How open was your relationship with your college roommate regarding nudity and sexual issues?

[endoftheage]

So I was thinking the other day, for those of us that went the college route or had roommates in other phases of adult life, what was your relationship around nudity and sexual issues with him (or her)?

If you wouldn't mind commenting on some or all of the below, I would greatly appreciate it!

Here are some specific questions I am wondering about things that (may) have happened:

• Was it a big deal if you guys were in your underwear in front of each other? Did this happen often?
• Was it a big deal if you guys were nude in front of each other in non-sexual situations (like going to/from the shower, changing clothes, etc). Did this happen often?
• Was it a big deal if one of you walked in on the other masturbating? Did this happen often?
• Did you guys ever masturbate while the other was in the room, but not participating with the other?
• Was there ever an instance of you guys "experimenting" sexually together? If so, was it isolated, repeated a few times, or did you guys become a couple?

Here are some specific questions I am wondering about things that (may) have been discussed:

• Did you ever discuss your masturbation habits or discuss your need to masturbate with your roommate?
• Did you ever "sexile" one other?
• Did you ever talk about what girls/guys you've had sex with?
• How detailed did those discussions get?

I'm not specifically looking for erotic stories (though I'm not opposed to them if you have a true one), more like what college/adult roommates are open with and discuss. I'm thinking about this mainly from an American perspective, because I'm American, but I welcome a non-American perspective too.

Note that there are two things I'm not looking for here: First, is anything underage - 18+ please. Secondly, I'm more interested in roommates who are NOT family members, so rooming whit your brother is not really the scope of this topic.

Thanks!

 

[ChristmasGoofy]

I only had a roommate my freshman year of college. We weren’t particularly close, so we didn’t really spend more time with one another than we had to. We lived in a two room single. (He had the room connected to the hallway, and I had the inside room.) This meant that we had a bit of privacy when it came to changing, masturbating, having sex, etc. There were a few times that he would be changing in his room and I’d come back or leave and he’d ask me to wait a second so he could cover up. I don’t think I ever caught him masturbating (I did cock block him with his GF once though), and I was able to do it in my room alone.

 

[Rooker]

Was it a big deal if you guys were in your underwear in front of each other? Did this happen often?

I had three roommates freshman year, two of us per room. One roommate sophomore year (one room), then one roommate junior and senior year (same guy) when we each had our own suites.

didn’t count. It was not a big deal but none of us really walked around in our underwear.

• Was it a big deal if you guys were nude in front of each other in non-sexual situations (like going to/from the shower, changing clothes, etc). Did this happen often?

With three of my roommates, we played on the same athletics team. The nudity limited to the locker room. Changing occurred in the bathroom it seems, at least changing involving nudity.

• Was it a big deal if one of you walked in on the other masturbating? Did this happen often?

Two of them walked in on another. They laughed it off. Criticized his technique. Didn’t happen much.

• Did you guys ever masturbate while the other was in the room, but not participating with the other?

Maybe under the sheets quietly? I didn’t. Who knows if they did.

• Was there ever an instance of you guys "experimenting" sexually together? If so, was it isolated, repeated a few times, or did you guys become a couple?

Nope, we were all straight. Had a gay roommate later and I was still straight.

Here are some specific questions I am wondering about things that (may) have been discussed:

• Did you ever discuss your masturbation habits or discuss your need to masturbate with your roommate?

Just the mocking that time. And a few jokes about needing to do it.

• Did you ever "sexile" one other?

We respected each other’s privacy and handled women being over. Never really kicked each other out but gave each other passes. There was a time they called me out for spending more time with a partner at the dorm then at her place, and we handled it.

• Did you ever talk about what girls/guys you've had sex with?

Yeah, but never sat down with index cards.

• How detailed did those discussions get?

Not very.

 

[NiceAnonGuy]

I never saw any of them nude…which sucks.

After showering, they would either change in the dorm bathroom stalls or come back to the room and do “towel dances” to put on their underwear. Never even got a glimpse of anything when they were drunk, high or fucking chicks they brought back to the room.

