I’m no longer fuckable…

[Lil bitch]

I’m married and my husband dislikes looking and touching me in private. In public he’ll smack my ass and whatever, but that’s basically it.

These past few years I’ve gained over 100 lbs., however since then I’ve lost over 50 lbs. and he still dislike me and my body. I want to continue losing weight, but at this point I’ve lost motivation. What should I do?

 

[PanicMotion1984]

Well that’s so great you’ve decided to focus on your health and it definitely is hard to stay motivated. Are you doing exercise/activities you love or just going to the gym?

Also your husband sounds problematic. If it gets to the point where you don’t even like looking at your partner, it might be time to move on.

 

[Lil bitch]

Well that’s so great you’ve decided to focus on your health and it definitely is hard to stay motivated. Are you doing exercise/activities you love or just going to the gym?

Also your husband sounds problematic. If it gets to the point where you don’t even like looking at your partner, it might be time to move on.

thank you for reading!

We both work long hours. I leave for work from 6 AM and get home at 8/9 PM so I don’t have to much time to work out. He leaves at 5 Am and get home before I do .

 

[PanicMotion1984]

Yeah that is tough, and you gotta go to bed almost as soon as you get home. I’d say just try and get 30 mins in, do some dancing, running in place, anything to get a sweat. Have you tried dieting as well? I’m in my 40s and I’ve learned that has helped me lose weight even more so than exercising. So maybe a combo of the two?

 

[BlackBearCognac]

It's natural for attraction to wax and wane in relationships, especially long ones.

You should definitely continue in your journey of improving your health, but the most important thing will be sitting down and having an honest conversation with your partner.

Have you considered that maybe the issue isn't you but them? Maybe they're experiencing impotence? Or perhaps they're ashamed of their own body? Or maybe their sex drive has faded away?

There are many, many factors that could be at play here. Once again, rather than jumping to conclusions you should speak to your partner.

thank you for reading!

We both work long hours. I leave for work from 6 AM and get home at 8/9 PM so I don’t have to much time to work out. He leaves at 5 Am and get home before I do .

Losing weight is 90% diet and 10% exercise. You need to focus on what you've been eating during the day.

It's likely because you're getting older and genetics probably not in your favor (slower metabolism).

With that said, it's also important to workout to build and maintain muscle which greatly helps with appearance (and aging). If you don't have time for the gym, try buying some dumbbells and resistance bands from Amazon that you can use at home for a quick 30 min workout.

 

[Jimi_Nahrcunys]

� Hey Lil Bitch:
I'm very sorry that you are struggling over your marriage. Marriage is a challenging part of many people's lives. Some couples can mend a damaged relationship, others cannot. You appear sincere in your desire to salvage the unfortunate situation that you find yourself in. The fact that you have reached out to the community for advice and guidance is powerful evidence of your willingness to take steps, even unconventional ones, to resurrect what I hope was once a happy, productive relationship.
Unfortunately, your request for advice wasn't accompanied by much information, so it's not possible for me to provide any meaningful recommendation but one, and I summarize it below:
You must identify all the relevant facts and issues regarding the relationship that you have had with hubby since you first met, including the friendship period, the courtship, and the wedded period. Some of the things that you should consider include does anything today make you happy as a couple; is there anything that once brought you joy as a couple but no longer does; why did you let yourself gain 100 pounds, how much weight did you gain before hubby found it objectionable and told you; have you and hubby discussed this situation seriously with the goal of finding an effective solution; are there other areas of conflict in the marriage; and a hundred or more similar questions.
A few statements in your message require clarification when if and when you ask others for advice. First, the heading on your message is "I'm no longer fuckable....", second, you write "my husband dislikes looking and touching me" and "I've lost over 50 pounds and he still dislike (sic) me and my body". Does this mean that you and hubby are no longer dancing the "horizontal mambo" (I'm sorry but I felt the need to lighten the mood). If that is true, when was intercourse curtailed? Just as important, are either you or hubby engaging in extramarital sex that will complicate things even more? Third (and this is the biggie), you write "I want to continue losing weight, but at this point I've lost motivation. What should I do?" I thought saving your marriage was your objective. Isn't that all the motivation you need? So, please, please, please make a serious to understand what your goals and objectives truly are.
Should you elect to undertake my recommendation, things won't be easy but if you apply yourself to it, you will have a much stronger foundation on which to base your decisions, and I guarantee you will also learn things about yourself that will surprise you!

 

[thickcockjames]

I’m sorry to hear that. My wife and I have both put on some weight since becoming parents and we are both self conscious about it. She asks me if I’m still attracted to her and I let her know that I absolutely am, but I don’t feel overly sexy about myself though.

Is your husband possibly going through something like this? Has he put on some weight as well?

Either way, as someone who was always in great shape and worked out regularly, I’ve found that pleasing other people is the worse motivation when it comes to working out and being healthy. You have to do that for yourself, convince yourself that you are worth the effort and find joy in whatever process you’re doing.

50 pounds is no joke. That’s a very difficult amount of weight to lose, congrats by the way. Just keep doing what you’re doing and find joy in the process, and make yourself happy by feeling healthier.