, an urban myth that is not urban but an internet invention to fish weak-minded.
How a few cells of tissue can change anything but for the guy obsessed by a fetish, if there was a potential difference I would look on the brain.

Need? like blue balls? Perhaps once a week.
I'm ok with once a day.
If you get irritable if you don't perhaps you are addicted.

 

[ronin001]

Lets see, there are an average of 4 weeks in a month + -, So if I have sex / or go solo more than once; but less than twice a week, on average . That would land me more than 4 times a month; but less than 8 times a month .

Some how, I survive just fine with no side effects

 

[lapdog2001]

When in relationships, I very rarely masturbated as I was getting laid, which is waaaaaaaaaay better! Typically 2-3 times a week, but even when only 1 time a week, it was enough to keep me sexually satisfied. If there was a longer gap due to illness, travel, temporary breakup, etc, then I would take things into my own hands to get some relief. However, having a woman in my life, and having sexual relations with her, has always taken a significantly higher precedence over masturbation!

When I was single I probably masturbated at about the same rate, 2, maybe 3 times a week. I've never, ever experienced 'blue balls' or irritability due to the lack of orgasms. Even a once-a-week jerk-off was enough to counteract that!

 

[notthatguy]

That is definitely an urban myth... completely average size guy here and am definitely a 5 to 15 times a day guy.

If it was the case that better hung guys need more than they would never be able to do anything any day other than have sex.

 

[Beedie Tijii]

I'm sure it can vary with age, diet etc... it certainly does not vary with penis size, and I've never heard that before tbh.

 

[Sagittarius84]

"Need" is a loaded term..lol. Ideally, if we're talking about maintaining general disposition, sleep schedule, and fitness, 1-2x a day with maybe 1 day off a week. Less than that doesn't really affect my attitude, more my sleep which then subsequently creeps into my attitude, triggering quiet introspection, then a period of sleepy obliviousness, then irritation. I think the "need" to do so more correlates with testosterone levels than penis size, even though my situation probably lends more to the myth.

 

[thickcockjames]

Bro if you “need” to cum 3 or 4 times a day, I think you might need to cut back. That’s literally the definition of addiction right there. I’m not judging, when I was in my 20s it was pretty common for me to cum that often. It just became part of my routine and I’m a pretty routine orientated person so admittedly it was kind of tricky to cut back.

But for me, now, I don’t think I get irritable if I don’t cum, but I do like to cum at least a few times a week. Since I’ve been married and am now a father, my mind is just occupied by so many more things. I do notice that my sex drive can kind of vary depending on how often I cum. If I cum more often I want it more. But if I cum too much I get kind of bored with it. So it’s a balance I suppose.

 

[Sagittarius84]

Bro if you “need” to cum 3 or 4 times a day, I think you might need to cut back. That’s literally the definition of addiction right there.

I don't think that's fair. I think the time spent cumming, especially if it inhibits other aspects of life, is where the problem rolls in.
I think orgasm/ejaculation itself has been unfairly stigmatized within a sexual construct(especially for men) and really isn't all that different from sleep, in that it's a natural bodily function, and that some benefit from more, while others do just fine with less. 3-4x a day would be easily doable for me if I don't have so many people living in my home, but even if it would drive me nuts, I could see how once a week works better for other's physiology. To that same end I know of plenty of people that cannot function with less than 7 hrs of uninterrupted sleep, while I regularly excel with less than 5.

 

[thickcockjames]

I don't think that's fair. I think the time spent cumming, especially if it inhibits other aspects of life, is where the problem rolls in.
I think orgasm/ejaculation itself has been unfairly stigmatized within a sexual construct(especially for men) and really isn't all that different from sleep, in that it's a natural bodily function, and that some benefit from more, while others do just fine with less. 3-4x a day would be easily doable for me if I don't have so many people living in my home, but even if it would drive me nuts, I could see how once a week works better for other's physiology. To that same end I know of plenty of people that cannot function with less than 7 hrs of uninterrupted sleep, while I regularly excel with less than 5.

I don’t think sleep is a reasonable comparison. Without sleep a person will literally die. Having an orgasm isn’t vital to a person’s survival. You won’t actually die if you stop cumming.

Yes, there absolutely are benefits to it. But as someone who looked into this a lot and spoke to a therapist about it, most people who need to cum and excessive number of times are usually addicted to the oxytocin rush that comes from it. Similar thing as doom scrolling, except with cumming you have a bit more control over it.

Why I believe this particular situation is not generally healthy is because the OP said it literally has a negative effect on his mood if he doesn’t. That’s a dependency issue.

The world is hard as hell these days and everyone has their vices, I’m not trying to condemn the guy or nothing. I’m probably coming off as over judgy and certainly not intending to. But it could be something he could at least talk to a professional about just to make sure he’s not developing an unhealthy dependency.

