How open was your relationship with your college roommate regarding nudity and sexual issues?

[FrankTO]

I lived in Québec. I am referring below to my years at university. Between high school and university, there is a preparatory college called Cegep where you spend 2 years completing your general education and start specializing in what you intend to study in at university. So university freshmen are all adults, aged at least 19. My roommate and I had been friends for years, and we rented an apartment just for the two us on the open market, not on campus. He's straight; I'm gay but he didn't know at the time.

Was it a big deal if you guys were in your underwear in front of each other? Did this happen often?

No, every day.

• Was it a big deal if you guys were nude in front of each other in non-sexual situations (like going to/from the shower, changing clothes, etc). Did this happen often?

We were only naked together a couple times in the apartment; we compared each other's hard cocks, and I was fascinated because his was straight up and mine curves down. He was surprised by my 7.5 inches because I was quite thin at the time and didn't show a big package. And we also played racquetball at university, so we saw each other naked regularly in the communal showers. I became a master of self-control!

• Was it a big deal if one of you walked in on the other masturbating? Did this happen often?

I only saw him masturbate once; he was sitting naked at his desk in the living room looking at a porn magazine when I came out of the bedroom. I just went back in and closed the door, but he got spooked and quickly got dressed.

• Did you guys ever masturbate while the other was in the room, but not participating with the other?

No.

• Was there ever an instance of you guys "experimenting" sexually together? If so, was it isolated, repeated a few times, or did you guys become a couple?

See above. Also we would go to a bookstore and buy porn magazines. Sometimes I would sit and translate erotic stories into French for him, since he wasn't fluent in English at the time. Of course I would have hoped for much more, and I suspected he might be bi, but he was in a serious relationship and I respected that. His friendship meant more to me, but I still fantasize about it 40 years later.

• Did you ever discuss your masturbation habits or discuss your need to masturbate with your roommate?

I think all guys do at some point. It was obvious that we both did it.

• Did you ever "sexile" one other?

No. He had a girlfriend back in our home town, and he was faithful. He was and remains one of the good guys. And I didn't have any sex with anybody back then.

• Did you ever talk about what girls/guys you've had sex with?

His girlfriend was only the second girl he was out with. Once he talked about what they were doing together. They have been married for 35 years, no kids. I was a virgin at the time. I was actually in love with him, and it was at the beginning of the AIDS era, so I wasn't really interested in anything.

• How detailed did those discussions get?

Pretty graphic - once I was turned on enough that I had to go jack off LOL. It made him laugh.

 

[furryblonde]

Had a couple of different roommates in college in the mid 80's. 1st roommate introduced me to being comfortable with nudity, he was a sports player and from the UK, and from the introduction when I walked into the room he was nude, not obvious at 1st since he was at his desk reading, when he got up to introduce himself (we were blindly assigned as roomies) he was "swinging free" , he excused himself and grabbed a pair of shorts and slid them on - giving me the 1st shot of his nice muscular ass. He left them on while I moved my stuff in. As soon as I was done with moving in my stuff, I realized partially and understood his nudity, the room was in the upper 80's - A/C was not operating well. due to all the move in's. I stripped off my shirt and changed into a pair of International Male Onion Skin shorts (wish I still had them). He asked me at that point if I was ok with him being nude, I stammered a little and said it is your room too, so be as comfortable as you want, we are going to be in this space for the school year. He said good, but left the shorts on for the time being. I knew he was quite comfortable being less clothed in public when he went to claim the pizza he ordered in the lobby of the dorm tower (guys tower and girls tower) wearing the shorts he has slipped on earlier. Returned and offered the pizza to eat, stripping the shorts off. We talked about his comfort with the nudity and I said I was nervous about being nude and sporting a hard on. Don't worry about it he said, with that I said I want to see your cock, it's the 1st uncircumcised cock I had seen in person. He walked over and presented it to me to look and touch.