I always wished that somebody gave me tips on how to see my straight roommates nude (without seeming creepy)

 

[HungBtmVegas]

I went to a Conservative/Christian leaning university and my roommate was strictly straight to the point of there being an uncomfortable air in the room, despite him being relatively civil and pleasant. I'm respectful of people's boundaries and I’m only attracted to older men, so I never intentionally put him in a compromising situation, but he did walk in on me having sex with my boyfriend at the time before, so we developed a sexiling system afterwards.

The funny part was because I only date/have sex with older men, he thought I was having sex with one of my professors lol.

 

[Rooker]

I always wished that somebody gave me tips on how to see my straight roommates nude (without seeming creepy)

There is no way to do that.

 

[hzs3fg]

I never saw any of them nude…which sucks.

After showering, they would either change in the dorm bathroom stalls or come back to the room and do “towel dances” to put on their underwear. Never even got a glimpse of anything when they were drunk, high or fucking chicks they brought back to the room.

I always wished that somebody gave me tips on how to see my straight roommates nude (without seeming creepy)

You probably begin by exposing yourself regularly in hopes that they will loosen up and do the same.

 

[nomju]

In my final year at university I shared a house with 3 other guys. All separate bedrooms, shared living room and kitchen and two bathrooms. On my floor was one other bedroom and one of the bathrooms.
I was in a steady relationship, as was one of the other guys. One was a geeky guy who never had a girl and the last one had casual hook ups, but not as many as he would have wanted. He was the guy on my landing.
I always slept naked, and would often go to the toilet naked. This was deemed acceptable, but non of the others did it.
We had a no fucking in the living room rule, and a knock before entering rule on each others rooms.
The geeky guy would ask me questions about sex. His room was below mine, and I'd sometimes disturb him fucking my girlfriend. He admitted to me that he would sometimes wank while listening to us. My girlfriend was also very open, and would happily walk to the bathroom naked. I think it was to taunt the other boys, and show them what they were missing.
Non of us ever did anything together, other than talking about sex, other than the time the guy on my landing walked in while I was recieving head.

 

[cedarizzo]

The one year I lived in the dorms, I had 2 roommates. For the most part, it was always changing in the bathroom down the hall or the towel dance to put on underwear/shorts/pants. One of the roommates was pledging a fraternity and came home most nights totally drunk. I caught him masturbating a few times and once he pissed on the trunk he kept at the end of his bed. He was hot and a hot mess. The other roommate dropped out of college after a few months, his only motivation was getting high in the morning so he could watch cartoons the rest of the day.

The next year, I had an apartment that I got with a coworkers boyfriend. Best part of it was he stayed in her place (next floor up) all the time. One day, I accidentally left a gay porn in the VHS player. Didn't think anything of it until he moved out that night. Never saw him again. The last 3 months of the lease, he found somebody to rent it. I got a long great with the new guy. We had the best romance relationship. We often went out at night and would come back to cuddle on the couch and watch movies. Never saw him naked, but we often walked around in our underwear. I miss that guy, he was the best.

 

[theplayerking]

My freshman year roommate was the first guy to fuck me. He had broken up with his girlfriend and I outed myself to him. He asked me what I liked to do with a guy and I told him I liked to get fucked, which wasn’t strictly speaking true. He then said he’d be open to trying it. Fortunately he had a very small dick. We didn’t know what we were doing and had no lube, but made it work. We only did it once and never spoke about it again, mainly because we didn’t have much in common and weren’t really friends.

Even before we had sex we always slept in our underwear and never had a problem changing in front of each other, although neither of us flaunted it.

 

[Tony56]

Same roommate from second semester freshman year through senior year. We both had shared a room with brothers at home, and grew up in the era when showering after PE in high school was standard practice. He also had played soccer in high school and had team showers. So, neither of us was body shy and we saw each other in underwear and/or naked pretty much every day. We had a masturbation talk early on and decided it was silly to pretend that we didn't masturbate so we agreed on masturbating when we went to bed at night - not each other, but each in his own bed. It was a civilized way to share a room.

