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I'm 20 and gay.
For the longest time, I couldn't hook up with anyone because of where I lived, but now I have the freedom to do anything but I'm scared
I'm a virgin and I don't like it, the only experience I've had was sucking my friend off and nothing else.

I wanna experience sex, but I'm either too insecure or scared.

any advice?
 
A lot depends on what you’re scared of!

Generally speaking though, the anticipation is often the hardest part. Since you’ve never experienced it before, you build it up in your head, and you may also feel some fear of the unknown. But once you do experience it, it doesn’t take long before it’s just a normal part of life.

If you want to chat privately, my DMs are open!
 
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The fear you describe is unspecific. You need to make an honest list of your fears and work through them one by one. Do you have a fear of disease, pain, societal shame, rejection by potential partners? Something else?
 
you not been fucked--so youre still virgin--

what kind of area live in? gay bars? gay places? we all are nervous at one point in our lives--some will say they havent but thats just them acting all commando about it all--around here there is two gay bars--one kind of rowdy and definitely alot of shit happens in back of the place and in the alley behind it--- but the other place is nice and not as slutty as the other place--- your age and shyness actually is a plus for you in the bars---you will attrack alot of guys--just try talking and tell them just looking to hang outand talk--

i was never shy or nervous about my sexuality--but i was nervous about going to bars---as me and alcohol didnt mis well together----keep a small can of pepper spray in pocket if things get to aggressive for you--you have a right to protect yourself---try your best to get over this issue--because as you get older it will become worse
 
I'm 20 and gay.
For the longest time, I couldn't hook up with anyone because of where I lived, but now I have the freedom to do anything but I'm scared
I'm a virgin and I don't like it, the only experience I've had was sucking my friend off and nothing else.

I wanna experience sex, but I'm either too insecure or scared.

any advice?
I’m in the same boat excluding blowing anyone and I’m bi. I’m in my mid 20’s thou. I’m just scared tbh. If I’m with a woman I’m scared I’ll get her pregnant or I just wouldn’t be good. If I’m with a man ( I think I would be verse) I’m scared about either of us not being cleaned well, and also not being good enough how it would hurt if I bottom. I have a big booty so ik most guys would want ass. I also need to practice cleaning. And I’m not out so that’s always something to worry about and ik my family doesn’t approve. Finally I’m scared of meeting with someone who may hurt me or something (man or woman).
 
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I'm 20 and gay.
For the longest time, I couldn't hook up with anyone because of where I lived, but now I have the freedom to do anything but I'm scared
I'm a virgin and I don't like it, the only experience I've had was sucking my friend off and nothing else.

I wanna experience sex, but I'm either too insecure or scared.

any advice?
I know how you feel. I was 21 when I let my room mate fuck me. I had to find what I liked and preferred. If you want to talk about it just message me. I’ve been there. It sucks, when it happens you’ll wonder why it was such a big deal.
 
i knew a guy 26 years old--still virgin--only thing he ever done was jerk off--he began working where i worked at and few weeks later he knows i am gay--he talks to me about sex and stuff-the catch was he was interested in women--so why ask the gay guy--i never understood it--but somehow i helped him out--

he shows up at my house one day--i was off work friday to sunday--so was he--i let him in and we sat and talked about work--wondering how he was doing since i was usually in charge of the machine he was running--somehow he talked himself into staying the night--i had extra bedroom so told him he can sleep there or on the couch if he wants to watch tv--i went to bed and about hour later he comes in my room wakes me up-says he cant sleep--so i said where wanna crash at-- he says next to you --if thats ok--

i said thats fine by me and i promise i wont touch him while he sleeping--thats when he began talking about being nervous meeting a girl and having sex with her--so i rolled over onto my side facing him and i was like--you talking to a gay man about sex with a woman--then i told him i was bi so he was ok asking me about it--

its funny that he remained a virgin because he didnt think he was adequately equipped-- i was like ok--think thought for a few and said only way i would be able to tell you if you are or not is i would have to see it--then i told him it doesnt matter about size it just matters to you and the person you are sleeping with--then he mentioned the major curse of all reasons why he didnt thnk he was big enough and that was because of porn--he says those guys are so big and he isnt--i was like look at it this way--do all women have huge tits like they do in the porn industry---he says no--

