Locker room issues

[4kula]

Hello people, I need to ask u some advice for a lil situation I'm into.

I have started going to gym after having worked out at home for a lot of time, and I'd like to start having shower in the locker room, it would save time and I think it could make me more comfortable. My problem, is that being a 21 year old gay, I'm afraid I could get hard by looking at other guys walking around naked/in their underwear. Aaaand Idk, I guess that what happens in lockers remains in lockers but I fear it could be embarassing. Should I just conceal it and maybe wait to get inside the shower stall to jerk off my load? What do you suggest me to do?

 

[franen]

Unless you have an abnormal amount of testosterone, you will stop paying attention to other guys. Everyone does their own thing, most of them won't be to your liking, and of the ones you do like, most of them won't notice you. As long as you don't make anyone feel uncomfortable, do your thing. There are straight guys who get erections just from getting naked in public and it's not gay at all, nor do they want anything to do with a man. So just take a shower, and if you want to masturbate, you're not alone. It's normal.

 

[JohnGw]

I'm straight and I had the same fear when I started getting into nudism but it never happened, even though my erections tended to be instant when around my wife naked at home.
I have also never had unwanted erections when sharing open showers with very attractive women so I don't think you have anything to fear.

 

[4kula]

Unless you have an abnormal amount of testosterone, you will stop paying attention to other guys. Everyone does their own thing, most of them won't be to your liking, and of the ones you do like, most of them won't notice you. As long as you don't make anyone feel uncomfortable, do your thing. There are straight guys who get erections just from getting naked in public and it's not gay at all, nor do they want anything to do with a man. So just take a shower, and if you want to masturbate, you're not alone. It's normal.

Dw my testosterone is fine I think that more than that is also the nervousness of being among other naked guys that somehow could trigger and erection, but yeah I think that soon I could get used to it. I remember that when I was younger I used to automatically get an erection every time I went to bed wearing only underwear (weird, I know) and now that doesn't make me excited anymore. So probably it's going to be the same in this specific case; at worst, I can just rush to a shower and wear off my boxers inside there.
Thank u for your advice!

 

[Jakeyd]

When I first started going to open showers I used to get hard a few times, but once you get used to being naked with the other guys it becomes natural and feels normal to let your flaccid penis hang and sway you can just feel great displaying and seeing the other guys also enjoying it.

 

[dickbruh]

I’ve had boners in the locker room and communal showers. The worst that’s happened is a guy noticed, gave me a like :/ and then came up after to say “it is what it is”

 

[opinionman]

Hello people, I need to ask u some advice for a lil situation I'm into.

I have started going to gym after having worked out at home for a lot of time, and I'd like to start having shower in the locker room, it would save time and I think it could make me more comfortable. My problem, is that being a 21 year old gay, I'm afraid I could get hard by looking at other guys walking around naked/in their underwear. Aaaand Idk, I guess that what happens in lockers remains in lockers but I fear it could be embarassing. Should I just conceal it and maybe wait to get inside the shower stall to jerk off my load? What do you suggest me to do?

Scusami Ho studiato italiano molti anni fa, allora il mio italiano non è perfetto.
But I wanted to tell you about English, because your last sentence is a very common error in speakers whose native tongue is a Romance language.
In English we say "What do you suggest that I do?" Or "What do you think I should do?"

Thanks for being patient.
Don't worry about the locker room. If it's just a regular gym and you get a hard on, believe me, no one will comment. If they DO comment, you should have a response ready: Just laugh and say, "I know! That fucker has a mind of its own." The other guy will laugh at this too.

 

[kurt bishop]

Dw my testosterone is fine I think that more than that is also the nervousness of being among other naked guys that somehow could trigger and erection, but yeah I think that soon I could get used to it. I remember that when I was younger I used to automatically get an erection every time I went to bed wearing only underwear (weird, I know) and now that doesn't make me excited anymore. So probably it's going to be the same in this specific case; at worst, I can just rush to a shower and wear off my boxers inside there.
Thank u for your advice!

Buddy-
The truth IMO is that you will get hard if you view it as a sexual situtation.

I know shower scenes in movies are viewed as sexual, but if you are there for the right reason, and this is true in any real group shower environment is to take a shower.

If your there to see naked sexy men in the shower then you will be there for the wrong reason and see the entire situation as a sexual experience.

It wont belong that others will notice your sexual creepies and avoid you.
Im sure you have already seen the creapy guys who stare and follow you around.

