wired of not, you are the one who mixing sexual preferences with skin colour from family tree.
Empathy doesnt define what you like in sex or expect from a partner who told you what he likes and then likes other thing afterall. Lines exist for a reason, and im not to strict because of my issues, people communicate by saying they like X, and im looking for X, then when we get along and stay togeher have sex several times, the person tells me they like X and Y and that I should like Y to satisty them? Im not the wrong one here. All my life i was a bottom, even when a Top tell me he is a top/versatile, I lose interest, because when I imagine a top taking in the ass it turns me off.