 

[cockydude2018]

My freshman year, my sexy roommate, in a two twin bed dorm room, brought his hot girlfriend in only to find me high and drunk and passed out in my bed. I was aware enough to hear him say “He’s passed out. He won’t hear us”. They proceeded to fuck the night away.

 

[Braunlow]

I have written in another thread about my roommate and me. We only lived together for two yrs. ( jr and sr year). We were both from the same hometown and were in the same activities in college. He was straight; I am not. It was very common for us to walk around the room in our underwear. We shared a bathroom ( between rooms) with another two guys ( one year younger and both straight), one also being from my hometown, so it was almost like the four of us were roommates. One of those guys used to frequently walk around the room totally naked, saying that we were all guys and knew what each other had. He was very attractive, so I did everything I could to have an excuse to be in their room. Anyway, the masturbation took place in the shower, so there was never an invasion of privacy. My roommate like to drink and frequently had a little too much. That's when I discovered that he got very horny when he was tipsy. Long story short, it ended up with me sucking him off many times over the two years, with no reciprocation, which was fine with me. After I graduated, I started grad school and we moved into an apartment where we never had to worry about wearing clothes, so we were naked much of the time. I continued to service him and, eventually, he ended up giving me a hand job during the servicing. After the yr, I moved to California, he got married and moved to OKC. We met once when we were both home to visit our folks, and for one last time, we hooked up.

 

[Hockeytiger]

A few points I should share before answering. First, we were both bi and were discovering it so that makes a huge impact. Secondly, we were both athletes on the same team. Third, this was back in the mid 90’s so cell phone cameras and such weren’t a thing yet.

• We were in our underwear in front of each other frequently. It was after a shower, or before bed. We didn’t just strip down to our underwear randomly through the day, but because of practice, weights, and general PT we would be showering and changing several times a day.
• Same as #1. We were frequently naked in front of each other but only as part of changing or showering.
• Not a big deal. We understood each other’s needs. It only happened a few times.
• At night, when we went to bed, yes, regularly
• We were bi, and figuring things out so yes we did. I wouldn’t say we were a couple but we messed around semi-regularly.
• We brought it up the first day. We each had some skin mags, condoms, and lube. We showed each other what we had and welcomed the other to borrow the mags and if either of us were in a pinch to used a condom or lube. But it was also understood that we wouldn’t be dicks and mess up each other’s mags or too frequently use each other’s condoms or lubes.
• We lived together with most of the rest of the team and we kept a few spare rooms to allow for some privacy for sex without having to inconvenience you roommate.
• All the time and with teammates as well
• It wasn’t extremely detailed, but it would include things like what they were willing to do (BJ, swallow) and how they liked it to go (wanted to sub or dom rough gentile vanilla etc.)

 

[theplayerking]

A few points I should share before answering. First, we were both bi and were discovering it so that makes a huge impact. Secondly, we were both athletes on the same team. Third, this was back in the mid 90’s so cell phone cameras and such weren’t a thing yet.

• We were in our underwear in front of each other frequently. It was after a shower, or before bed. We didn’t just strip down to our underwear randomly through the day, but because of practice, weights, and general PT we would be showering and changing several times a day.
• Same as #1. We were frequently naked in front of each other but only as part of changing or showering.
• Not a big deal. We understood each other’s needs. It only happened a few times.
• At night, when we went to bed, yes, regularly
• We were bi, and figuring things out so yes we did. I wouldn’t say we were a couple but we messed around semi-regularly.
• We brought it up the first day. We each had some skin mags, condoms, and lube. We showed each other what we had and welcomed the other to borrow the mags and if either of us were in a pinch to used a condom or lube. But it was also understood that we wouldn’t be dicks and mess up each other’s mags or too frequently use each other’s condoms or lubes.
• We lived together with most of the rest of the team and we kept a few spare rooms to allow for some privacy for sex without having to inconvenience you roommate.
• All the time and with teammates as well
• It wasn’t extremely detailed, but it would include things like what they were willing to do (BJ, swallow) and how they liked it to go (wanted to sub or dom rough gentile vanilla etc.)

