What’s the point tbh . The guys I like aren’t my preference nor do I really like them back in a romantic way. A lot of them just want sex or are too possessive or I just like as friends but it’s been a five to six year dry spell, life kinda sucks for me as it does alot . But at this point I’m almost completely over it . I can’t manifest, god doesn’t send anyone anymore , I am not to be loved. And it might be the best but ya boy is tired . Very tired. I can’t even beat depression and I’m on meds. I just wanna be cuddled with someone I like and be loved . It’s whatever though after all this I wish there was a way I could have a choice to “ go bye-bye”.
Don't be sad, my man. You'll get over this. Go listen some good music, play your favorite video game and eat your favorite food. Bad days stop at some point. Just don't give up.
halcyondays
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Oz never did give nothing to the Tin Man that he didn't already have. 
IOW stay in your heart. It will keep you.
IOW stay in your heart. It will keep you.
Southeasterner
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I agree with the comments above. I am single too, but I don't let that freeze me. Learn to enjoy your own company. Do activities that give you pleasure, exercise your body because this produces beneficial hormones that regulate your mood, and if you feel the need, ask for help and seek professional help. Please don't give up. Receive my prayers right now.
Hang in there! Life has a funny way of always revealing itself and things always happen the way they are meant to happen. Don’t lose hope! <3
Evenflow618
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You are fine dude stop that negative talk about yourself change your current perspective.
I would be discussing your feelings with your therapist and also ask if the meds they have chosen need changing or adjusting.
Southeasterner
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It´s a sensible comment.
Good luck! I pray for you. You are stronger than you think you are.
I didn't get married until I was 40. It takes as long as it takes.
At age 37, I've learnt to appreaciate hundreds of things. I have many passions in life and love is just one of them: animals, history, videogames, fashion, philosophy, art, traveling, food, work, learning, reading, movies, parties... If one's purpose would be restricted just to love life we would be so poor.
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There is ONE man in your life that you’re neglecting. And before I get tomatoes and used condoms thrown at me, it’s NOT the “big man upstairs”
The man I’m referring to is… well, it’s you. The relationship you have with yourself is the most beautiful thing you can have and is one of the most worthwhile relationships you can be invested in and always come back to regardless of what happens.
Trust me, I rolled my eyes the first time around when I heard that “relationship with yourself” “be invested in you.” In fact I can count the number of times I had friends tell me that my eyes were gonna fall out of my skull for how hard I was rolling them at said statements.
I had always been the type to jump into things because I thought of relationships as huge ass fire sales that once they’re gone, they’re gone for good mentality. Over time I never really understood why I felt like something was missing in my previous relationships and then it wasn’t until recently that I realized that the reason these didn’t work out was because the relationship I had in myself was lacking and therefore I couldn’t be fully invested as everyone else was.
Now that I’ve invested in myself and my relationship with myself, it’s a beautiful thing. Now I’m not cursing off all men, god no, and everyone whose reading this; if I do happen to retract this statement, please assume I’ve been kidnapped/abducted by aliens/use a shotgun on me/ etc. and I’m sure that one day, when the time is right, my Mr. Right will come along (that is AFTER he figures out that the door he’s trying to open to get to me is a PUSH door not a PULL one, lol) and I’ll bet my bottom dollar that when I meet him, the relationship will be like a perfect harmony and the Symphony Dolphins (IYKYK
) will jump out of the Lisa Frank ocean and all is well. And when that day comes it’ll be AMAZING. And while I let that day manifest itself to fruition, I’m gonna enjoy the relationship with myself to the fullest extent.
As the great Shakespearean Poet Beyonce once said; “Me, Myself, and I that’s all I got in the end that’s what I found out and it ain’t no need to cry I took a vow that from now on I’m gon’ be my own best friend” and yes I know that song is a breakup anthem but that part resonates with me so deeply. At the end, we really do have ourselves at the end of it all and the relationship we have with ourselves is the most substantial and most beautiful thing you can invest in!
The man I’m referring to is… well, it’s you. The relationship you have with yourself is the most beautiful thing you can have and is one of the most worthwhile relationships you can be invested in and always come back to regardless of what happens.
Trust me, I rolled my eyes the first time around when I heard that “relationship with yourself” “be invested in you.” In fact I can count the number of times I had friends tell me that my eyes were gonna fall out of my skull for how hard I was rolling them at said statements.
I had always been the type to jump into things because I thought of relationships as huge ass fire sales that once they’re gone, they’re gone for good mentality. Over time I never really understood why I felt like something was missing in my previous relationships and then it wasn’t until recently that I realized that the reason these didn’t work out was because the relationship I had in myself was lacking and therefore I couldn’t be fully invested as everyone else was.
Now that I’ve invested in myself and my relationship with myself, it’s a beautiful thing. Now I’m not cursing off all men, god no, and everyone whose reading this; if I do happen to retract this statement, please assume I’ve been kidnapped/abducted by aliens/use a shotgun on me/ etc. and I’m sure that one day, when the time is right, my Mr. Right will come along (that is AFTER he figures out that the door he’s trying to open to get to me is a PUSH door not a PULL one, lol) and I’ll bet my bottom dollar that when I meet him, the relationship will be like a perfect harmony and the Symphony Dolphins (IYKYK
) will jump out of the Lisa Frank ocean and all is well. And when that day comes it’ll be AMAZING. And while I let that day manifest itself to fruition, I’m gonna enjoy the relationship with myself to the fullest extent. As the great Shakespearean Poet Beyonce once said; “Me, Myself, and I that’s all I got in the end that’s what I found out and it ain’t no need to cry I took a vow that from now on I’m gon’ be my own best friend” and yes I know that song is a breakup anthem but that part resonates with me so deeply. At the end, we really do have ourselves at the end of it all and the relationship we have with ourselves is the most substantial and most beautiful thing you can invest in!
There's always next year. And the year after that.
You just never know when it will happen, but it usually does.
Having a companion can be awesome. Looking for one can get...disheartening. but as a elder gay of 37 I can tell you. If you go out during your day purposely looking for someone it rarely works out. It's not the most fun advice to hear, but taking care of yourself. Going out and being social with the knowledge that you are doing it because it's for your enjoyment. It works better. Doesn't guarantee a partner but it really works better.
Just going out looking for someone just doesn't work(in my expierence) but going out with friends or just a dinner party, or what ever. It draws people better
Just going out looking for someone just doesn't work(in my expierence) but going out with friends or just a dinner party, or what ever. It draws people better
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