Just Found Out Al Parker Was Actually Bisexual; don't know how to feel

[Jeffer2580]

Bingo. I am usually the outlier with other bisexual guys I meet. In that I actively want a boyfriend.

Most other bisexuals I know personally (many of whom are closeted) lean towards relationships with women. When we hook up its usually just that, hooking up. Nothing more. And that's fine by me personally. If I get a boyfriend it will be an out and proud person preferably in a country with pro lgbt attitudes.

You and me both. In my life,I was always like "nah, boyfriends aren't for me" until I meant my first boyfriend although he was a transman and in the early stages of transitioning when we met and till date,he's still the only man I have ever been with as I couldn't be with a cis man because of my physical disgust of the male or masculine body,gay porn is super hot to me but when it comes to do the deed physically with a cis man,I can't as I puked the first and last time I was with a one (I owe that to the horrors and traumas I faced from conversion therapy in Nigeria though that made me feel nothing but disgust for the male form) but part of the reason I was closed to it was also the masculine and dominant over the submissive dynamic in same sex relationships,I have never been submissive before and I have always been curious about that dynamic in same sex relationships,like I see a same sex hypermasculine couple and I will just be wondering "how on earth does it work for them?","who cooks and cleans?", questions like these just pop into my head but I found out I was heteronormalizing same sex relationships which is why I couldn't see myself being romantic with a man. Fast forward to today,it's the exact opposite,I am beginning to even feel romantic towards men more and I want a boyfriend badly and a cis man at that,I want to submit to a man in all ramifications (first time i'm admitting this to myself as I associate submission with shame, feminity and weakness) and I want a man worthy of that submission

 

[alpha_centauri]

I understand that the romantic side for bisexual people can vary from person to person. But, I do feel weird about needing to apply a term for each 'feeling'. Like heteromantic, biromantic and homoromantic. In a dating setting where you're supposed to discuss your personality and feelings I just think there's a better way to express that you romantically prefer a specific gender rather than giving yourself another label. Idk, I can understand why ppl use the labels but at the same time it feels so robotic.

Like this for example, by categorising and labelling him as "an older kinsey-4" it's like you're talking about some kind of robot or object; turning him into some type of statistic rather than talking to him like an actual human being. There's something more human about saying "i'm bisexual but i prefer to date women" than saying "i'm a heteromantic bisexual". It's like we're turning dating into online shopping with small summaries of our entire feelings and emotions.

Exactly.

 

[alpha_centauri]

I've always heard that bisexual men or women were attracted more to the same sex. All I can say is Al Parker was one of the best looking men I ever saw. He had the perfect muscular, slender frame, mesmerizing face, best looking mustache I ever saw and the most perfect, ample cock. Best overall package ever.

Where did you "hear" that about bisexuals? We are all different and who we are attracted to changes for many of us.

??? He is Romanian or his grandparents were. He has a very typical very southern European/Balkan appearance it is not unique or special. It is very common in all of the Balkan/EX-Yugoslav countries, Albania, Croatia, Greece, the very Greek regions of Southern Italy such as Calabria, Campania, Sicily, etc. and in many very Ancient colonies in Western and even Northern Continental Europe that were Ancient Greek or Roman.

I have a physical appearance very similar to his, lean muscular build, very hairy body and face, and have a very long thick not cut cock and see myself every day. It is no big deal. I am glad I never did porn. I do not put pics on here as I have had people both in real life and online become obsessed and stalk me.

I have had many men and women get way too into my physical appearance when we are dating and just getting to know each other. I know they think it is a compliment and I thank them, but to me I am thinking 'Thanks for telling me you only want me for my body. I have heard this billions of times and if that is what you are mainly or only into me for, no thanks...'

 

[alpha_centauri]

I think it's exacly the opposite - surveys suggest most bisexual people are more into opposite gender and almost exclusively date opposite gender;
One survey found that 88% are in heterosexual relationship and 12% in same sex relationship ( only people who were/are surveyed were considered)
Another one found that 84% of bisexual men are in heterosexual relationships...

You cannot really expect anyone of any sexual orientation, sex, age, etc. to really be honest in surveys or polls. Oftentimes people lie, or put whatever the person who makes the poll or survey wants to find out via research. If they are conducted on the internet, many people go on and give inaccurate results or take the poll or survey when it is not designed for them. Also polls/surveys and the results can be easily changed, or manipulated. It is also like this for studies.

 

[Jeffer2580]

You cannot really expect anyone of any sexual orientation, sex, age, etc. to really be honest in surveys or polls. Oftentimes people lie, or put whatever the person who makes the poll or survey wants to find out via research. If they are conducted on the internet, many people go on and give inaccurate results or take the poll or survey when it is not designed for them. Also polls/surveys and the results can be easily changed, or manipulated. It is also like this for studies.