Did you both have bi mags and come out to each other as bi immediately? As someone who was in college in the mid-90s, that would have been a rare situation.

 

[Hockeytiger]

Did you both have bi mags and come out to each other as bi immediately? As someone who was in college in the mid-90s, that would have been a rare situation.

Gosh no. Straight mags and the experimentation was a gradual buildup and a huge risk.

 

[Tony56]

Gosh no. Straight mags and the experimentation was a gradual buildup and a huge risk.

Was your roommate also a hockey player ? (I am assuming that you were/are based on your name). In my experience guys on hockey teams do a lot of homoerotic stuff together. As an example, one hockey team that I knew of decided to get even with a guy who disrespected one of their players by defacing his car - by having the whole team cum on his car.

 

[Thorberg72]

So I was thinking the other day, for those of us that went the college route or had roommates in other phases of adult life, what was your relationship around nudity and sexual issues with him (or her)?

If you wouldn't mind commenting on some or all of the below, I would greatly appreciate it!

Here are some specific questions I am wondering about things that (may) have happened:

• Was it a big deal if you guys were in your underwear in front of each other? Did this happen often?
• Was it a big deal if you guys were nude in front of each other in non-sexual situations (like going to/from the shower, changing clothes, etc). Did this happen often?
• Was it a big deal if one of you walked in on the other masturbating? Did this happen often?
• Did you guys ever masturbate while the other was in the room, but not participating with the other?
• Was there ever an instance of you guys "experimenting" sexually together? If so, was it isolated, repeated a few times, or did you guys become a couple?

Here are some specific questions I am wondering about things that (may) have been discussed:

• Did you ever discuss your masturbation habits or discuss your need to masturbate with your roommate?
• Did you ever "sexile" one other?
• Did you ever talk about what girls/guys you've had sex with?
• How detailed did those discussions get?

I'm not specifically looking for erotic stories (though I'm not opposed to them if you have a true one), more like what college/adult roommates are open with and discuss. I'm thinking about this mainly from an American perspective, because I'm American, but I welcome a non-American perspective too.

Note that there are two things I'm not looking for here: First, is anything underage - 18+ please. Secondly, I'm more interested in roommates who are NOT family members, so rooming whit your brother is not really the scope of this topic.

Thanks!

Here are some specific questions I am wondering about things that (may) have happened:

• Was it a big deal if you guys were in your underwear in front of each other? Did this happen often?

I have rarely lived in a place without air conditioning, especially when I lived alone or with my partners/boyfriends, and I always frequently lounge around only in underwear.

• Was it a big deal if you guys were nude in front of each other in non-sexual situations (like going to/from the shower, changing clothes, etc). Did this happen often?

Most Swedes who are generally comfortable with their body – no matter however it looks – go naked in the sauna, the locker room, etc., especially after a sweaty gym experience. The older guys less muscled often have the least anxiety, which is comforting. Some younger people cover up, but more are going back to the old way.

When we swim in public pools, however, it is also protocol to shower (or at least still respectful these days) to remove all bacteria and fecal matter from the body, before putting on a clean swimsuit, though more and more people are not doing it, which is not healthy. I haven't really paid too much attention or tried to be a self-imposed monitor to know how frequent those who don't respect the rules deviate from them.

• Was it a big deal if one of you walked in on the other masturbating? Did this happen often?

A big deal? No, but I assume it’s “necessary” to some if there’s no other option?

• Did you guys ever masturbate while the other was in the room, but not participating with the other?

No.

• Was there ever an instance of you guys "experimenting" sexually together? If so, was it isolated, repeated a few times, or did you guys become a couple?

I never had a roommate sharing my bedroom. I always had a very small space of my own. I had guys over to sleep with. No one cared.

