I Think My Coworker Has A Crush On Me

[Unbothered Spongebob]

Hello everyone! I wanted to come on here and write about something that has been on my mind for a while. I've been working at my current job for almost nine months and there's this guy that I have a crush on. The problem is, I don't like that I have a crush on him (more on that in a minute). He and I work across from one another, facing each other. He is really handsome! He is a bit taller than me (I'm 5'10). He is of slender build. He has a beautiful, full beard. A nice bubble butt. Plus, I've heard from two different people that he has a pretty nice d*ck. He is extremely nerdy and is really smart; however, there are some problems.

For starters, he is DL... like really DL (I'll explain how I know in a bit).

Secondly, he is the B-I-G-G-E-S-T brown noser I've ever met in my life! The relationship dynamic between he and our manager is quite... strange (to put it simply).

Thirdly, he only interacts/talks to me when no one is around (specifically and especially) when our manager isn't around. When she's not around, he (mostly) likes talking to me about video games and gay "stuff". At first, I didn't think much of it, but now that I've noticed it, it happens more frequently than I initially thought.

It got me to thinking... he's possibly using me as leverage to feel comfortable with his sexuality (especially since he doesn't do that with the other openly queer men in the workplace).

I realize that this is going to be very long so pick this back up later on...

 

[Unbothered Spongebob]

We both share a mutual; however,y coworker has known our mutual much longer than I have. I met my friend at a previous job, and we clocked instantly. One day, my friend and I were having a chat about different jobs we used to work at and somehow the topic of bisexuality came up (I was the one to bring it up). My friend immediately became defensive and disgusted. I asked him why he behaved that way? He began to tell me that he had a really bad experience with a bisexuality guy once.

Without going into too much detail, he basically told me that the guy in question, played the ENTIRE F*CK out of him!

Fast forward, after quitting that job and starting the one I'm currently working, I found out that the bisexual guy my friend was telling me about was the coworker I'm writing about now.

When I first met my coworker, I thought he was really attractive (and still do). I have a huge weakness for "hot geeks"; however, at times I feel like he uses me as leverage to either talk about queer topics or to feel more comfortable being himself (which I've been told that I do before).

...I'm going to pick this back up later on. Thank you for reading!

 

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We both share a mutual; however,y coworker has known our mutual much longer than I have. I met my friend at a previous job, and we clocked instantly. One day, my friend and I were having a chat about different jobs we used to work at and somehow the topic of bisexuality came up (I was the one to bring it up). My friend immediately became defensive and disgusted. I asked him why he behaved that way? He began to tell me that he had a really bad experience with a bisexuality guy once.

Without going into too much detail, he basically told me that the guy in question, played the ENTIRE F*CK out of him!

Fast forward, after quitting that job and starting the one I'm currently working, I found out that the bisexual guy my friend was telling me about was the coworker I'm writing about now.

When I first met my coworker, I thought he was really attractive (and still do). I have a huge weakness for "hot geeks"; however, at times I feel like he uses me as leverage to either talk about queer topics or to feel more comfortable being himself (which I've been told that I do before).

...I'm going to pick this back up later on. Thank you for reading!

Sounds like a toxic situation to avoid. So far…

 

[Unbothered Spongebob]

Sorry for the late entry everyone...

Elaborating on something I stated before. He and our manager have a very strange relationship (I'm going to keep the sex/gender of my manager confidential). He is WAY TOO CLINGY to them, and they TAKE ADVANTAGE of him! Every few minutes he is in their face. Kissing their ass, singing their praise, worshipping the floor they walk on; its BEYOND ridiculous.

A lot of the times he won't even acknowledge me. He'll talk to everyone else around me except for me. Even in those times he's not talking to me I'd peripherally see him staring at me. He seems to notice EVERYTHING I do and say. He eavesdrop on my conversations with other people (if he sees me talking to someone, he'll then go and talk to them). He listens intensely to whatever I say. This is how I've figured out that he would use me as leverage to feel comfortable talking about "gay stuff". Anytime that topic comes up, he finds a way to butt into the conversation. Other times he brings it up (and I noticing it's happening more frequently).

As of lately, I've refrained from talking to him (to give him a taste of his own medicine).