Heteroromantic bisexuals making the majority of bi people is basically facts because we live in an highly heteronormative world and there are more straights than gays. Basic sense should tell us that even without a survey

 

[bravesoldier]

Where did you "hear" that about bisexuals? We are all different and who we are attracted to changes for many of us.

??? He is Romanian or his grandparents were. He has a very typical very southern European/Balkan appearance it is not unique or special. It is very common in all of the Balkan/EX-Yugoslav countries, Albania, Croatia, Greece, the very Greek regions of Southern Italy such as Calabria, Campania, Sicily, etc. and in many very Ancient colonies in Western and even Northern Continental Europe that were Ancient Greek or Roman.

I have a physical appearance very similar to his, lean muscular build, very hairy body and face, and have a very long thick not cut cock and see myself every day. It is no big deal. I am glad I never did porn. I do not put pics on here as I have had people both in real life and online become obsessed and stalk me.

I have had many men and women get way too into my physical appearance when we are dating and just getting to know each other. I know they think it is a compliment and I thank them, but to me I am thinking 'Thanks for telling me you only want me for my body. I have heard this billions of times and if that is what you are mainly or only into me for, no thanks...'

Alright then.. You must have had several bad experiences, and I guess I'd classify at least part of what you described as a "good problem to have," as the latter could have been so much worse, at least to me. What I heard about bisexuals being mainly attracted to the same sex was random information I heard several times, and don't claim it to be absolute truth. It was just something I heard, figured it could be true, but don't label every bisexual in this way. It was only a statement. If I am wrong or it was offensive, my sincerest apologies..

But then again, my statement about bisexuals in this context had very little if nothing to do with your rant about people only wanting you for your physical appearance. Your experiences with people and your physical appearance had nothing to do with my sincere compliment to Al Parker on his looks and build, so no thanks for that rant.

Good day friend.

 

[Empirerec]

wait till y'all find out Daniel Radcliffe isn't really a wizard, Mark Hamill isn't really a Jedi and Leo wasn't really on the Titanic! It's gonna blow ya minds!

 

[tjh1204]

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Actually the religious hang-ups that Africans have about homosexuality were imported by the white men who colonized Africa and sent missionaries to convert the natives to Christianity. These missionaries even taught them how to have sex. How do you think the "missionary position" got its name?

Right! This is why it’s so important to know one’s history! Sexuality exists on a spectrum and has throughout time and across the animal kingdom. These notions of homophobia have changed and will continue to change. Simply because they’re accepted as immutable in certain geographical regions, doesn’t mean those beliefs are fundamental truths.

 

[alpha_centauri]

You and me both. In my life,I was always like "nah, boyfriends aren't for me" until I meant my first boyfriend although he was a transman and in the early stages of transitioning when we met and till date,he's still the only man I have ever been with as I couldn't be with a cis man because of my physical disgust of the male or masculine body,gay porn is super hot to me but when it comes to do the deed physically with a cis man,I can't as I puked the first and last time I was with a one (I owe that to the horrors and traumas I faced from conversion therapy in Nigeria though that made me feel nothing but disgust for the male form) but part of the reason I was closed to it was also the masculine and dominant over the submissive dynamic in same sex relationships,I have never been submissive before and I have always been curious about that dynamic in same sex relationships,like I see a same sex hypermasculine couple and I will just be wondering "how on earth does it work for them?","who cooks and cleans?", questions like these just pop into my head but I found out I was heteronormalizing same sex relationships which is why I couldn't see myself being romantic with a man. Fast forward to today,it's the exact opposite,I am beginning to even feel romantic towards men more and I want a boyfriend badly and a cis man at that,I want to submit to a man in all ramifications (first time i'm admitting this to myself as I associate submission with shame, feminity and weakness) and I want a man worthy of that submission

Why do you have disgust about men or the male body?

I don't have disgust or revulsion unless a man or woman is morbidly obese, anorexic, does not practise basic hygiene, chain smokes or vapes non-stop, is a hard drug addict that is the type that wants others to get addicted just like they are, is extremely strung out from drugs or lack of sleep, and not sorry the bareback porn with guys who have AIDS or are close to it all strung out on methamphetamine and having unsafe sex is a turn off.

Facial tattoos and piercings are not nasty to me. I have none and do not want any. I am from the time when only men in the military or ex military, prisoners/ex-convicts, criminals, and bikers or guys in motorcycle clubs had them.

IF you have anal sex with men or get into sex kinks such as submission use condoms avoid sex with anyone who wants it unsafe-I don't care if the guy or woman claims she or he is "neg" and on prep or shows just 1 recent test that at the time says she or he is neg, and be extremely picky and careful who you have anal sex with, don't swallow cum, and even more careful who you do bondage and discipline with.

 

[Jeffer2580]

Why do you have disgust about men or the male body?

I don't have disgust or revulsion unless a man or woman is morbidly obese, anorexic, does not practise basic hygiene, chain smokes or vapes non-stop, is a hard drug addict that is the type that wants others to get addicted just like they are, is extremely strung out from drugs or lack of sleep, and not sorry the bareback porn with guys who have AIDS or are close to it all strung out on methamphetamine and having unsafe sex is a turn off.