PART II

Here are some specific questions I am wondering about things that (may) have been discussed.

The answer to the first two questions is no. For the other two, here come the answers.

• Did you ever talk about what girls/guys you've had sex with?

Occasionally, with close friends.

• How detailed did those discussions get

It depended on the experience. My friends (mostly gay men) and I were very open with each other, sometimes to laugh about the weird ones, or to talk about the ones that were great that we miss.

I also had a long discussion with a friend of mine when I found out my long-term former boyfriend – who soon after became my ex – was into bondage and scat. It took me a while to get over the idea of my ex enjoying “shit in the mouth” (he conceded later that he did), since this was someone I lived with for almost ten years, and I have told myself he only did this after we took a break (so he says, but I'll never know). Talking it out with a friend who could make me laugh helped, and he said I should assume my ex didn't lie to me when he told someone else I knew that he didn't do it when we were together. I am still not thrilled about the prospect of "shit in the mouth", but he and I chat from time to time and can laugh about other things, and part of me still loves him. Which is messed up.

 

[LilJock]

Dusty, one of my roommates in college, had a big dick and roamed naked shamelessly between the bathroom, kitchen, and bed. He was actually the uncle of a girl I'd once dated. (Her grandmother had had a "surprise" baby boy late in life.) Dusty was a good-looking chap, though with a slightly shorter left arm due to a birth defect or problem during delivery.

I was used to nudity in the showers and locker room, but still bashful in private situations. Once while I hung back in the sack, waiting my turn for the bathroom, he turned and asked why I didn't get out of bed. I confessed I was a little shy, having a small dick, nowhere near his size. He scoffed and instructed in the manner of a true uncle I should always be proud of my dick, regardless of its size. I mustered up my courage and thereafter did my best to nonchalantly roam about in the altogether.

He had a girlfriend a little bit older with a kid. In fact, she was tight with the girl I'd dated in school. He confessed he really didn't care for her that much; she was just sex, feel free to hit on her, he couldn't care less, etc. Anyways, she once showed up one Saturday night, unaware my roommate had skedaddled home for the weekend. To make a long story short (something I'm not known for, as you can undoubtedly tell), we ended up in the sack. I thought it had gone okay. Anyways, while we were lying in bed afterwards, the time when we'd traditionally smoke if we smoked, she announced this could only be a one-time thing, that she loved Dusty. (Okay, I knew the truth!) She then volunteered that he was great lay. (I coulda guessed that.) Maybe thinking I was disputing that or something, she doubled dome with the fact he was a much much better lover than I was. (I wasn't surprised but thought the extra "much" was a bit much). If that wasn't sufficient enough, she decided to confirm his amatory prowess by stating that he had a much bigger dick than me (Here I felt he definitely deserved the additional "much"). She then cleared up the matter with a few comments how mine was way too small, though maybe okay if she'd never run into Dusty's big dick. She then kindly advised me to only date virgins who'd had nothing to compare to..(I've chosen to ignore her advice. I simply hate virgins and just love girls who've had other men to compare to. It's my hobby.)

All in all, one of my greatest successes in the sack.

Apparently in fear I'd blab the whole thing to Dusty, she immediately confessed all. Later, when I did just that, he confessed she'd said I was "lacking in the meat department", something I'm sure didn't surprise him in the least. Did I detect a bit of a smirk?

Later in life I'd occasionally bump into Dusty on the street and we'd have lunch. I was conscious the whole time about the whole experience and wondered if he was, too? Was he having as much fun remembering this as I was? Maybe even more so!

 

[Brodie888]

With all my college roommates, I made a point of allowing them to see me nude right from the start. Not in a flaunting way. Just when it was natural and appropriate like changing after showering. In the morning, I'd always have a raging erection and I would give them the split second opportunity to see my wood before wrapping my towel around myself.

I think because I set the standard, they just did the same.

With a couple of my roommates, it did turn sexual over time. I have always found developing close friendships easy so taking advantage of opportunities when they arose was just a natural progression of that.