i could see a bulge in his shorts he was wearing--i told him pull it out let me see it or close your eyes and i will pull it out--he closed his eyes and lets me pull his shorts down and expose his dick---i was like wow--he says is it that bad--i said no-- then asked him if ever seen his dick on camera- he says no-- --i grabbed my laptop turned on camera and let him see his dick and i told him he was probably about as big as i was-he asked if i was hard--i smiled and said i have a man in my bed with his cock out--what do you think--

i pulled mine out and he was like wow---- i said slide your shorts down and i did mine---he just took his off tossed them on the floor--so i did same--and i put my dick next to his and he was about 1/4 of an in shorter than me but he was a little thicker and had a major set of balls to go along with it-- he went to stroking my dick i stroked his and asked him when was last time he got off--he said been a few days--

wont say what happened from there on unless guys want to read it--

but basicly he didnt think he was big enough and he definitely was---

what about you? is your cock fine with you or does it scare you the same way his did him?
 
i knew a guy 26 years old--still virgin--only thing he ever done was jerk off--he began working where i worked at and few weeks later he knows i am gay--he talks to me about sex and stuff-the catch was he was interested in women--so why ask the gay guy--i never understood it--but somehow i helped him out--

he shows up at my house one day--i was off work friday to sunday--so was he--i let him in and we sat and talked about work--wondering how he was doing since i was usually in charge of the machine he was running--somehow he talked himself into staying the night--i had extra bedroom so told him he can sleep there or on the couch if he wants to watch tv--i went to bed and about hour later he comes in my room wakes me up-says he cant sleep--so i said where wanna crash at-- he says next to you --if thats ok--

i said thats fine by me and i promise i wont touch him while he sleeping--thats when he began talking about being nervous meeting a girl and having sex with her--so i rolled over onto my side facing him and i was like--you talking to a gay man about sex with a woman--then i told him i was bi so he was ok asking me about it--

its funny that he remained a virgin because he didnt think he was adequately equipped-- i was like ok--think thought for a few and said only way i would be able to tell you if you are or not is i would have to see it--then i told him it doesnt matter about size it just matters to you and the person you are sleeping with--then he mentioned the major curse of all reasons why he didnt thnk he was big enough and that was because of porn--he says those guys are so big and he isnt--i was like look at it this way--do all women have huge tits like they do in the porn industry---he says no--

i could see a bulge in his shorts he was wearing--i told him pull it out let me see it or close your eyes and i will pull it out--he closed his eyes and lets me pull his shorts down and expose his dick---i was like wow--he says is it that bad--i said no-- then asked him if ever seen his dick on camera- he says no-- --i grabbed my laptop turned on camera and let him see his dick and i told him he was probably about as big as i was-he asked if i was hard--i smiled and said i have a man in my bed with his cock out--what do you think--

i pulled mine out and he was like wow---- i said slide your shorts down and i did mine---he just took his off tossed them on the floor--so i did same--and i put my dick next to his and he was about 1/4 of an in shorter than me but he was a little thicker and had a major set of balls to go along with it-- he went to stroking my dick i stroked his and asked him when was last time he got off--he said been a few days--

wont say what happened from there on unless guys want to read it--

but basicly he didnt think he was big enough and he definitely was---

what about you? is your cock fine with you or does it scare you the same way his did him?
Definitely want to hear
 
i knew a guy 26 years old--still virgin--only thing he ever done was jerk off--he began working where i worked at and few weeks later he knows i am gay--he talks to me about sex and stuff-the catch was he was interested in women--so why ask the gay guy--i never understood it--but somehow i helped him out--

he shows up at my house one day--i was off work friday to sunday--so was he--i let him in and we sat and talked about work--wondering how he was doing since i was usually in charge of the machine he was running--somehow he talked himself into staying the night--i had extra bedroom so told him he can sleep there or on the couch if he wants to watch tv--i went to bed and about hour later he comes in my room wakes me up-says he cant sleep--so i said where wanna crash at-- he says next to you --if thats ok--

i said thats fine by me and i promise i wont touch him while he sleeping--thats when he began talking about being nervous meeting a girl and having sex with her--so i rolled over onto my side facing him and i was like--you talking to a gay man about sex with a woman--then i told him i was bi so he was ok asking me about it--