I'm not saying returning the silent treatment WITH the silent treatment is thr correct approach to this matter, but...

He still tries to talk to me (I can tell he knows SOMETHING is up), but it's just strange holding a dialogue with him having the feelings for him that I do; highly suspecting he may feel the same way; plus, with how this whole situation has been going...

I don't know.

I'll add to this thread later...

 

[Unbothered Spongebob]

Sounds like a toxic situation to avoid. So far…

It is toxic indeed.

 

[Unbothered Spongebob]

About a week ago, I got a random message from someone on Jack'd. To keep it short, the guy asked me if I and my coworker (the one this thread is about) are still dating?

Completely taken aback by the question, I tell them:

Me: "No. Me and [my coworker's name] have never dated."

Me: "What made you think that?"

The Guy: "Oh, that's too bad. I was happy for you if y'all were."

The Guy: "I thought someone had told me that. I was trying to see if it were true because I wanted to have a threesome."

Continuing this later...

 

[Unbothered Spongebob]

I think the person is your coworker.. trying to know that you have any kind of interest in him..what you think about him ....

I wish it was that simple, but it wasn't him. The guy sent me a disappearing pic of himself. He told me that he worked in another department in our facility. I asked him three times who it was that told him that me and coworker were dating, but he never would tell me.

 

[Unbothered Spongebob]

What's bothering me about this situation now is WHO told this guy that I and my coworker were dating? The guy claims that he has a crush on him (which isn't anything new because EVERYBODY has a crush on him... men and women). I don't want to get dragged into a messy situation about a guy that's not even mine.

I STRONGLY feel like someone from my department said something to this guy. There are nearly 40 people in my department and about 15 to 17 of them are men. Of them, only 3 are openly gay (myself included).

I've never met, nor seen him; however, he CLEARLY knows of me. Which is very alarming. I feel like I'm being watched. I don't mean to sound paranoid, but this whole situation is crazy...

Thank you all for reading! I'll update if anymore events unfold.

 

[Unbothered Spongebob]

Hey everyone! I didn't expect to be back so soon, but there's a bit of an update... and it's one I'm not too proud of.

So, circling back to the guy who messaged me on Jack'd. He hit me up the other day asking me if I had spoken to my coworker about the threesome he wanted to have? I told him that I hadn't and that he should do it himself (considering the fact that he wants to make all of these demands, but WON'T tell me WHO told him that my coworker and I were dating).

So, he goes on to ask me if I could give his number to my coworker? I told him, "Sure... what is it?"

He didn't believe that I was being serious. So, I told him that I couldn't gatekeep a man that isn't mine.

He began back-peddling after he saw how serious and forward I was with my stance.

...he goes on to tell me that, "Next time you see him let me know, so I can give you my number to give to him."

Well, I ATTEMPTED to do that today... and it left me feeling a bit shameful. I allowed myself to be used by someone who was trying to with sleep my coworker THROUGH me. To my surprise, my coworker KNEW the guy that had messaged me (or at least. KNEW OF). My coworker asked me why did the guy want him to have his number? I told him, "because he likes you." I asked him, "So, do you want it?" he replied, "No." He also said some other things as well. His reaction to what I was telling him was not HOW I expected him to react. He was very firm and assertive with his rejections.

Afterwards, I noticed that my coworker kept swiftly glancing at me, as well as coming near me. The vibe (if you will) shifted DRASTICALLY after our conversation. I could feel this weird tense-ness. It was starting to scare me (I'm not going to lie).

At one point, I tried helping him with something he was carrying and he COMPLETELY ignored me! Maybe he didn't hear me. I don't know; however, that's when I really started feeling guilty.

I want to apologize to him...

 

[Citiboii]

Does anything happen? Or does it just stay and end toxic?

 

[Unbothered Spongebob]

Does anything happen? Or does it just stay and end toxic?

I'm not sure what you mean...

 

[Citiboii]

I'm not sure what you mean...

Lol Nevermind. I’ll wait for the next part!!! Hope something transpires between you and the DL guy.

 

[Unbothered Spongebob]

Lol Nevermind. I’ll wait for the next part!!! Hope something transpires between you and the DL guy.

I hope so too...