Never intrusive on anyone’s part.. if it’s just a wink as walk by then so be it.. but if does it several times he is trying to g to get your attention for that reason ..
How would you feel if a guy locked eyes and winked at you in public?
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I would find it intrusive. I'm not out and about for sexual desire. Not every situation has to be sexualised. That's just me and my own view. and said person can realise, if he had a brain or any social sense about him, that others may not welcome his advances. It's the same if a man winked at a woman. A simple wink is intrusive, and i don't want it.
There is a time and place to approach people, but generally no, i do not. Your point makes no sense. I do leave people alone and let them do their business. You're the one justifying being intrusive, and not accounting for it. There are also good and bad ways to show interest in others., and some are more or less intrusive than others. Your point is jumbled. I'm stating my view, as to what works for me. I don't like people of any gender or sex winking at me in public. if others do, good for them, that's what works for them. it doesn't work for me. i don't go out in public to be sexualised or hit on.
It's a bit comical, since it seems you're nose is out of joint because somebody might not respond to your advances. SHOULD they respond?
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So you do at times. What makes you think that your timing and method is not intrusive to them, or that they want to be approached or that they like your particular approach and they do not find it intrusive?
You’re waffling. I’m genuinely amused my view triggers you. It’s humanity. People respond to stuff differently. People won’t respond to your behaviour necessarily in ways you want. Foresight isn’t offensive; it’s human. Intrusiveness does depend on context but don’t tell me something I already know. I personally would find it weird for a random man to wink at me. That’s just me but I don’t and won’t dictate how others do stuff.
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Exactly. What waffling/triggering? People will respond as they do. Has nothing to do with anything else. Does not mean it is inappropriate to approach/take initiative. You are ridiculous.
With respect, is English your first language? Since your points neither follow nor correspond with mine, or even with things you yourself stated.
Yes, I find winking intrusive. Not all cases of gaining attention from others are as equally intrusive. I usually go about my business without bothering others and I wouldn't welcome somebody I didn't know winking at me. that's just my own personal preference and it's baffling and comical why that bothers you. Aren't people entitled to preferences? Isn't human behaviour somewhat relative, based on our personalities, experiences, cultural upbringings, etc? It's further amusing that you are so uptight about this. But then I stand by my point - that if you wink at people, it might not be taken up in the best way. And? People are different.
Since you're waffling over, frankly, nothing and you are so uptight over a different view merely since it undermines what YOU think SHOULD be normal, then I'll leave you to it. Maybe one day, you'll learn to be an adult/man and be able to handle a different perspective. But you'll mostly likely twist this into being that I'm saying nobody should ever wink at others. Do as you please. As I will do as I please, and say it's not for me and blindly accepting it as a compliment is cringe. Fucking baby.
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I wonder if yours is, as you show you cannot follow logic. No one is questioning preferences. Are you that stupid? You may smile or wave and many may find that intrusive. That does not mean it was excessively intrusive for you to do so. How dense can you be? No one is questioning preferences and nobody is uptight about anything. Read the original post and see if you can comprehend it.
I've never had anyone respond negatively or felt threatened by my doing it. If they've engaged, it's always been with a shy smile clearly appreciating my approval of their attractiveness.
Also I do it in motion, while I'm wending my way, never stopped to look someone in the eyes with the sole purpose of winking. I'd find that threatening and awkward
I'm not French, but I know winking is very common in France. Not to strangers, but to friends and work colleagues. There I found it a bit excessive, because winking for me is a way to tell someone I find them attractive. In France usually it's a way to be cool, agree and say we're on the same page.
Also I do it in motion, while I'm wending my way, never stopped to look someone in the eyes with the sole purpose of winking. I'd find that threatening and awkward
I'm not French, but I know winking is very common in France. Not to strangers, but to friends and work colleagues. There I found it a bit excessive, because winking for me is a way to tell someone I find them attractive. In France usually it's a way to be cool, agree and say we're on the same page.
it's funny why you're so keen to drive home a point. just move on.
This is a topic all can post on.. and you keep wanting to say you find it intrusive blah blah blah ..
We get it.. you probably the type of guy that thinks someone helps a man in need is only helping him because alterior motive is to get in his pants..
If others like the wink and smile then that’s their right to feel that way..
It’s not up to you telling someone — that one day they will grow up then call them a big baby..
Sounds like you’re the one that needs to grow the hell up
We get it.. you probably the type of guy that thinks someone helps a man in need is only helping him because alterior motive is to get in his pants..
If others like the wink and smile then that’s their right to feel that way..
It’s not up to you telling someone — that one day they will grow up then call them a big baby..
Sounds like you’re the one that needs to grow the hell up
This is one of my first moves if I'm looking.It's such a stereotype flirty move. I've done this to a couple guys I've liked on the street or the public transport but 99% of the time I chicken out and can't get to do it even though I want to.
In my case most guys don't react, probably stunned by my courage or questioning if they really saw me wink. The few times that they reacted has been a shy smile and continue walking.
One time it actually led to sex with the guy I winked to. We were on holiday. He was sitting at a bar with his boyfriend. I walked passed, winked at the one I liked, 10 min later went back to sit down with them. Exchanged numbers. Next day he was fucking meThat's my hottest story and outcome with this and frankly I love bragging about it because I'm not that type of person and this was really out of character for me.
Locking eyes and winking sounds so cinematic and subtle and that's probably what excites me about it. No apps or modern ways. Such a vanilla move, but takes balls.
What's your experience, has anyone done it to you, have you done it, how did/would it make you feel?
And, yes... it works.
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Winking in many cultures isn’t always isn’t sexual in form.I've never had anyone respond negatively or felt threatened by my doing it. If they've engaged, it's always been with a shy smile clearly appreciating my approval of their attractiveness.
Also I do it in motion, while I'm wending my way, never stopped to look someone in the eyes with the sole purpose of winking. I'd find that threatening and awkward
I'm not French, but I know winking is very common in France. Not to strangers, but to friends and work colleagues. There I found it a bit excessive, because winking for me is a way to tell someone I find them attractive. In France usually it's a way to be cool, agree and say we're on the same page.
No it’s not.. to some people it’s just saying g hi and keep walking..
But we live in a day where it doesn’t matter what people do.. if someone doesn’t like it for any stupid reason.. they will bitch and fight about it
But we live in a day where it doesn’t matter what people do.. if someone doesn’t like it for any stupid reason.. they will bitch and fight about it
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