its funny that he remained a virgin because he didnt think he was adequately equipped-- i was like ok--think thought for a few and said only way i would be able to tell you if you are or not is i would have to see it--then i told him it doesnt matter about size it just matters to you and the person you are sleeping with--then he mentioned the major curse of all reasons why he didnt thnk he was big enough and that was because of porn--he says those guys are so big and he isnt--i was like look at it this way--do all women have huge tits like they do in the porn industry---he says no--

i could see a bulge in his shorts he was wearing--i told him pull it out let me see it or close your eyes and i will pull it out--he closed his eyes and lets me pull his shorts down and expose his dick---i was like wow--he says is it that bad--i said no-- then asked him if ever seen his dick on camera- he says no-- --i grabbed my laptop turned on camera and let him see his dick and i told him he was probably about as big as i was-he asked if i was hard--i smiled and said i have a man in my bed with his cock out--what do you think--

i pulled mine out and he was like wow---- i said slide your shorts down and i did mine---he just took his off tossed them on the floor--so i did same--and i put my dick next to his and he was about 1/4 of an in shorter than me but he was a little thicker and had a major set of balls to go along with it-- he went to stroking my dick i stroked his and asked him when was last time he got off--he said been a few days--

wont say what happened from there on unless guys want to read it--

but basicly he didnt think he was big enough and he definitely was---

what about you? is your cock fine with you or does it scare you the same way his did him?
I'd say mine is average nothing special
 
I tell you something wild.. I have a friend he is 4 months older than me52 here .. and he has never had sec with anyone.. he has used toys/dildos his entire life. . Tells me. Couple years ago the best thing they ever made was this thing put over your penis and it moves around and up and down feels like someone’s sucking his dick ..

I couldn’t imagine being that age and not knowing what another man’s penis feels like tastes like or feels like
 
Definitely want to hear
He said been few days since he had gotten off .. I asked if he wanted to watch a porn and jerk off now… he looked at me kind of strange and that’s when I told him I won’t watch him jerk off or see him cum…. He said ok.. I went to put in a straight porn and he says put a gay one in .. says he never seen one.. ( has the internet and not watched gay porn… he says he has a computer at home but his family friends get on there all time…. I understood completely where he was coming from there.. )

So we watched the porn.. first guys making out getting naked then sucking each others cocks and then one got on his knees on the couch ass stuck out.. and the other guy begins rimming the other ..


I glanced over quickly saw he was rock hard.. so he was definitely enjoying the movie.. his reaction to the guy rimming the other guy was kind of not liking it but when he saw the guys tongue going into the other guys hole he says damn that must feel pretty good .. I told him it does feel good and it’s also fun doing it..

His eyes opened wide and was like you do that .. I was like hell yeah.. it then I explained the male anatomy when it comes to the anus and prostate.. … so I told him wet finger down and finger his ass before he begins to jerk off .. wet it few times get it slick and you will feel a pleasure spot once finds it .. begin jerking off . At times it will help you orgasm and sometimes you will cum a lot more.. ..he was like uuhhhh ok…

Then the fucking scene began and when he saw that guys dick going inside the guys ass.. the bottom moans and acts like it hurts.. he said girls do that in porn also.. but sometimes it does burn a little or hurt a little when first going in.. but once get inside and get used to it .. it totally feels great..

He asked me what about his dick.. I was like I bet he’d feel good inside He stroked his dick slowly couple times and I saw the precum oozing out and dripping on his body below… I wanted to lean over and suck it up

got therapy finish when get done
 
isn't virginity tied to either the ass or the vag?

It's a really subjective concept and not one to get hung up on. But my two pence are that it wouldn't make any sense whatsoever to tie virginity to a form of sex that a large minority of gay/bi men never or rarely engage in.
 
He said been few days since he had gotten off .. I asked if he wanted to watch a porn and jerk off now… he looked at me kind of strange and that’s when I told him I won’t watch him jerk off or see him cum…. He said ok.. I went to put in a straight porn and he says put a gay one in .. says he never seen one.. ( has the internet and not watched gay porn… he says he has a computer at home but his family friends get on there all time…. I understood completely where he was coming from there.. )

So we watched the porn.. first guys making out getting naked then sucking each others cocks and then one got on his knees on the couch ass stuck out.. and the other guy begins rimming the other ..


