Husbands! How often are you compelled to cheat?

[TDJ6]

How often as a married man do you have to fight HARD to resist cheating?
and are the women people you work with? girls you've met online? at a strip club?

 

[EGR1972]

i never have to fight to resist cheating.
At sex parties: When i am with other girls, my wife is there too.

 

[Motion-of-the-Ocean]

Much like the answer above, whenever I've been with other women it was within the context of the swinging lifestyle and thus it was always with my wife's knowledge, approval and presence, even if she wasn't always in the same room.

But even if she never would have allowed me such liberties, I would not betray our marriage and her trust by having sex behind her back. So thus, I've never had to resist, because there never was an overwhelming need that called for resisting. She has always satisfied me sexually and the older I've gotten the more I've learned there is more to life then sex and having a variety of women.

 

[gma26_4521]

Never is accurate.

 

[twoton]

I’ve never felt compelled to cheat. There have been coworkers to whom I have been attracted but it never even got close to a point where I had to check myself

 

[Cooper72]

My simple saying is I’m not blind but I’m not stupid either. I had multiple opportunities with a coworker during my previous marriage. Even though it was a mostly sexless marriage I never cheated. I came dangerously close one time. My wife now gives me more than I can handle as is. No way I would cheat on her.

 

[palakaorion]

I’m not blind but I’m not stupid either

Exactly this.

 

[merc41]

Exactly this.

 

[merc41]

I am very very over sexed and the wife is not. It's been a problem our entire married life. I've begged, pleaded asked ro go to counseling and nothing has worked. Finally had to tell her that I wasn't going my grave unfulfilled. Things must change or I'd find it elsewhere. No divorce. So when I get really horny I get it elsewhere. Sometimes pay for it,mostly not. Women, men and transexuals. Doesn'Drt matter. Very interesting to be around people with a healthy, open , sex drive. Very fulfilling. Safe sex only.

 

[Lucius2s1]

I am very very over sexed and the wife is not. It's been a problem our entire married life. I've begged, pleaded asked ro go to counseling and nothing has worked. Finally had to tell her that I wasn't going my grave unfulfilled. Things must change or I'd find it elsewhere. No divorce. So when I get really horny I get it elsewhere. Sometimes pay for it,mostly not. Women, men and transexuals. Doesn'Drt matter. Very interesting to be around people with a healthy, open , sex drive. Very fulfilling. Safe sex only.

What’s her reaction to this?

 

[deleted627832]

God made women, but the devil made spandex. I wouldn't cheat on my wife. I've had a few ladies give me their numbers. I just throw them away. I had many opportunities to cheat, but that is not in my DNA. I grow up in a family where my dad cheated on my mom. I didn't want to be like him. As a man, I got to know my dad better. I even understood why. At 62 and been married for 41 years. I understand why some guys leave and go off with younger women... I'm just not one of them.

 

[lapdog2001]

I have never cheated in a relationship, and never will. Yes, I look at other women, lust after them, even fantasize sometimes, but that's as far as it goes, because I could never break the trust and promises made in the relationship I am in.

In my life, very few women, less than a handful, have ever come onto to me or flirted with me (that I know of!). Am I hideous? No. Am I a gorgeous hunk that ladies swoon over? No. Am I clueless as to signals given off by women? Maybe, who knows. I do not actively pursue anyone when I am already in a relationship, or trying to build a relationship.

 

[rope9839]

When I was married it never really occurred to me to cheat. What surprised me was how often I realized one of my wife's friends was clearly coming on to me.

 

[VladtheImpaler]

Nope have no reason to

 

[MrMickleGary]

Not-a-once. My wife’s sex drive matches mine, she’s incredibly open-minded, and ohhhh man, do we have fun together

 

[NeedARelease]

Once, right before we got married I worked with cute redheaded girl and we were into a ton of the same stuff. I came really close but never pulled the trigger.

 

[deleted814719]

Many men likely become frustrated with a lack of sex with their spouses as both age or as the marriage lasts for a long time. Now in my late 60s and happily retired for more than a decade, I've got all the time in the world every day for sex. I'm very healthy, fit, and am careful with my personal hygiene. So, from my viewpoint, there's no reason why my wife won't fuck me every day.

Except that her libido seems to have fallen off the face of the Earth. Our PIV sex is down to once every couple of months. She'll give me a blowjob/handjob about once every three weeks but our sex mostly has evolved now into my jacking while lying next to her and her participating by playing with my balls. Not really all that satisfying. I, of course, like most men (I assume) take matters into my own hands often. Usually 2-3 times weekly.

Do I think about cheating? Sure I think about it but have never done so. I often become depressed thinking about the days going by, how I'll never get those days back, and about the sex that I'm missing.

I try to live with the idea that each of us is in charge of our own happiness and that we shouldn't try to rely on someone else to make us happy. So, for me it is a real dilemma. I love my wife as she is my best friend and we've had a great life together. I resent the fact that our sex life is almost a dead bedroom situation. I'll never get these days and years back.

 

[TryHarrd]

Our wive's dignity is the priority and nothing else can humiliate like having your partner cheat. However, some cultures have developed ways to help couples with different sex drives but it always comes down to secrecy and discretion. The French have older married men supporting younger women for favours, while the Japanese have gay men with wives who know deep down but don't ask. Any problem in a marriage has to start with a conversation, but any action outside the marriage has to be treated with the upmost care. And no I don't cheat, but the conversation about sex outside marriage is ongoing

 

[rbi99]

Like a few others above had said, I look at other women and wonder what sex with her would be like, whether it is looking at pictures, a movie or out and about. Looking and wondering is a far cry from acting on those thoughts. Neither my wife or I have ever cheated on each other. Our trust in each other is our bond. Maybe coming on this site and posting naked pictures of myself is a form of cheating, but I have never physically cheated on my wife.

 

[iamjustme65]

1000% zero.
I went through hell long enough in a bad marriage that I endured for 27 years.
I met my 2nd wife in 2016. She is awesome. I can't possibly say how much better my life is now.
There is no sex in the universe I would take a chance with and lose her.
No way.