Go in there and shower, do your business and get out.

Im not saying dont look at other dicks- we all do that.
Im saying its not a sexual situation treat it as that.

@JohnGw tried to explain when showering at home with his naked wife that is a sexual situation he gets hard.
But showering with a naked woman at a nudist resort is a non sexual situation because he is there to shower and not pick up chicks-
Or men in your case.
He is there because he likes being naked…..
and needs a shower!

 

[mako shark]

Just go about your business and it's very unlikely you will bone up. Of the 50+ years that I've spent in locker rooms there has only been one fella that I've ever seen get super excited over being with other boys

 

[jockbear]

At 21 years old, I spent about 3 months sharing communal showers (every day) with about 70 guys. As you are aware this is a very horny age group regardless of sexual preference who often get boners for no reason. I saw everyone and they saw me. I can only remember seeing one stiffy the entire summer. Dude was showering with a hard-on and acted as if nothing was wrong and nobody else made an issue of it. He went about his business and so did everyone else. If you have and unwanted erection simply own it and proceed with your normal shower routine. I DO NOT recommend that you masturbate or do anything else sexual in the locker room, that type of stimulation may only encourage unwanted erections.

 

[adude688]

I wouldn’t think too much of it if I was you, showering naked with other men is a very healthy thing to do, most likely you will not get an erection, or u might only get semi hard. But just by the chance u do get one, don’t be embarrassed, and if u do feel self conscious about it u can always just turn around and face the other side.

 

[Nik_name1]

Well, I might be an exception because in my 20s I got an erection everytime I saw a naked man, regardless if I liked him or he disguised me. Now in my mid 30s I still get an erection, but usually semi-hard and only very hard if the guy is sexy. I always hide my erection as well as I can with towel or in the shower until it goes away.

 

[Lallallero]

Ciao, all’inizio il pensiero di avere un’erezione negli spogliatoi o durante le docce può indurre ad averla. Tu devi pensare oltre, alla normalità di lavarsi e di riposare dopo aver faticato. Poi un cazzo barzotto può succedere, siamo umani. Poi certo se la prima cosa che cerchi in uno spogliatoio è vedere un altro cazzo, cruising ecc allora te la cerchi ahah

 

[opinionman]

Well, I might be an exception because in my 20s I got an erection everytime I saw a naked man, regardless if I liked him or he disguised me. Now in my mid 30s I still get an erection, but usually semi-hard and only very hard if the guy is sexy. I always hide my erection as well as I can with towel or in the shower until it goes away.

Makes sense... and yet you needn't do that if you don't want to. I can't imagine adult men saying ANYTHING to a stranger in a gym locker room about his erection. I'm sure they'd just ignore it.
The best response in the unlikely case that some guy DOES remark is to grin and say, 'Yeah, it's got a mind of its own."

 

[nakedkit]

I agree with a lot of the posts here. Coming from experience, if you're minding your own business, no one really minds.
Locker rooms became eventually normalized for me the more I used them. Not to mention, at least where I go, the vast majority of people in the locker room are old, overweight men.

 

[opinionman]

I agree with a lot of the posts here. Coming from experience, if you're minding your own business, no one really minds.
Locker rooms became eventually normalized for me the more I used them. Not to mention, at least where I go, the vast majority of people in the locker room are old, overweight men.

Yes, and I have some empathy and sympathy for them. Many of them were either athletes in their youth and cannot hold on to that era, or maybe some of them were never jocks and never experienced that kind of social power, and so they hang out in the locker room in an attempt recreate that experience psychologically. I always let older guys have a nice long look at me in my jock or naked. I feel like I'm just helping out the brotherhood. I do the same thing at jackoff clubs, where I'll sometimes beat off an old, out of shape dude till he cums just to be nice.

 

[Jakeyd]

Yes, and I have some empathy and sympathy for them. Many of them were either athletes in their youth and cannot hold on to that era, or maybe some of them were never jocks and never experienced that kind of social power, and so they hang out in the locker room in an attempt recreate that experience psychologically. I always let older guys have a nice long look at me in my jock or naked. I feel like I'm just helping out the brotherhood. I do the same thing at jackoff clubs, where I'll sometimes beat off an old, out of shape dude till he cums just to be nice.

It's great because it shows us we can carry on being naked with other men and jacking off with other men for decades to come!