I glanced over quickly saw he was rock hard.. so he was definitely enjoying the movie.. his reaction to the guy rimming the other guy was kind of not liking it but when he saw the guys tongue going into the other guys hole he says damn that must feel pretty good .. I told him it does feel good and it’s also fun doing it..

His eyes opened wide and was like you do that .. I was like hell yeah.. it then I explained the male anatomy when it comes to the anus and prostate.. … so I told him wet finger down and finger his ass before he begins to jerk off .. wet it few times get it slick and you will feel a pleasure spot once finds it .. begin jerking off . At times it will help you orgasm and sometimes you will cum a lot more.. ..he was like uuhhhh ok…

Then the fucking scene began and when he saw that guys dick going inside the guys ass.. the bottom moans and acts like it hurts.. he said girls do that in porn also.. but sometimes it does burn a little or hurt a little when first going in.. but once get inside and get used to it .. it totally feels great..

He asked me what about his dick.. I was like I bet he’d feel good inside He stroked his dick slowly couple times and I saw the precum oozing out and dripping on his body below… I wanted to lean over and suck it up

got therapy finish when get done
Therapy sucked today.. they took a needle stuck it into my knee where I had knee replacement surgery .. and sucked out a thing full of stuff from where it’s infected .. they did this two weeks ago and gave antibiotics and now did it again today .. now they are saying have to go through surgery again. And 60 percent chance I’ll lose my leg from knee down.. if not the infection can got through my body and kill me .. so please Hope I don’t lose my leg…

Anyhow he asked about his dick.. and I said I bet it would feel good inside..

He would point the dick straight up as stroke it .. he knew this way I would see it.. I began thinking .. he asked me about how his dick would feel and we’ve touched each others dicks and all.. so I figured 1 of two things will happen.. he just sit there tease me with his dick as he hadn’t began jerking off yet or 2 I lean over put head of his dick in my mouth and begin sucking it.. hoping he doesn’t get mad and punch me..

I went with my gut feeling.. he was hard before the porn and been hard during the gay porn.. so if he wasn’t interested in the gay open he’d be limp wanting me to put in a straight one..

So here I go.. moving over toward his dick as he still had it pointing straight up at the ceiling and I took it in my mouth and went down on it as far as I could go with first try and began sucking it… he holds his dick with his hand and puts his other hand on my back tells me it’s about time. .. I didn’t stop to say anything I just kept on sucking his dick feeling alot of precum going into my mouth as I did..

He moaned so loud that if I had neighbors nearby they would have heard him.. I replaced his hand on his dick with mine where I can move it any way I needed it to go.. and deepthroated it several times in a row .. he was grabbing the sheets n covers on the bed moaning and he says he was about to cum.. i deepthroated it few times more and held it there as I can feel his cock throbbing a little then shooting down my throat . He put his hand on my head held it there … guess he was afraid I wasn’t going to let him finish draining his coxk down my throat.

He removed his hand and I took my mouth off his dick which was still hard.he tells me he usually needs to cum two to three times before it will go down.. so I just flat out asked him if he wanted to fuck me until his dick went limp.. he asked if I was sure .. I grabbed lube out of night stand drawer and told him 100 percent sure ..

I asked him what position he wanting to do it.. he said at first with me on my stomach and him on top.. so I rolled over onto my stomach as if to say go for it.. he gets up spreads my legs apart a. Little spreads my cheeks and sees my hole.. what I figured be next would be him wetting my hole with some lube and then lubing his dick to duck me.. but I felt something and it wasn’t his dick or his finger.. as he kept my cheeks apart I began feeling his tongue go over my hole and it sent chills all over my body ..

He asked if it was ok .. I asked if he was ok with it.. he says it didn’t taste like he thought it would .. so he lays on his stomach between my legs and went to licking my ass more .. I told him to pretend it’s a vagina he’s licking and fingering.. and treat it like he owns it..