 

[ss7979]

Once or twice a day unless I have a really hot woman or two then more

 

[Sagittarius84]

Yes, there absolutely are benefits to it. But as someone who looked into this a lot and spoke to a therapist about it, most people who need to cum and excessive number of times are usually addicted to the oxytocin rush that comes from it. Similar thing as doom scrolling, except with cumming you have a bit more control over it.

Why I believe this particular situation is not generally healthy is because the OP said it literally has a negative effect on his mood if he doesn’t. That’s a dependency issue.

I've often heard these very same assertions and to be honest to me at least it appears these conclusions stem more from a very gynocentric view and not one based in objective biology. Like even as we self diagnose our own attitudes amongst the genders, it seems that when a hormonal shift affects a woman the objectively validity of any irritation, or mood change is never to be questioned(even if its subjective expression is overly negative or unnecessarily confrontational), but for men(specifically those that deal with women) any irritability or negative mood changes are automatically more attributed to a dependency.
If a man is otherwise present and productive in all other aspects of life, whom dictates an "excessive" need to cum?

 

[savageblue]

1-3 time a week during "normal" times. 4-5 if it's a more stressful week

 

[thickcockjames]

I've often heard these very same assertions and to be honest to me at least it appears these conclusions stem more from a very gynocentric view and not one based in objective biology. Like even as we self diagnose our own attitudes amongst the genders, it seems that when a hormonal shift affects a woman the objectively validity of any irritation, or mood change is never to be questioned(even if its subjective expression is overly negative or unnecessarily confrontational), but for men(specifically those that deal with women) any irritability or negative mood changes are automatically more attributed to a dependency.
If a man is otherwise present and productive in all other aspects of life, whom dictates an "excessive" need to cum?

I assume you’re talking about a woman’s menstrual cycle, and that does actually cause hormonal changes, not to mention sever pain in many women so yes it makes them irritable. It’s also something they have no control over and is no way related to this IMO.

Even if a women was masturbating 3 times a day and said she gets irritable is she doesn’t, I’d probably have a same conclusion. An organs still release oxytocin in women, and can serve as a temporary way to relieve stress just like in men.

Again, I’m not throwing shade at anyone, if you’re not hurting anyone then you do you. But it’s good to be aware of potential habits that become something a person depends on for their mood.

 

[Sagittarius84]

assume you’re talking about a woman’s menstrual cycle, and that does actually cause hormonal changes, not to mention sever pain in many women so yes it makes them irritable. It’s also something they have no control over

Slippery slope for questions of agency and autonomy that I don't think most women want to have to ski down. The fact that women aren't monthly prone to arrests or firings tells me they have a lot more control over how they express themselves than they put forth and the issue is more of fewer consequences for said behavior in a relationship construct...but that's a different thread.

 

[Sagittarius84]

Again, I’m not throwing shade at anyone, if you’re not hurting anyone then you do you. But it’s good to be aware of potential habits that become something a person depends on for their mood.

Humanity is full of less scandalous, more mundane habits that are no more or less consequential to our respective moods. I just think it convenient that a society that slowly and surely started to embrace the sexual fulfillment of women, and celebrates their multi orgasmic potential, is suddenly so scrutinous about men daring to define and wrest their sexual fulfillment beyond what they "earn" or what outside parties deem acceptable.
I don't think a society that still freely demonizes or vilifies the normal masturbatory habits of the average man(while simultaneously encouraging women to do so, often in lieu of pursuing sexual partners), has any valid claim as to what is too much masturbation for a guy, short of his health, or livelihood suffering.

 

[thickcockjames]

Humanity is full of less scandalous, more mundane habits that are no more or less consequential to our respective moods. I just think it convenient that a society that slowly and surely started to embrace the sexual fulfillment of women, and celebrates their multi orgasmic potential, is suddenly so scrutinous about men daring to define and wrest their sexual fulfillment beyond what they "earn" or what outside parties deem acceptable.
I don't think a society that still freely demonizes or vilifies the normal masturbatory habits of the average man(while simultaneously encouraging women to do so, often in lieu of pursuing sexual partners), has any valid claim as to what is too much masturbation for a guy, short of his health, or livelihood suffering.

Sorry, I guess I just don’t experience the type of behavior or discrimination you’re talking about. I hear some people mention it from time to time but I’ve never experienced it. Maybe I’m just lucky, I dunno.

But again, I’m not condemning anyone here. I’m the type of person who likes to be in control of my mood and emotions, and I believe that’s a healthy goal it have. Emotional awareness and emotional maturity. If your mood is predicated on feeding a vice, then it’s impossible to have that. So, I just offer advice of looking into it and being mindful of it. That’s all. And I’d say that to someone of any gender because mental health is important.

I’m also not saying someone is bad for doing so, I’m not shaming anyone. Everyone has their vices, but it’s good to keep those vices in check.

 

[Rooker]

Need: Seems like once a day

Actual Need: Probably way less

 

[ss7979]

Once a day is minimum. I make sure I can fuck at least once a day.

 

[Mike hung]

Pretty frequently several times a day without fail, my balls replenish the tank pretty quickly and there's only so much before I need to pump it out.