Facial tattoos and piercings are not nasty to me. I have none and do not want any. I am from the time when only men in the military or ex military, prisoners/ex-convicts, criminals, and bikers or guys in motorcycle clubs had them.

IF you have anal sex with men or get into sex kinks such as submission use condoms avoid sex with anyone who wants it unsafe-I don't care if the guy or woman claims she or he is "neg" and on prep or shows just 1 recent test that at the time says she or he is neg, and be extremely picky and careful who you have anal sex with, don't swallow cum, and even more careful who you do bondage and discipline with.

I went through an intense form of conversion therapy that was physically, mentally, spiritually and psychologically draining as a kid to teenager in my home country of Nigeria,I literally went through hell. Just imagine tying an 8 year old naked to a tree and whipping him with a whip that was soaked in pepper for hours under the rain while telling him to chant how much he hates the masculine body in my ethnic language as a ritual to get rid of that "homosexual spirit" and then when the sun comes up, pepper is put on your privates while you are still left naked under the sun to starve for three days, that's just a snippet of what I went through till my late teens and I wouldn't even pray for my enemy to experience something like that

Thanks for the sex ed dad lol.......but seriously, thanks............this is what I would've expected from the monster I call a father but it was the monster that orchestrated the whole thing

 

[Wallow]

Ok turning this conversation back to Al Parker. If anyone knew him personally did he date women during his career or after or men?

 

[8Cylinder]

Maybe African men actually living in Africa but there are a lot of black men in the US who are on the "down low" lol

I have a problem with this statement. Categorically, anyone of any race born in the United States of America is a US Citizen and American. Conversely, whites born in Africa are categorically African, and to deny this on any level is inherently racist. I personally see only people when I meet them, regardless of their skin, complicated identities, sexuality, pronouns, or rocket engineer complicated self-identified gender. Today's vogue is to attempt to confuse society and erase any sort of allegiance to turf... an insult to those of color who fought and lost their lives to allow you the freedom to post opinions of all forms here.

I'm an American living in Italy. I was not born here, and not a citizen of this country. Ahead I will become an Italian citizen... but I cannot imagine being regarded only as American had I been born here due to my parents' emigration from the US. Let's stop all the finger pointing.

 

[8Cylinder]

Have u realized there's a certain quality (i wouldn't describe it as hyper masculinity, it's just something special) that bisexuals have that 100% gay men just don't have?
Even if they are not really bi and just gay-for-pay or in real life they are just experimenting, it has happened to me... they behave sexually in a quite special way which makes them more appealing.

And yes, I do understand this is about Al Parker... but I can isolate what they do with men from what they do with bitches... the fact that he could fuck bitches really shouldn't bother u... he was so much of a man so why be selfish?

Al Parker and most men in porn of his era were very masculine. I am not alone whatsoever in being 100% gay and also completely masculine. For this I've been accused of playing a role, not owning up to my so-called gay identity, and sundry other tragic misconcepts which illustrate again the general sexual immaturity of American society.

Just allow people to be how and what they are, please. Is there no longer any freedom for working as you choose, where and how you choose without being hung out to dry? Seriously, this forum reads like a pious 1950's Christian Women's Abstinence Society. Horrid.

 

[tedmatel]

Ok turning this conversation back to Al Parker. If anyone knew him personally did he date women during his career or after or men?

He did before he met his first boyfriends. Then it as exclusively with men. After he started porn he only dated men and slept with women occasionally.

 

[KulaDangerous23]

Y'all are so biphobic

 

[tedmatel]

Y'all are so biphobic

Having read his biography wherein he says he stopped liking women I don’t think I’m being biphobic

 

[HeroSignalCosplay]

Having read his biography wherein he says he stopped liking women I don’t think I’m being biphobic

why did he stopped, did something happen or did he just like men more?

 

[BadMan125]

I don’t see the big deal here. Many prominent men in the LGBT community are bisexual. Maybe he preferred men but also loved women. Nothing wrong with that. He’s still a legend in our community and in gay porn. May he RIP.

 

[tedmatel]

why did he stopped, did something happen or did he just like men more?

He just said he realized he didn’t like women all that much and he didn’t want any part of them. It also says somewhere that he had to think of men and dicks when he used to have sex with women. Considering that his primary attraction is for men and that he only came out to his families and close friends as gay, not bi, meaning he doesn’t consider himself as bi. I mean here’s a man who’s sexual awakening was a man and who was obsessed with dicks and attracted to masculinity why would he continue to like women?

 

[tedmatel]

I don’t see the big deal here. Many prominent men in the LGBT community are bisexual. Maybe he preferred men but also loved women. Nothing wrong with that. He’s still a legend in our community and in gay porn. May he RIP.

It’s not maybe…. And he certainly did not consider himself a bisexual. And he also stopped loving and having sex with women.