He used his tongue then wet finger and finger fucked my hole .. I moved my ass up a little told him keep it up.. I figured he’d do it for couple minutes then go for his dick but I bet he was there a good 20 minutes and he had my hole good n wet from the spit he used on his fingers .
He tells me that was a lot more fun than he thought it would be.. I told him if found him a girl into it she may like you doing her ass or she may even do his .. he lubed his dick and moved over me .. puts one hand on one side of my as he used his other hand to guide his cock inside me .. as he went in it felt so good and I was like fuck yeah that feels good ..
He began slowly like I was a piece of glass and he was going to break me.. I told him take long strokes few times work it in.. and short strokes a little faster some then with the long strokes go out so far and go back in few times .. then about half your cock with quick hard thrusts shoving all way in.. if you feel ok shoving it in hard to where your balls smack against me then go for it..

I told him do it what way feels good .. as my ass is yours to fuck any way want and if get to rough I’ll let you know . He put his hands on each side of me and began to fuck me with long strokes and then short ones and then middle of his cock in and out..

I put my arms under my head to rest it there .. and told him to remember what feels good to him is how he should fuck.. he went to doing long strokes almost all way out and slammed back in several times .. and he asked if that was ok.. I was like that’s better than ok.. and this was how he fucked me until he came .. he stops relaxed a few minutes and dick remained hard.. before I asked him what wanted to do he went back to fucking again.. he lays on top of me.. puts his hands on my shoulders and as he went in he’d pull on my shoulders forcing his dick to go all the way inside me .’.. he kept a firm grip of my shoulders as he did it over and over and he cums again.. few minutes later I can feel him getting soft inside me .. he tells me he’s done for now.. ..

Pulls out and lays in bed beside me on his back I rolled over on my side and showed him he had made me cum hands free while he was fucking me.. I got up tossed the cover on the floor to the side ..

He looks at me and tells me to promise to never tell anyone.. I moved in to his face and kissed him on the lips.. and told him his secret safe with me..

For few months he’d come over and we’d do it time and time again .. I did get to fuck him once but didn’t like it.. I told him there bottoms and tops… I am what they call versatile .. I loved to be fucked and I can fuck as well.. but if topping is all you want then top it is..


I told him until he is ready to meet girls he can warm things up and learn by fucking me and get your method down pat .. and that’s what he did ..

I never told anyone about it .. and I even introduced him to a girl I knew pretty well if know what I mean.. they dared for months and he’d tell me he was fucking her and said he was a awesome fuck ..

He said thanks for the help I said no problem and thanks for the fun .. I totally enjoyed it.. now years later he is married to the girl I introduced him to and had three kids.. so apparently I taught him well..
 
Therapy sucked today.. they took a needle stuck it into my knee where I had knee replacement surgery .. and sucked out a thing full of stuff from where it’s infected .. they did this two weeks ago and gave antibiotics and now did it again today .. now they are saying have to go through surgery again. And 60 percent chance I’ll lose my leg from knee down.. if not the infection can got through my body and kill me .. so please Hope I don’t lose my leg…

Anyhow he asked about his dick.. and I said I bet it would feel good inside..

He would point the dick straight up as stroke it .. he knew this way I would see it.. I began thinking .. he asked me about how his dick would feel and we’ve touched each others dicks and all.. so I figured 1 of two things will happen.. he just sit there tease me with his dick as he hadn’t began jerking off yet or 2 I lean over put head of his dick in my mouth and begin sucking it.. hoping he doesn’t get mad and punch me..

I went with my gut feeling.. he was hard before the porn and been hard during the gay porn.. so if he wasn’t interested in the gay open he’d be limp wanting me to put in a straight one..

So here I go.. moving over toward his dick as he still had it pointing straight up at the ceiling and I took it in my mouth and went down on it as far as I could go with first try and began sucking it… he holds his dick with his hand and puts his other hand on my back tells me it’s about time. .. I didn’t stop to say anything I just kept on sucking his dick feeling alot of precum going into my mouth as I did..

He moaned so loud that if I had neighbors nearby they would have heard him.. I replaced his hand on his dick with mine where I can move it any way I needed it to go.. and deepthroated it several times in a row .. he was grabbing the sheets n covers on the bed moaning and he says he was about to cum.. i deepthroated it few times more and held it there as I can feel his cock throbbing a little then shooting down my throat . He put his hand on my head held it there … guess he was afraid I wasn’t going to let him finish draining his coxk down my throat.

