Looking for some confidence advice

[manghoesbx]

Hey . So, I’m a 23 year old from the UK, and to cut a long story short, i’m a virgin.

I’m not the most attractive but I wouldn’t say I’m unattractive either. But the problem is, I went through so many years of bullying (used to be overweight/very camp/etc.), that even today I have so much body dysmorphia and social anxiety.

I’m only 11 stone now and i’m quite tall, but I’ve never had the confidence to date or do anything. I’m desperate to find a guy out there, but the thought of kissing a someone let alone having sex scares the absolute sh!t out of me.

I just don’t want to keep living this way. I’m not asexual by any means, but I just don’t have the confidence. I feel so behind not dating anyone my entire life.

Does anyone have any advice? I’ll humbly take anything I can get if it’ll help me get out of this lonely hole I’m in lmfao

 

[baxi777]

Hey . So, I’m a 23 year old from the UK, and to cut a long story short, i’m a virgin.

I’m not the most attractive but I wouldn’t say I’m unattractive either. But the problem is, I went through so many years of bullying (used to be overweight/very camp/etc.), that even today I have so much body dysmorphia and social anxiety.

I’m only 11 stone now and i’m quite tall, but I’ve never had the confidence to date or do anything. I’m desperate to find a guy out there, but the thought of kissing a someone let alone having sex scares the absolute sh!t out of me.

I just don’t want to keep living this way. I’m not asexual by any means, but I just don’t have the confidence. I feel so behind not dating anyone my entire life.

Does anyone have any advice? I’ll humbly take anything I can get if it’ll help me get out of this lonely hole I’m in lmfao

Any time DM me.
I can totally relate to you.

 

[Rooker]

Everyone develops at different rates, especially socially and emotionally. Sexual activity is not a marker of success. I know that sounds like empty encouragement. You have to love yourself. I’m a straight male, and having sex with the wrong people is easy. I imagine it’s tough in some respects for homosexuals with not knowing of other guys are gay as well, but I do believe people wear anxiety on their sleeves.

I’ll say this, there have probably been guys that have seen you and were interested but for whatever reason didn’t approach you. I’ve never really lacked confidence, but I’ve seen women and didn’t know what to say,

Send me a message if you need someone to vent to. Life is beautiful, and I want everyone to live it that way.

 

[baxi777]

The phrase "having sex with the wrong people is easy" surprises me.

 

[Rooker]

“Easy” in terms of finding it. Not necessarily in enjoying it or dealing with the consequences. I generally think that if someone with good hygiene and base-level courtesy is struggling to find sexual partners, maybe it’s a good thing. Maybe their brain is holding them back because they want a more substantial connection.