We became comfortable being nude around each other. The showers and bathrooms were across the hall, so whenever we needed to use them we usually just walked across the way. I found out we had a weightlifter who didn't want any hair distracting from his body sculpting and bronzer that was applied and every Saturday night his girlfriend was either applying hair remover or shaving his body, and he had no problem being nude in front of anyone who walked in - he was almost always hard ( not much to see, found out later he used steroids. at the time did know that it would shrink his balls, it was very obvious). She got used to seeing alot of us, and got in the habit of shaving us if we wanted. a few times a line formed for the shave sessions.

 

[BubbyGorf]

My freshman year I shared a one room dorm with attached bathroom with one roommate. Afterwards I lived in my own apartment. I went to an art school and was lucky enough to be partnered with another gay guy who was attractive and we shared a good bit in common so things went smoothly after the ice broke.

• Was it a big deal if you guys were in your underwear in front of each other? Did this happen often?
  • Not at all. Happened daily.
• Was it a big deal if you guys were nude in front of each other in non-sexual situations (like going to/from the shower, changing clothes, etc). Did this happen often?
  • This was awkward at first but eventually we became very comfortable around each other and didn’t care at all.
• Was it a big deal if one of you walked in on the other masturbating? Did this happen often?
  • It was very uncomfortable at first but there was no way around it seeing as we shared a single room no matter when it happened there was really nowhere to hide except the shower so at one point or another we decided to stop trying to hide it and it became as common as waking up.
• Did you guys ever masturbate while the other was in the room, but not participating with the other?
  • Not at first. There was way too much tension when one or the other got caught so we would stop but after we discussed things and made it clear that we didn’t mind, it became much more comfortable and we wouldn’t stop if caught anymore.
• Was there ever an instance of you guys "experimenting" sexually together? If so, was it isolated, repeated a few times, or did you guys become a couple?
  • Definitely. We had both had experiences in high school but were eager for more and after we became comfortable around each other we started developing more and more sexual tension and finally one day we gave in and went for each other. Let me know if you want to know more about what happened. We experimented a lot but it was just friends with benefits. We didn’t really want to be more than that.
• Did you ever discuss your masturbation habits or discuss your need to masturbate with your roommate?
  • Yes we got into the nitty gritty details discussing things and our personal preferences. At this point it was such a relief to have someone else to talk about these things with having both come from small towns and single moms.
• Did you ever "sexile" one other?
  • No, we were too busy fucking each other lol
• Did you ever talk about what girls/guys you've had sex with?
  • Yes we would have wine and takeout and casually interview each other about our past experiences and reminiscences.
• How detailed did those discussions get?
  • We shared pretty much all of the details and more.

 

[UninhibitedSamuel]

So I was thinking the other day, for those of us that went the college route or had roommates in other phases of adult life, what was your relationship around nudity and sexual issues with him (or her)?

If you wouldn't mind commenting on some or all of the below, I would greatly appreciate it!

Here are some specific questions I am wondering about things that (may) have happened:

• Was it a big deal if you guys were in your underwear in front of each other? Did this happen often?
• Was it a big deal if you guys were nude in front of each other in non-sexual situations (like going to/from the shower, changing clothes, etc). Did this happen often?
• Was it a big deal if one of you walked in on the other masturbating? Did this happen often?
• Did you guys ever masturbate while the other was in the room, but not participating with the other?
• Was there ever an instance of you guys "experimenting" sexually together? If so, was it isolated, repeated a few times, or did you guys become a couple?

Here are some specific questions I am wondering about things that (may) have been discussed:

• Did you ever discuss your masturbation habits or discuss your need to masturbate with your roommate?
• Did you ever "sexile" one other?
• Did you ever talk about what girls/guys you've had sex with?
• How detailed did those discussions get?

I'm not specifically looking for erotic stories (though I'm not opposed to them if you have a true one), more like what college/adult roommates are open with and discuss. I'm thinking about this mainly from an American perspective, because I'm American, but I welcome a non-American perspective too.

