Loopster86
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MY mom called me downstairs a couple of days ago and said "Brad from when you started doing social media to now it seems you really started to come out of your shell and be more open. With this im able to see more of your personality and seeing you at home I just want to ask you if you are gay? She said "Ill support you if you are bi or gay or whatever you are but I'm just wondering if you like girls?".
That's my mom speaking who I spent decades with.
The rest of what he said above is quite right women dont like me and men ridicule me. The amount of DMs I got from other bi men after the Art interview was insane. All of them thanking me for speaking out some that it is okay to be bi because most people yell and complain to them just like many in this form.
Also random lol but quite a few of yall are well-read and punctual in writing. I like it
Have a good day, love you
Being bi myself I really felt this spoke to me as well.
I have this belief that while we all fall on a spectrum, we do prefer one over the other, in a relationship, for the most part.
Personally I prefer men in that particular constellation, but I have been with women as well - in that way - and have enjoyed being with them as well.
I think that a lot of the speculation comes from the human need to have someone you like on "your team". That's why we often choose to find arguments and (proof) to show that we are in the right. But self deceit never really ever gets us to a healthy place, mentally.
I think it also has to do with the phenomenon of gay baiting being so prevalent in adult entertaiment, esp. that aimed towards gay men. There is a sense of feeling like you're being used to enrich deceptive people, who could not give a damn about you, or your cause, only being interested in squeezing our every dime from you. So I think many have a need to figure out who they are supporting. I get that. I myself, prefer to support honest people.
I hope you find your place, in all this chaos we call sexuality, and that you find your happiness.
Sorry for the lengthy answer. Hehe