 

[bright3]

To share my experience- I am 39, and having grown up and lived in India till age 33 , where there were largely no locker rooms as part of the culture, and even where they were , everyone would be doing towel dances, I totally understand the anxiety. My first experience was more than 10 yrs ago in London, UK, where suddenly I was in a pool change room with everyone around naked, few hotties too. I was super scared initially so that kept my flagpost down, but was still super scared, and would hide myself promptly if I felt a stiffness taking over. Even in Canada where I live now, South Asians are very coy, and my current pool changing area in Vancouver, I do feel the erection coming up once in a while when there is a “my type” (uncut, slim/fit) around me. I crank the shower setting to cold to immediately kill my upcoming boner, if it is happening in the shower which has no partitions, and if in the drying area, I just face the wall and /or strategically cover up angles to make sure that no one gets a view (unless I want them to). I have definitely felt other men (almost all not my type) check me out, and I have definitely checked out a few for more than a few seconds/glances too. Nothing ever happened eventually. I guess everyone is curious about other guys’ sizes. I have definitely noticed men specifically look in the direction of other penises too, specially if someone has unexpected attributes, both in the showers and in the drying area. I never had a full fledged erection, nor do I plan to creep anyone out, specially since the occasional kids are around at times too, which is when I use my towel. My assumption about others checking me out is because since I am brown, they’d assume I must be a Muslim , so cut, but I am not, or maybe as my dick is a bit too dark compared to the rest of my body so that too may be inviting stares. But now, being naked there, specially in the showers with hardly any cover, doesn’t bother me or lead to erections or semis coming up as often as they used to. Give yourself time, you will be fine. And you can always use the towel, breathe and just sit and relax, let the locker room get let busy, etc, to kill your boner if you feel one coming up. No one will protest if you go in a cubicle and change, which is also what men of all cultures do in Vancouver at least.

 

[opinionman]

To share my experience- I am 39, and having grown up and lived in India till age 33 , where there were largely no locker rooms as part of the culture, and even where they were , everyone would be doing towel dances, I totally understand the anxiety. My first experience was more than 10 yrs ago in London, UK, where suddenly I was in a pool change room with everyone around naked, few hotties too. I was super scared initially so that kept my flagpost down, but was still super scared, and would hide myself promptly if I felt a stiffness taking over. Even in Canada where I live now, South Asians are very coy, and my current pool changing area in Vancouver, I do feel the erection coming up once in a while when there is a “my type” (uncut, slim/fit) around me. I crank the shower setting to cold to immediately kill my upcoming boner, if it is happening in the shower which has no partitions, and if in the drying area, I just face the wall and /or strategically cover up angles to make sure that no one gets a view (unless I want them to). I have definitely felt other men (almost all not my type) check me out, and I have definitely checked out a few for more than a few seconds/glances too. Nothing ever happened eventually. I guess everyone is curious about other guys’ sizes. I have definitely noticed men specifically look in the direction of other penises too, specially if someone has unexpected attributes, both in the showers and in the drying area. I never had a full fledged erection, nor do I plan to creep anyone out, specially since the occasional kids are around at times too, which is when I use my towel. My assumption about others checking me out is because since I am brown, they’d assume I must be a Muslim , so cut, but I am not, or maybe as my dick is a bit too dark compared to the rest of my body so that too may be inviting stares. But now, being naked there, specially in the showers with hardly any cover, doesn’t bother me or lead to erections or semis coming up as often as they used to. Give yourself time, you will be fine. And you can always use the towel, breathe and just sit and relax, let the locker room get let busy, etc, to kill your boner if you feel one coming up. No one will protest if you go in a cubicle and change, which is also what men of all cultures do in Vancouver at least.

Wow. I think it's awful that you had so many fearful attitudes inculcated in you when you were growing up. I just don't get cultures where men are petrified (no pun intended....as in petrified wood) to see others naked or have other men see them. thank God for countries where such attitudes aren't so extreme. There are plenty of shy Americans, but perhaps they're a little more open to it. They certainly USED to be. no one every did a towel dance when I was in school; it would have been unthinkable.
I was part of a health club in suburban Vancouver this year. 95% of the men who stripped to shower were Asian. My impression was that they thought it normal that men be naked with other men. I've seen that before with Japanese men, who don't think twice about it. So complex!

 

[adude688]

I think it basically comes down to what men are used to. Men from Places where communal showers and open locker rooms are the norm will have no issue with nudity in those areas, where as men from places with cubicles will be less willing to bare it all. Although I always felt that most men are open to it but are too self conscious about being the only naked man in the room.