Note that there are two things I'm not looking for here: First, is anything underage - 18+ please. Secondly, I'm more interested in roommates who are NOT family members, so rooming whit your brother is not really the scope of this topic.

Thanks!

Several buddies. Anyone is free to be nude or not nude at any and all of our get togethers - hot tub, decks, dinner, beers, outdoors, swimming, indoors … . Someone or everyone is always is completely nude. Great dudes. Great friends. All straight. Yes, we talk about sex with our wives.

 

[J32]

We used to be pretty open but then I think he got shy when he saw me hard. We used to talk about all things sex. Positions, orgasms, etc. I hadn’t explored my bi side yet but I wasn’t shy at all with my sexuality or my body. Yet we had not seen each other naked and really didn’t know each others size. So anyhow we were playing strip poker one night with some girls and when my buddy lost (had to take off underwear) he said he wouldn’t and ruined the game. I told him just to do it. He told me I should instead. I said I would but I hadn’t lost yet. So the game ended and no one ended up getting naked. He started telling me I was scared because I had a small cock and I accused him of the same.

So a coupe of days late I had just finished jerking off in my room and decided I was going to walk down the stairs with a full boner while my buddy watched tv downstairs. So he could see I was not shy about my size. I got his attention as I came down the stairs and he got a good look. After that he rarely shared sex stories with me. Years later we’re still friends and still don’t really talk about sex.

 

[Dave NoCal]

Due tovarious circumstances, I had a number of roommates and they varied somewhat. However, I started college in 1969 and in those days most of us had had PE prior. Being in college was simply a continuation of those social norms. We were two to a room with a large bathroom/shower room in the middle of each floor of the dorms. In the morings, most guys walked to the showers naked. Then it was kind of a social time while we waited for a shower head to be available. None of my rookates masturbated openly in my presence but nudity and partial nuditity was absolutely routine.

 

[Steve_Flint]

My relationship with my college roommate was unspoken but great.

We had been “jerk off buddies” since high school. We continued this quiet but intense relationship into college. We occasionally sucked each other off. Once, I tried to get him to buttfuck me but either because his cock was too big or because we didn’t know how to do it, he never could get in me.

I brought a girl back to my apartment with the promise that we would engage in a 3-way. Since my roommate and I were both virgins, I figured that this would appeal to him. We all got naked and into my bed when suddenly my roommate got cold feet and went to his room. I had sex with this girl and after we had both climaxed I really didn’t want anything else to do with her. I talked her in to having sex with my roommate. We found his door was locked but a wire coat hanger pushed into the doorknob solved that problem. She went into his room and in about 10 minutes I could hear them moaning and groaning as they had sex.

I was so turned on by the sound that I jerked off listening to them at his door. In about 30 minutes, the girl slipped back into my bed for another round of sex. When we finished she went back to my roommate and did him again. After that last bout, he took her home.

Six months after we graduated, they got married.

 

[theplayerking]

My relationship with my college roommate was unspoken but great.

We had been “jerk off buddies” since high school. We continued this quiet but intense relationship into college. We occasionally sucked each other off. Once, I tried to get him to buttfuck me but either because his cock was too big or because we didn’t know how to do it, he never could get in me.

I brought a girl back to my apartment with the promise that we would engage in a 3-way. Since my roommate and I were both virgins, I figured that this would appeal to him. We all got naked and into my bed when suddenly my roommate got cold feet and went to his room. I had sex with this girl and after we had both climaxed I really didn’t want anything else to do with her. I talked her in to having sex with my roommate. We found his door was locked but a wire coat hanger pushed into the doorknob solved that problem. She went into his room and in about 10 minutes I could hear them moaning and groaning as they had sex.

I was so turned on by the sound that I jerked off listening to them at his door. In about 30 minutes, the girl slipped back into my bed for another round of sex. When we finished she went back to my roommate and did him again. After that last bout, he took her home.

Six months after we graduated, they got married.

Did you go to the wedding?