He removed his hand and I took my mouth off his dick which was still hard.he tells me he usually needs to cum two to three times before it will go down.. so I just flat out asked him if he wanted to fuck me until his dick went limp.. he asked if I was sure .. I grabbed lube out of night stand drawer and told him 100 percent sure ..

I asked him what position he wanting to do it.. he said at first with me on my stomach and him on top.. so I rolled over onto my stomach as if to say go for it.. he gets up spreads my legs apart a. Little spreads my cheeks and sees my hole.. what I figured be next would be him wetting my hole with some lube and then lubing his dick to duck me.. but I felt something and it wasn’t his dick or his finger.. as he kept my cheeks apart I began feeling his tongue go over my hole and it sent chills all over my body ..

He asked if it was ok .. I asked if he was ok with it.. he says it didn’t taste like he thought it would .. so he lays on his stomach between my legs and went to licking my ass more .. I told him to pretend it’s a vagina he’s licking and fingering.. and treat it like he owns it..

He used his tongue then wet finger and finger fucked my hole .. I moved my ass up a little told him keep it up.. I figured he’d do it for couple minutes then go for his dick but I bet he was there a good 20 minutes and he had my hole good n wet from the spit he used on his fingers .
He tells me that was a lot more fun than he thought it would be.. I told him if found him a girl into it she may like you doing her ass or she may even do his .. he lubed his dick and moved over me .. puts one hand on one side of my as he used his other hand to guide his cock inside me .. as he went in it felt so good and I was like fuck yeah that feels good ..
He began slowly like I was a piece of glass and he was going to break me.. I told him take long strokes few times work it in.. and short strokes a little faster some then with the long strokes go out so far and go back in few times .. then about half your cock with quick hard thrusts shoving all way in.. if you feel ok shoving it in hard to where your balls smack against me then go for it..

I told him do it what way feels good .. as my ass is yours to fuck any way want and if get to rough I’ll let you know . He put his hands on each side of me and began to fuck me with long strokes and then short ones and then middle of his cock in and out..

I put my arms under my head to rest it there .. and told him to remember what feels good to him is how he should fuck.. he went to doing long strokes almost all way out and slammed back in several times .. and he asked if that was ok.. I was like that’s better than ok.. and this was how he fucked me until he came .. he stops relaxed a few minutes and dick remained hard.. before I asked him what wanted to do he went back to fucking again.. he lays on top of me.. puts his hands on my shoulders and as he went in he’d pull on my shoulders forcing his dick to go all the way inside me .’.. he kept a firm grip of my shoulders as he did it over and over and he cums again.. few minutes later I can feel him getting soft inside me .. he tells me he’s done for now.. ..

Pulls out and lays in bed beside me on his back I rolled over on my side and showed him he had made me cum hands free while he was fucking me.. I got up tossed the cover on the floor to the side ..

He looks at me and tells me to promise to never tell anyone.. I moved in to his face and kissed him on the lips.. and told him his secret safe with me..

For few months he’d come over and we’d do it time and time again .. I did get to fuck him once but didn’t like it.. I told him there bottoms and tops… I am what they call versatile .. I loved to be fucked and I can fuck as well.. but if topping is all you want then top it is..


I told him until he is ready to meet girls he can warm things up and learn by fucking me and get your method down pat .. and that’s what he did ..

I never told anyone about it .. and I even introduced him to a girl I knew pretty well if know what I mean.. they dared for months and he’d tell me he was fucking her and said he was a awesome fuck ..

He said thanks for the help I said no problem and thanks for the fun .. I totally enjoyed it.. now years later he is married to the girl I introduced him to and had three kids.. so apparently I taught him well..
I hope everything goes well with you knee surgery. I would look into suing if possible. The story was everything. Sexy af.
 
I already told them if it’s due to their neglect they’re paying the entire bill .. and that’s just one knee.. still have the other one to go. Where I worked on concrete for 21 years .. arthritis set in and. Did away with the cartilage in the knees so both legs at the knee is bone on bone
 
I already told them if it’s due to their neglect they’re paying the entire bill .. and that’s just one knee.. still have the other one to go. Where I worked on concrete for 21 years .. arthritis set in and. Did away with the cartilage in the knees so both legs at the knee is bone on bone
Well I hope you heal well so you can get back to telling us stories like this and creating new ones when you get to that point.