Regarding the sexuality and asexuality comments. You can be ________ and ace. Varying interest in sex doesn’t necessarily impact who you’re attracted to. Asexuality is not on the same spectrum of gay<-pan->straight. For example, I’m gay and asexual, asexual being needed because many partners were confused by my different approach to sex. I think of asexuality as a ranking order for intimacy (physical, sexual, romantic, emotional, social, intellectual, etc.) when other forms of intimacy take precedent over (not abolish) sexual intimacy.